Many people think that longevity is a blessing. But now there is an old man who hopes that his father, who has lived a long life, will leave this world quickly. What's going on? Isn't it good to live? And you have a monthly pension, a child is filial, and everything is good. If it were you, would you like your father to continue living?
and that’s it, do you want to live a long life? In ancient times, many emperors. In order to live a long life, many excessive things have been done. Even now, some rich people continue to prolong their lives in order to make themselves live for a hundred years. But now there is an old man who doesn’t want to live anymore. Why let’s take a look at this matter together. A 62-year-old man cried to his 90-year-old father: When will you leave this world? If you don’t leave, I will leave.
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62-year-old Mr. Wu:
Many elderly people think that my old age should be very beautiful. After all, I have a pension of about 10,000 yuan every month, and a deposit of hundreds of thousands of yuan, and a house, and I have everything I should have. What else is unhappy? But what I want to say is, even if I have it all.
I still live a very painful life now and a very miserable life. If I have a choice, I want to leave this world as soon as possible. I am really uncomfortable. I don’t want to stay in this world for a moment, and I can’t stay in a moment. Just when I was about to think about it, my friend came. I just took out a bottle of red wine and the sleeping pills I prepared in the end. I really had no choice but to leave my friend and come to me at home. My friend said that there is no salt in the cooking at home. I want to ask you to borrow some. If you go out to buy it, it is a bit far away. I am afraid it will be too late, so I came to borrow some at home.
I told my friend, okay, then go to the kitchen to get it, take it away if you want it, anyway, I won’t need it anymore, and when I heard me say this, my friend felt something was wrong, and then came to see what I was doing, but saw that I was drinking and there was a bottle of medicine on the table. He didn’t know what medicine it was, but he vaguely felt something was wrong.
Then my friend told me what happened, how could this happen? If you have something, tell me, I am your neighbor and your friend, you told me that I will definitely help you, no matter what, I will help you, don’t do this, okay? You are so scary. To put it bluntly, what if something happens?
And your father on the second floor, he needs your care. If something happens to you, how will you live in the future? Do you want your child to come back and help take care of him? You have a son and a daughter. If you ask them to come back, isn’t this implicating them? Didn’t this cause him a lot?
I cried when I heard my friend say this. I cried and told my friend that you also know that if you let them come back, it will be a disaster for them, but have you ever thought about my life? Do you know how I came here in the past few years? I can't stand it anymore. You don’t know how uncomfortable I feel. I can’t help it. I don’t have to choose to think so. I just want to finish it. I just want to finish it. Isn’t this possible?
Is there any problem with this? I didn't harm them, and I have worked hard for so many years and endured for so many years. Shouldn't I be liberated and shouldn't I be liberated? Only by being freed from me can I feel more comfortable, otherwise I wouldn’t know how to survive.
My friend kept comforting me, and then quietly called my child to come back. Others think I am very happy, but in fact I am the only one who knows how miserable my life is now. If it weren't for it being too miserable, I wouldn't have thought about those things. I'm so upset. If you encounter such a thing, you may not be able to think about it. You also want your father to leave quickly. If your father doesn’t leave, I will leave soon. It's really uncomfortable.
I have two children and 6 grandchildren. Others are very happy to see me. In fact, I am the only one who knows how uncomfortable I feel. To be honest, I have really had enough of this superficial happiness.I often tell my father. When will you leave this world? If you leave, I will leave you, and everyone will leave. After all, there is no need to cause trouble for your children.
My father did not respond. Because my father is paralyzed, this matter should start two years ago. My father suffered a stroke the year I retired. To be honest, it is true when you get older, don’t always drink and eat meat. Isn’t it good to eat more light? Why do you always drink alcohol and eat meat? My father is such a person, and he especially likes to eat something with more fat or fatty things.
My father told me that these are good things. They used to be rich and could not eat them. Now that I have the conditions, what's wrong with me eating more? You have to eat meat when you drink, and you have to drink wine when you eat meat. These two are necessary, and one that is inseparable is indispensable. I told my father that I have been through this for the rest of my life. Can’t I control my mouth when I get older? What to do if you eat so much?
