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After reading a sentence, I felt it was very real and said:
"A friend after marriage is no longer a friend of the past. A man's soul now involves some women's souls."
To friends and relatives, only half of a man left a married man.
He can no longer act completely according to his will, thoughts and emotions, because he will inevitably be influenced by the person next to him. Over time, even his thoughts will undergo earth-shaking changes. Although after marriage, our focus will shift accordingly.
So getting married is a brand new beginning in life. For friends, you can’t count the past, get along again, and the future is unknown.
A good friend is definitely inseparable from the credit of his family. He advises him not to care about everything and teaches him to be in accordance with the rules in his work. At least, it can support and understand him. What does this support and understanding of
mean? No need to dry the rack after returning home.
For example, if a generous treat is not understood and supported by his wife, then after returning home, he will definitely be attacked by his wife. Those words "you are rich", "pretending to be a wealthy person", "why others don't treat you" come out. It doesn't make sense or speak thoroughly. I'm speechless and depressed immediately. If my wife continues to insist on resigning, then a quarrel will inevitably be inevitable.
In fact, to a certain extent, it is unrealistic if you want to have a married friend alone.
The same is true for families. We must never ignore the thoughts and will of a person's partner, because to a large extent, this is the constraint on that person. If you want him to break this constraint because of you, then the two of them will quarrel immediately.
Once quarrel because of you, twice quarrel because of you, three times he will form a sense of self-consciousness, a sense of not quarrel, and then his behavior will naturally be different.
02
Why do people say that a son is good, not as good as a daughter-in-law? In other words, you will have a good daughter-in-law first before you have a good son.
In addition to the family that the man is rich and needs the woman to flatter, it is possible to be an exception. Even if the son is not good, the daughter-in-law will rush to her parents-in-law. A man who does not have enough ability to make money cannot be the leader in his family anyway, including filial piety.
is that there are conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Even if there is no principled fault and people are close to each other, there will definitely be conflicts in ideas and will. In addition, even if we get along well, we are actually more loving and filial to our parents, because people have emotional preferences.
So what does this mean? A son's filial piety towards him will be largely misunderstood by his daughter-in-law or even blocked.
For example, the son wants to buy clothes for his parents, 500 yuan. Even within the scope of the ability permits, the daughter-in-law will be dissatisfied. Can't wear 300 yuan? In the end, there is a high probability that the son will choose to compromise and compromise with 300. On the other hand, the daughter-in-law may want to send something better than 500 to her parents, and in the end the son will choose to compromise.
If a mobile phone is idle at home and the son wants to use it for his parents, when the daughter-in-law stands up and speaks, then why can't you think of my parents? In the end, the son will most likely choose to compromise.
Just like I saw a short video before, it was probably about this content, but there were more than one thing and two things. So the male protagonist cried bitterly in the room, feeling very ashamed of his parents, and finally choked and said, "Mom and Dad, don't have a son in the next life, it's useless."The profound meaning behind
is that in many things, the male protagonist also wants to be filial and kind to his parents, but his emotions and thoughts will always go against each other because of his wife. In a family, women have too much influence on men.
It can be seen that his son is good, maybe The son himself is good, but if he wants to express this good, he cannot go through his wife without going through his wife.
so the good ones that can be expressed are more. The son is good and the daughter-in-law is better, reasonable enough, and understanding enough.
Conversely, if there are quarrels twice and three times because of filial piety to his parents, then even the filial heart remains unchanged , Filial behavior will also be reduced a lot.
Of course, we cannot generalize by side. It is certain that all families are like this, but generally speaking, two good things are good. Only when a son is good can there be a daughter-in-law, and only when a daughter-in-law is good can there be a son.
03
Some people may ask, why are men always affected by women, not women affected by men?
In fact, what really makes men compromise again and again is often their rationality. Sometimes they would rather swallow their anger and suffer a little grievance than quarrel all day long, and their family life is uneasy. On the other hand, women are emotional animals, and at the moment of emotional moment, they are only at ease. No matter what the consequences are, what happens.
So in this case, rationality will always give in to sentiment and consider the overall harmony of the whole family. Although it is only superficial, it is enough.
If there is still a reason, it is the most realistic problem of ability, I dare not.
He dared not to overturn his wife's will. First of all, he would not talk about his feelings because he could not bear the consequences of this conspiracy and impulse. For example, a divorce occurred.
Although divorce was a loss-making loss, women could just pat their butt and leave it, leaving a bunch of messes waiting for the man to settle it. Even if they did not consider the issue of remarrying again, it was just this change that the family encountered. Therefore, he, who has average ability to make money, cannot settle it.
Moreover, at that time, he will even implicate his parents. Don’t talk about reality, this is reality, reality is more realistic than this.
Even if he doesn’t reach the point of divorce, just the ridicule, scold, slander and humiliation his wife used to her on weekdays is enough for him to be depressed. To put it bluntly, it just doesn’t If you have the ability to deal with the changes caused by your impulse, you can only swallow your anger and make concessions.
You see, many people emphasize that money is not important, money is not everything in life, but in fact, money not only determines the quality of life, but also affects many things.
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