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Leo Tolstoy said: "If a girl wants to marry a rich man, it is not love. Property is the most insignificant thing. Only by being able to withstand the pain of separation is true love."
In reality, there are many women who are too realistic about love. They blindly pursue money and material things, and they do not hesitate to raise the standards for choosing a spouse, which has brought great obstacles to the road of marriage and love.
Especially some older single women, they feel that they have high-quality conditions and will put forward higher requirements when looking for a partner to satisfy their inner vanity.
In the eyes of these women, they have high education, certain economic foundation, rich reading skills, and strong social skills. Therefore, they look forward to finding a matching man to get a happy life.
Therefore, they will not marry themselves, and will never easily marry themselves before meeting a truly high-quality man.
Even if they become older single women, they will not change their decisions, so that they have been on blind dates for many years, but no one cares about them, and gradually lose their advantage in marriage and love.
This is the case with my friend Ms. Yi. She is 38 years old this year, beautiful and tall. She graduated from graduate school, has a decent job, and has a monthly salary of 30,000 yuan.
In the eyes of others, she is an exquisite woman, she has a high quality of life and a romantic life. Therefore, she has higher requirements for her partner than others.
Ms. Yi said that the partner she wants to find needs to meet the following three standards: a monthly salary of 50,000 yuan, a moderate appearance, and will not interfere with her work after marriage.
In response to this, Ms. Yi explained that she has good financial conditions and needs to find a man who resonates with her. If she is married at a low level, she will definitely not be able to do it.
She feels that although she is old, she is also an exquisite woman and is very outstanding. It is normal to find a man who is equally excellent.
However, my family does not agree with Miss Yi’s standards for choosing a spouse. My family thinks that at this age, it’s good to get married, and they don’t understand her.
However, Miss Yi did not blame her family either. After all, she was very considerate of her parents and didn't want them to worry too much.
So, she also accepted the urge from her family to get married and went to a blind date, hoping to find a truly high-quality man.
However, Miss Yi had been on a blind date for three years but failed. Almost all the men in the blind date market could not meet her requirements, which disappointed her.
Because Miss Yi had talked about three ex-boyfriends before, and their minimum monthly salary was 10,000 yuan. If she easily accepted a blind date, it would be equivalent to slapping her in the face, and she could not accept it.
In her opinion, her future partner will not be able to earn 50,000 yuan a month, but it must not be lower than the ex's standards, otherwise she will really feel that she has no self-esteem.
So, Ms. Yi has always adhered to her marriage standards and must find a man who matches her various conditions.
Later, the matchmaker arranged a blind date for Miss Yi and told Miss Yi that the man had good conditions and let her seize the opportunity.
So, with a serious blind date, Ms. Yi met the blind date man. The man was only a bachelor's degree with a monthly salary of more than 20,000 yuan, and her appearance was a little worse.
However, Miss Yi felt that since she met, she might as well have a deeper understanding. So, the two of them chatted for a while.
Ms. Yi asked straight to the point: "Your monthly salary is only 20,000, but you didn't meet my requirements, but we can find out." The man was a little incredible when he heard this, so he asked: "Is it still less for a monthly salary of 20,000? Then tell me your marriage requirements."
Ms. Yi said slowly: "My requirement is that the man's monthly salary must reach 50,000, and you are still far from it. Moreover, after getting married, the man cannot interfere in my work, and he needs to separate financially."
The man was embarrassed for a moment, but he still asked politely: "I feel that your requirements are really high. It seems that you are an older single woman, why do you still make such requests? "
As soon as this said, Miss Yi got angry instantly. She felt that the man was too disrespectful to her. So what about the older single woman? She has high-quality conditions. Is it wrong to make the request?
So, Ms. Yi said bluntly: "What's wrong with me being an older single woman? You have a monthly salary of more than me, and you don't look good. What qualifications do you have to blame me and deserve to be single. "
The man explained embarrassedly: "I am not blaming you, but I feel that you are at this age. You still have to see the reality clearly. It is almost impossible to find a man with a monthly salary of 50,000 yuan. Don't delay getting married. "
Miss Yi was unhappy when she heard this and retorted: "So, do we women have to pay for it? We don't like men like you who want to marry for nothing. "
The man's face began to change after hearing her words, and he felt very hurtful of his self-esteem, so he asked: "You are too arrogant. Since you have raised such high requirements, I ask you, are you still original? "
As soon as the man finished speaking, Miss Yi suddenly fell asleep. felt that he had poked the pain in his mouth. She felt that this man really disrespectful to women.
Apart from embarrassment, she angrily picked up the cup, poured water on him, spilling his face.
The man wanted to say something, but Miss Yi got up and left. Before leaving, she said, "A man like you deserves to be a bachelor for the rest of his life. "
Just like that, the blind date broke out unhappily, and both sides were very frustrated.
Ms. Yi was really angry and very sad after she went back. She really didn't understand why the man said that.
Although she had had several boyfriends before, she was not casual about her relationship, but was not a good person. , Can she blame her?
Moreover, after she met a blind date boy, felt that men were very macho and always required women to be complete. Why?
Ms. Yi thought about these things and her mood became worse, and she became more and more repulsive of blind dates. She really didn't want to meet that kind of weird man again.
Nowadays, although she longed to get married, she didn't force her. If she met fate, she would cherish it, but if she didn't meet a suitable man, she could face it calmly and let it go.
But after dozens of blind dates, she felt that men value women's age and birth too much Education and whether it is complete, this has further damaged confidence.
Ms. Yi said that her high-quality leftover woman was criticized by blind date men for being unreasonably. She is really disappointed. What is the future path of marriage and love? Everything is left to fate.
Ye Feifei yff emotional message:
Ms. Yi's case is actually a microcosm of reality.
Many older leftover women put forward various requirements when choosing a spouse. If a man cannot meet it, they will not compromise.
However, they may have ignored one thing, that is, men value it. What is reality is whether you can live a smooth life.
In their opinion, women are good-looking and cannot be used as vases. Even if other conditions are of high quality, they cannot have children, and no one wants to take risks.
shows that when choosing a spouse, men and women have essential differences in thinking. Different purposes, and naturally they show different behaviors.
For high-quality leftover women, they need to find the same high-quality men, but for high-quality men, they may not necessarily find the high-quality leftover women. This is the contradiction.
To put it bluntly, a truly high-quality man will definitely find the younger girls. The main reference indicator is Age and childbirth conditions of a woman.
That is to say, no matter how good the conditions of a woman is, if age and childbirth are not advantageous, it is worthless in the eyes of men. This is the cruel reality in marriage and love.
Therefore, I would like to remind some older leftover women to see the reality and recognize themselves, so as not to blindly adhere to the standards of choosing a spouse, miss the fate, and delay the rest of their lives.
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