Just eat a little bit, and I have said how many times I have said about drinking. It is easy to get into trouble when eating alcohol and drinking meat, especially when you are so old, you still eat alcohol and meat every day. Even if you can eat it. The body can't stand it anymore, so you should stop trying like this, okay? Can't you keep some tomorrow to eat? No matter what I say, my father still wants to eat. There are many people like my father. I was afraid of being poor before, but now I am trying hard to make up for it when the conditions are good.
Eating so much is really not good for the body. Once something happens, you will know how important health is. When there is nothing, you think it doesn’t matter. Everyone is like this before, but if they don’t eat it now, they will not be able to eat it in the future. What I want to say is that 100% of the time you regret it once something happens, just like my father.
That night he was still drinking and eating meat. I said it but didn't listen, but I had a stroke that night and was paralyzed. I was sent to the hospital for trouble. I spent more than 500,000 yuan to live in the ICU, more than 20,000 yuan a day. I spent more than ten days in the ICU and then stayed in the general ward for more than a month. In the end, the man was saved, but he used more than 500,000 yuan. The family was not very rich, so they emptied all their savings and borrowed more than 200,000 yuan.
This is the cost of stroke paralysis. I originally thought this matter had expired and ended, but what I never expected was to do it, but I just started spending money. People are back, but how should they live in the future? From then on, I took care of my father with all my heart. Of course, my wife was there at that time, so my wife and I should help each other. There is no way. I originally wanted to go out with my wife after retirement, but I was tired of staying in the town for the rest of my life. I used to have no time, no chance, no money.
Now the conditions are good, I have money, but I can't leave anymore, I have to take care of my father. Someone is quarreling with me again, why not bring a couple? What I want to say is a hollow paralysis and needs to lie on the bed. What should you do? Not to mention hiring a nanny, I only have a pension of 2,000 yuan a month, and my wife adds up to more than 3,000 yuan a day. If it is all used for food expenses, then the question is that it is enough to hire a nanny?
Now, it costs at least 5,000 yuan to find a nanny. I gave all the money to the nanny, but it was not enough, and I gave the money to the nanny. So do we want to drink the northwest wind? More importantly, children cannot help our children at all. They have car loans, mortgage loans, and children need to raise them. It is already very good if they don’t ask us the elderly for money. All parents have a deep understanding of these things.
Take my eldest son for example. The mortgage has just begun now and it will take 30 years to pay it back. I guess my eldest son will have to wait until he is in his 60s before he can pay off the mortgage. Otherwise, he would not even dare to take leave, and he would have to go to work if he was sick. There was no way. If he didn't go to work one day, he would lose about 1,000 yuan this month and attend 500 yuan. Then, if you say 200 yuan a day, you will be close to 300 yuan. This way, it will be about 1,000 yuan short of it.How can you live without money?
So we can only rely on the two of us to take care of our father. It is unrealistic to hire a nanny to have no money, and it is not realistic to rely on our son. We were both old people and needed someone to take care of us, but now we have to take care of our father. My wife takes care of her during the day and I take care of her at night. My father is like this and needs to turn over every half an hour or so. If this happens, my father will scream in pain. My father has found a lot of red dots behind him. If it is not handled well, it will still be thicker.
I feel in pain when I see my father like this, and I can’t help. All you can do is try to help turn over. I lie on the bed for a longer time, and my body shrinks. I often have to exercise for him and often take him out for a walk. You don’t know how uncomfortable it is to take care of a person who has a stroke paralysis. Although he is my father, I still felt a little disgusted at that time. This is what everyone said that there is no filial son in front of the bed for a long time.
At this moment, something happened to my father-in-law and mother-in-law, and my wife is the only daughter. I had to take my father-in-law and mother-in-law to the house. Although I hired a nanny to help, this nanny has been changed many times. Because the nanny feels that the salary is low. Then I did a lot of things and it was very tiring to take care of the elderly. It is precisely because of this that basically no one is willing to work here.
