people should learn to make a living when they become adults, instead of continuing to seek help from their parents, especially money like blood sucking worms. My parents are old, their energy is not as good as before, and they earn less and less money.
At this time, we should be more considerate of our parents and understand their difficulties. Don’t think that they have given birth to us, and we must be responsible for raising you for the rest of our lives. This is unrealistic. One day, your parents will leave the world. When they leave, you can only rely on yourself. If you can't rely on yourself, it will be difficult for you to gain a foothold in society, and it will be difficult to solve the problem of food and clothing.
The sorrow of a family is not poverty, but the beginning of children asking their parents for money. Such children are unfilial and selfish and greedy, so they must avoid it in time.
1, raise unfilial children
Once read a news that a father in Shanghai finally sent his daughter to Spain to study abroad, and everyone gave him 10,000 yuan in living expenses. This living expenses are not a lot, enough to meet the monthly living expenses. However, this girl thought her father had given her less money, so she shared this matter online.
In addition, her father knew that her daughter spent the money in her credit card, so he asked her what she had done with the money. Unexpectedly, the girl did not understand her father. After scolding her father, she also posted a screenshot of the chat in the group, allowing others to rape her father online.
For this reason, the father and daughter deleted WeChat and broke off contact like enemies.
frankly, it is better to not have such a daughter. She has such a bad attitude towards her father and even abused her father with others. In fact, it is not difficult to see that this girl has grown up with her parents' spoiled since she was a child. Her parents will give her whatever she wants. Over time, when her desires are not satisfied, she will lose the gratitude that she must be at least.
For many people, it is true that raising daughters is rich, but if the family income is not very high, it is easy to raise selfish and greedy people if they still have no bottom line. Because they cannot see their parents' efforts to them, and even feel that if their parents give birth to us, they will raise us for the rest of their lives. With this concept, such people often have no concept of right and wrong. Once your parents disobey you, you will easily get angry and even do things that hurt your parents.
In a family, we must understand that raising a daughter is not materially rich, but spiritually rich. Only by helping them establish a correct view of the three views can they have the ability to be independent in the future, and this will also prevent a family from being too sad.
2, 3 Raising exquisite self-interested children
The sorrow of a family starts with raising exquisite self-interested children. The so-called refined self-interest is a person whose activities are centered on self-interest. In their eyes, they only have themselves, they have a relatively high pursuit of life, and their own abilities cannot match them. Over time, they will push themselves into the abyss.
Some time ago, I saw a news that a father in Shanghai killed his daughter. When I learned about the whole process of this incident, I couldn't help but feel a little sad.
Her daughter's monthly salary is only more than 3,000 yuan, and she is still in a big city like Shanghai. More than 3,000 yuan can only meet the needs of life. However, since her daughter became addicted to online shopping, she has been out of control. At first, it was fine, but she bought less, and gradually, she began to swipe her credit card. After her father found out, he took out all his savings to help his daughter pay off her debts. What he didn't expect was that her daughter still had a steady stream of debts to pay, and these debts were like a bottomless pit.
eventually overwhelmed the father. A few days ago, he had an argument with his daughter and accidentally killed her, and he was sentenced to prison for this.
After watching it, I felt that this father was really sad. His daughter was unfilial and had a strong vanity, and he eventually ruined his life. The sorrow of a family is really not from poverty, but because of the unfilial children and self-interestedness. They only have themselves in their eyes, but ignore their parents, which has caused all kinds of tragedies.
So, in a family, you don’t have to give your children the best as a parent, but you can give them the best love and the best care, so that you can raise children with positive values and kindness.
