saw a post online:
Boys pursue girls they like for 5 years, starting from girls going to college until they graduated from college.
Two are high school classmates, and the boy gave up studying after graduating from high school and then worked.
Girls’ family conditions are very average, and boys make money to support girls in college.
But girls just don’t like him, even if this boy treats her very well.
The girl said, "I borrowed this money from you. I will pay it back to you when I graduate and start working."
So, the boy pursued her foolishly for 5 years and silently paid for 5 years.
Even if a girl fell in love when she was in her senior year, the boy still did not give up.
He decided to give up because the girl was engaged to her boyfriend, and after working for one year, the girl returned the 100,000 yuan she borrowed from the boy during her years in college to him.
At that moment, the relationship between the two people came to an end.
After reading this post, I felt very distressed for this boy.
From the perspective of emotional perspective:
He is sincere and brave. When he meets someone he likes, he will chase him all the time.
But from a rational point of view:
He is too hesitant and too stubborn.
licking the dog until the end, and there is nothing.
Fortunately, the girl boys fall in love with is also a person who is sensible, clear and grateful.
Otherwise, boys will lose nothing in the end.
When the opposite sex gets along, if the person you like doesn't like you, in fact, what you should do most is not to force yourself, not to continue pursuing, but to learn to let go.
What things are best not to do when the other party doesn’t like you?
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Don't over-disturb
The more you disturb the other party, the more likely it is to cause the other party's disgust.
Think from the perspective of others:
Someone suddenly broke into your life and he confessed to you and was particularly good to you.
But you just don’t like this person, and even hate him for excessive invasion of your life, which has brought a lot of trouble to your life.
What would you do at this time?
What is your inner thoughts?
Is it the closer he gets to you, the stronger your anxiety and boredom will be? The same principle is
.
The other party doesn’t like you, don’t bother with you, and don’t over-invade the other party’s life.
Homewhere outside of our feelings, each of us longs for a quiet, undisturbed life.
You like to be alone and quiet, but there is someone sitting next to you and making noise. Are you annoyed?
Don’t bother and force it is what you should do.
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Don't be a "limbing dog"
Most of the reasons why licking dogs have no good results should be attributed to yourself.
The reason why the other party hurts you and drains your value is not what you taught him?
People don't want it, but you pay a lot;
Your salary is not enough for your own life, but you have to pay on the other party.
Even though you know that the other party doesn’t like you, you still put a lot of time, money and energy into him.
To the end, you have nothing, and the other party continues to start a new relationship.
What do you think you are looking for?
You just moved yourself. In the eyes of the other person, he will not be grateful to you at all.
In fact, the state of the licking dog in the other person's eyes is: "It's so stupid, it's so easy to cheat."
Never give too much on people who don't like you.
The more you pay, the higher the cost you invest;
The higher the cost, the deeper the obsession in your heart.
This just fits the " sunk cost effect " in economics.
The more people pay, the more reluctant they are to let go of everything they have invested in.
Think about it if this is the truth?
Maybe you don’t love the other person, but more of the obsession that you can’t escape after you give it to the other person.
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Don't give up your life
Some people are prone to emotionality, easy to go to extremes, and are more likely to fall into mental internal friction.
After they are rejected by the person they like, the state that is prone to occur is:
"No one will like me"
"I'm so bad, so bad"
"I must have many shortcomings, so the other party doesn't like me"
Because a person doesn't like himself, he denies all his strengths, and then gives up the life in front of him and give up the pursuit of a better life.
This emotion and mentality are enough to destroy a person.
The real strong man will never stop because of a failure.
On the contrary, they become more and more courageous as they set down.
Since the person you like doesn’t like you, then work harder and better yourself and have a better life.
One day, when you reach the "higher peak", you will find that the people at the foot of the mountain will not cause any harm to you.
Thinking determines your choice, and choice determines your life.
Never easily deny yourself just because of a failed relationship.
Someone doesn’t like you, so there will definitely be someone waiting for you and loving you.
Today's topic:
What would you do if the other party doesn't like you?
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