00 can't be given too much money. If we give too much, we can't get through it. I often quarrel with my wife about such things. My wife is already very disgusted with taking care of her parents. What I can do, I can only try my best to take over everything. At this time, my wife passed away. My wife was originally helping me share the matter, but now I have to take care of everyone alone. My mother-in-law Alzheimer's disease , and my father-in-law urinated and defecated incontinence.
Then my father had a stroke and was paralyzed and all these things fell on me. The more you are like this, the more uncomfortable it is. I even thought, why don’t I just leave? Maybe you think I am a vulnerable person, but what I want to say is that if you encounter this, you probably will be like this. It’s okay for a day and a half. You can’t stand it after a long time. It’s enough to take care of my father-in-law and mother-in-law during the day, and you still have to take care of my father at night.
Fast from morning to night, from night to dawn. I took care of them for 24 hours a day, and I didn’t have any time to rest. I even found that I had hallucinations often and sometimes I felt that I couldn’t stand up. After sleeping, my whole body hurts. Have you ever felt that kind of pain? No one knows how I came here in the past two years. It was okay to have a wife before, but now my wife is not around, and I can’t stand it.
I also want my son to come back. But they are back, what should I do when I work? I didn't dare to tell them about this. They called back and asked, but I could only say that everything was fine. I was able to take care of them. After I finished speaking, I cried myself. There was no way to be safe. I could hardly survive alone. I was wondering what would my parents do if I left this world? What if I leave my father-in-law and mother-in-law?
I have left, do you want to hand over this responsibility to my child? They are already in a difficult life now. If they take care of these elderly people, will they directly crush them? Do they have time to take care of us? The more I think about it, the more helpless I feel, the more I don’t know what to do. I am very conflicted. I want to leave this world quickly, but I can't leave. Thinking of this, I want to cry. I have suffered too much in the past two years, and I can't live now. How should I live in the future?
My father-in-law and mother-in-law and my father, they were doing well, but then I was suffering. I'm thinking that my father is gone. Then if my father-in-law and mother-in-law also leave, how great it would be. At least I will be able to be liberated in that way, and I am even willing to use my life as the price.
especially my father, he suffered a stroke and was paralyzed for too long. I need to do everything, but my father-in-law and mother-in-law are fine.My father-in-law and mother-in-law can take care of him during the day. There is nothing to do at night. My father was different at that time. He needed care during the day and at night. The more this happens, the more uncomfortable I feel. How great it would be if they could leave, especially my father, who left this world.
This way I will no longer suffer. You think it is ruthless and rebellious to say this. I also feel that I am not worthy of being their children. They worked hard to raise me, but now I am old, but I hope they will leave quickly. He actually wanted his father to leave quickly. Get out of this world quickly. I don’t want to do this either. Faced with such a thing, I have no choice but to cry during the day and at night. How many people can understand my pain?
I don’t want to suffer such pain, right? If you were you, how long would you last? How many years have passed since the days now? How can I live in the future? In the future, I will get older and can’t take care of them anymore. Will I have to implicate my children? Then, will I also implicate my children? Thinking of this, I can't stand this pain even more. Father, when will you leave? You let me go. I really don't want you to survive, and I don't want to live either.
Conclusion:
Let everything go naturally. So what if I don’t want to live in this situation, I have been through so many years. Let’s spend the remaining years slowly. Just live every day well. If you can try not to bother them, try not to bother them. It’s not easy. You know that you think it’s not easy for him to endure it, but what can you do? Do you think you can leave if you want to?
Many times many things are helpless. What we can do is accept all this calmly and face these things. I hope all young people will be more considerate of their parents. Parents have no choice, and parents don’t want to do this. If there is a choice, they don’t want to bother you, and they don’t want to harm others or yourself.
Since they have no choice, let’s be more considerate and think about it from the perspective of others. If we have that in the future, do you want your child to give up on you, and do you want to ignore it or not? So be considerate. Only by understanding each other with your parents can you live a better life and the family will live a better life. If you don’t care about this matter, your children will not care about your understanding in the future. This is the only way. So sometimes a long life is not necessarily a blessing.
