Many people hope to have a sincere relationship, be loved and they also love him (her). This can be said to be the full fantasy of every person who is just beginning to fall in love.
However, every relationship can be romantic when you first start dating, and it can be as beautiful as you want. However, no matter how beautiful or romantic the relationship is, it needs material support.
Love without steamed buns is destined to go long, which is also the real reason why many people can love each other but cannot stay together.
Between feelings and reality, some women are more rational. They know what they want, or they know how to make a choice.
It is precisely because of this rationality that they live more depressing and painfully, because the person who makes the choice is her. On the surface, they have the right to choose, but in fact they are surrounded by life and actively giving up something very important to them.
Even if they were in pain, they could only be forced to move forward. Just like the woman below, breaking up hurts like cutting flesh, but she still made a choice.
Coordinates in Guangdong, a woman shared with netizens the video of her best friend breaking up and crying after giving up a relationship.
In the picture, a woman was crying uncontrollably, and she could feel her pain through the screen, her helplessness that she had nowhere to vent.
What is the reason for her to be so painful?
It turned out that she was heartbroken. Although she was the one who took the initiative to break up, she was sadder than the one who was broken up.
The reason is not that the other party is not good enough as ordinary people say, nor that the other party betrayed her. On the contrary, they are clearly in love with each other, but they cannot continue to move on.
What prevents them from continuing to move on is the pressure in real life, the inability to guarantee life, or the future.
The woman said she is already 30 years old. Most of her peers already have families and children at this age, and she also wants to have a warm home.
However, when she took the initiative to discuss marriage with her boyfriend, her boyfriend was silent.
In fact, she also knew that based on the current financial conditions of her and her boyfriend, getting married is an unrealistic thing, because they are all ordinary employees, neither have the strength nor the family background, and they even rent a house.
However, she really couldn't wait any longer. Thinking of the sad face on her parents' faces and her growing older age, she once again made a painful choice for both of them: let her boyfriend go and let herself go.
She thought she would be strong, but in fact she was not strong at all. She was so heartbroken that she could hardly breathe. Even if her best friend kept accompanying her and comforting her, she still felt very painful.
She didn't know if she would regret it in the future, but at this moment she wanted to say: Don't say I was cruel, I was also very kind in the past.
Seeing this, some netizens said: When you are in love, you say "love is full of water". When you get married and have children, you will realize that it is just a self-touching. No matter how much love you have, it cannot beat the food, food, oil and salt.
Some netizens said: I am 30 years old, so I can’t be willful anymore. It’s time to think about getting married, especially women. They can’t afford to spend time and get old in just a few years. Marriage is a big event for a lifetime. If a marriage is just love, it is far from enough, and material things are needed. Only in this way can the two people live a happy life.
Author's opinion:
At the age of 30, the age group has passed the age of dreaming, and it can even be said that it no longer dreams and has become very realistic.
If you choose between love and bread, ninety-nine percent of people will choose the latter.
In fact, it is not that they do not believe in love, but that love is no longer a necessity for them, and it can even be said that it doesn’t matter whether there is love or not.
After all, love is a luxury for most people. You can live without it, but bread is different. It is a necessity of life.
Many people may say that women are too materialistic, but in today's society, there is no need to spend money in real life. In the face of reality, no matter how many "I love you" there are, they will seem pale and powerless.
Therefore, when you can make a choice, it is not snobbery, but wise, because even if you force yourself together, it can be predicted that it will only be a mess.
Instead of everyone living a bad life, it is better to let each other find their own happiness. This is the greatest responsibility for yourself and each other.
