Marriage is a mutual love and emphasizes equality. I don’t think anyone suffers or benefits. If you can be petty about marriage, then such a marriage will be difficult to be happy for a long time.
29-year-old second-marriage woman marrys a 35-year-old first-marriage man. If you have to argue that one loses and takes advantage of it, I think everyone has their own advantages and their own disadvantages.
First of all, from the perspective of age, it is obvious that women will suffer a little, after all, men are six years older than her. Marriage emphasizes matching, and the age gap should not be too large. Of course, the age gap between 29 and 35 years old is acceptable, and there is no way to suffer a loss.
Secondly, from the perspective of marriage history, it is obvious that men suffer a little loss. After all, women have a marriage history, and men are still the first marriage. As society is developing, people's thoughts are no longer corrupt and outdated. As long as they are in love and feel together, even if they have a marriage history, they should not be an obstacle to their marriage. What's more, today's society is free of marriage, and no one has the right to force you to get married. If you don't want to feel at a loss, then you don't make a choice. Since you choose, don't worry about who suffers and who takes advantage of it.
Putting aside age and marriage history, if a man has superior financial conditions and good character, and a woman has very average conditions, then a man will obviously suffer a loss. Conversely, the same is true. If a woman has excellent conditions in all aspects and a man is very average, then a woman will suffer a loss.
There is no fate for no reason. Since a 29-year-old woman can marry a 35-year-old man, it must be that a man has the advantage of attracting women. A 35-year-old man can marry a second-marriage woman, then this woman must be excellent, one is willing to marry and the other is willing to marry. Since we have reached the point of marriage, if we still care about who suffers, I think that would be inappropriate.
Marriage is not a business, it is all about lovers who finally get married. Since you are in love, don’t focus on other people’s shortcomings, focus more on the other person’s strengths, don’t be influenced by those pedantic ideas, and don’t choose a spouse with a business attitude. Keeping a calm mind and facing life actively is the best choice.
A good marriage does not depend on the age difference or whether there is a marriage history. When fate comes, nothing can be stopped. You care too much about these things outside of marriage, so that these factors become a problem in your heart, and always feel like a harsh on your back and a thorn in your throat. Then how can you manage a good marriage and how can you control your relationship well? Because of these, it is a bit unworthy of the loss to ruin a marriage that should have been happy.
If you are really a little confused, women think men are older and men think women are second marriages, then you can relax your horizons and see in real life, there are many marriages with big age gaps, and there are many people who go to second marriages. People can be happy for a long time, so why are you still worried about it? If you think about these situations clearly and still can’t think it’s better, I think there is no need to come together and get together and get along well, and be at peace with each other. Why bother to make things difficult for yourself? Always feel that you are at a disadvantage?
