text丨Tao Xiaojing
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-01-
The development of a relationship will often be impacted by two aspects, one comes from these two people in the relationship, and the other comes from third parties outside the relationship.
If it is just a problem for two people, there is still room for reversal, but if there is a third party's intervention, everything will become very complicated.
The world of love can only accommodate two people, and one more person will feel crowded.
But in real life, many people's feelings are indeed impacted by third parties.
This is not what everyone wants to see, but how to avoid it, many people have not found a solution.
The reason why a relationship is impacted by a third person is obviously because there are problems with the relationship between the two parties. Only by starting from the business method can we effectively avoid it.
-02-
Business of relationships is something that everyone should work hard to do. If even business problems occur, the development of relationships will inevitably be affected.
Just, you must also be strategic in managing your relationships, and you cannot do whatever you want.
Facts have proved that no matter whether it is a couple or a lover, if you achieve "deep satisfaction", others will not be able to interfere.
The so-called "deep satisfaction" is simply to combine the other party's actual needs and satisfy the other party as much as possible.
A solid city wall can be built with satisfaction so that the feelings between two people can continue to develop steadily.
I remember someone said: "The so-called happiness means that desire is satisfied."
When both of them are satisfied with desire in their relationship, who else can intervene?
Therefore, learning to "deep satisfaction" is the best management of feelings.
-03-
Although each person’s needs are different, they can be divided into three categories of needs: spiritual needs, emotional needs, and physiological needs.
Two people are together. Only when these three types of needs are deeply satisfied can others not interfere.
Deeply meets spiritual needs
Everyone has spiritual needs, which is also the reason why everyone is obsessed with finding a soul mate.
Whether it is a couple or a lover, only when the spiritual needs are deeply satisfied can the hearts of the two people be closely linked.
The deep satisfaction of spiritual needs is not easily defeated by the third person. No matter how hard this person works, he cannot separate the two people he loves deeply.
If two people want to develop for a long time, they need to start from each other's spiritual needs and achieve deep satisfaction as much as possible. What kind of spiritual needs are exactly what
? It still needs to be understood by two people in communication. First understand and then satisfy each other with what they like, the relationship between the two will often be better.
Deeply meet emotional needs
The most important thing in the development of emotions depends on whether the emotional needs are met. Only when emotional needs are met can emotions develop steadily.
The fundamental purpose of everyone pursuing love is actually to get satisfaction in their emotions.
But in many cases, people ignore their partner's emotional needs and instead pursue the satisfaction of their own needs.
This kind of practice that only cares about oneself is not conducive to the development of emotions. If this continues, even if there is no third party's intervention, the relationship will be broken.
The satisfaction of emotional needs will promote the development of feelings. Whether it is a couple or a lover, they should start from the other party’s emotional needs and satisfy the other party to their preferences.
A person’s emotional needs are nothing more than the demand for companionship, loyalty, understanding and other things. Only two people can think about each other as much as possible, and it is easy to achieve deep satisfaction of emotional needs.
Deeply meet physiological needs
When it comes to physiological needs, many people may find it vulgar, but it has to be said that physiological needs are crucial.
A person cannot get physical needs in his relationship, so he is likely to be attracted by people outside of his relationship and thus betrayal of his relationship.
So, don’t think that your physiological needs are vulgar, it is actually the fundamental needs of people.
Whether it is a couple or a lover, only when you are deeply satisfied with your physiological needs can you continue for a longer time.
Many emotions are broken, often because physiological needs are not met. If you are not satisfied for a long time, no matter how good the relationship between the two people is, you will be easily affected by external shocks.
If two people want to go further together, don’t be ashamed to express their physiological needs, and don’t ignore the other’s physiological needs.
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The satisfaction of needs is the basis for emotional development. Deeply meeting the needs of each other is the foundation for working together.
If a person’s needs have never been met, then no matter how deep the love is, it will only end up in a parting way.
Whether it is a couple or a lover, you should pay more attention to these three needs of both parties.
Starting from the needs and satisfying the other party as much as possible, the relationship between the two people will be better.
Good emotional relationships are not so easy to be broken up. As long as both of them achieve "deep satisfaction", no one can interfere in this relationship.
