On the Internet, a 48-year-old mother-in-law has become a hot search for three babies.
The mother-in-law has two sons. The eldest son is already married and is doing business in the city with his daughter-in-law. The two bought a house with the down payment, and their lives are quite stable.
The second son has reached the age of starting a family. He has a girlfriend and both parties have been engaged. He can hold a wedding when he is just waiting for a good time.
I was originally living a peaceful life, but my mother-in-law found out that she had not had her period and had symptoms of drowsiness and nausea. She thought she was menopause and went to the hospital for examination. The doctor told her that she was pregnant.
When I got home, my mother-in-law announced to her family that she wanted to give birth to a child. What if she was a daughter, she fulfilled her wish to want a daughter. Being pregnant at such an old age is her fate with her child.
The eldest daughter-in-law is 6 months pregnant and asked her mother-in-law: "You don't have a stable income, what should I use to raise my child?"
The mother-in-law said: "Didn't I raise my two sons? It's okay to raise one more child."
The eldest daughter-in-law can't understand her mother-in-law's thoughts. In her opinion, the mother-in-law is too selfish.
When you are young, you are not suffering. Even if your income is unstable, at least you are healthy. As long as you are willing to endure hardship, you can always make money. But when a person is older, his health will be worse than before. It is not the age when you can make money by fighting your strength.
Moreover, the eldest daughter-in-law will soon be in confinement. She originally said that her mother-in-law would take care of her, but now she still needs someone to serve her, so naturally she can't help her.
She and her husband do small business, and they won’t make money without having to leave a day. If no one helps take care of their children, the pressure in the future will definitely be very high. Let’s take a step back, If the mother-in-law gives birth to the child and she is unable to take care of her, will the pressure still fall on herself?
She discussed with her husband, hoping that her husband could persuade her mother. She is old and there is no need to have a third child. It’s not that there is a mine at home, so why bother the family?
The husband has different ideas from her. He believes that the mother has her own ideas. Since she wants to have children, there is no need to stop her.
The eldest daughter-in-law didn't talk to her husband for a long time, and in anger he went back to her parents' home and said to her husband: "Your mother wants to insist on having a third child, so you don't take me back. I raise my own child by myself."
This incident spread quickly in the local area. Everyone knows that the eldest daughter-in-law is angry because her mother-in-law wants a third child. Many people support her eldest daughter-in-law and think that her mother-in-law is too willful.
The second daughter-in-law also knew about this. After thinking about it, she proposed to break the engagement, thinking that such a mother-in-law could not marry, and could not give her help, and might put pressure on herself.
It is said that when things develop here, the mother-in-law should reflect on herself. Her reaction surprised many people. didn't think she did anything wrong at all, but blamed her eldest son, believing that he couldn't manage his wife well. If the eldest daughter-in-law didn't make trouble, the second daughter-in-law wouldn't break off the engagement , and the family could still live a good life.
So, the eldest son ran to argue with the eldest daughter-in-law and asked her to go home quickly and not make trouble again. During the pushing process, the eldest daughter-in-law fell down and the child in her belly was not saved. Now, the marriage between the eldest son and the eldest daughter-in-law really came to an end.
This incident has caused a lot of discussion.
- Some people say, "Mother-in-law is too selfish. If you want a child, you have to look at the actual situation at home. You can hold a grandson, but you have to fight for a third child. Wouldn't it cause trouble for yourself?"
- Some people also say, "The second daughter-in-law is wise. She sees her in-laws clearly as soon as possible to avoid trouble."
- Some people also say, "Mother-in-law has the freedom to have a child. The policies encourage the third child, and there seems to be nothing wrong."
That's right, having a third child is in line with the requirements, but raising a child is not only about giving birth, but also about raising a child.
A pair of parents-in-law who have no family background and stable income will really not burden the child if they give birth to a third child?
The movie " My Sister " is adapted from real events, and the events are actually more cruel than the plot.
My daughter was in college, and her parents secretly gave birth to a son at home. They told her that her ability was limited and that her daughter would have to earn her living expenses on her own in the future.
My daughter thought her parents were training her, so she chose to work and study. She didn't go home even after winter and summer vacation. One day she received a call saying that her parents had a car accident and asked her to go home quickly.
She was frightened and immediately bought a ticket to go home. She saw her parents leaving her younger brother for her. After dealing with her parents' funeral, it was the issue of her younger brother's belongings. Her relatives and friends asked her to raise her younger brother, thinking that the siblings are closest relatives, and she had the responsibility to be unable to push them away.
But this is really hard for the girl to accept. Since she has never met her brother and brother, neither of them has any feelings for her. She still has to study and it is difficult for her to keep her younger brother with her.
Relatives asked her to drop out of school and find a job to be able to raise her younger brother. After thinking about it, the girl refused the request of her relatives. She asked everyone: " Who do you want to adopt him? If no one adopts him, I will arrange it myself."
mentioned adoption, and no relative came forward. So, the girl from gave her younger brother to a country couple through introduction, then sold her house and returned to school to continue her studies.
Many people say that the girl is too cruel and think that she shouldn’t send her younger brother to the countryside. Even if she wants to give birth, she should find a family with good conditions.
It seems that she has the obligation to take care of her younger brother, but no one has asked her about her feelings. Her parents gave birth to her brother on her back, so why should she ask her to bear the obligation to raise her?
There is no complete answer in this world. If we encounter similar problems, we may not be able to do better than girls.
Find out the root cause, brothers and sisters do not have the obligation to raise their younger brother . If parents want to have children at an advanced age, they must think clearly about a question: whether they have the time and financial strength to raise their children and grow up.
Return to the mother-in-law at the beginning of the article, she gave birth to her third child at the age of 48. When the child was in elementary school, she was already 50 years old. Can she take on the tutoring lessons of her children?
Her wishful thinking is that the third child is about the same age as the eldest daughter-in-law's child. At that time, the eldest daughter-in-law can take care of her and at most help with laundry and cooking.
Even so, A sister-in-law takes care of a young brother-in-law, and needs to obtain the other party's consent, rather than using morality to demand the other party.
If the eldest daughter-in-law is willing to take care of her brother-in-law, others have nothing to say. If the eldest daughter-in-law opposes, then the mother-in-law should not have such an idea.
It’s right for you to like your children, but it’s wrong to let your daughter-in-law pay for your decision.
Do you still remember the 67-year-old elderly mother in Zaozhuang, Shandong?
She did give birth to a daughter successfully, but her life was greatly affected. Her husband is a lawyer. She had retired and had no choice but to return to her old job and continue working to earn money from milk powder.
The mother is weak and she is unable to take care of the child alone. Many people only see the glamorous scene of her holding the child, but they cannot see the hard work of her sore waist and back pain all night.
She once admitted that if time could be repeated, she would not have chosen to be born. It was really tiring.
raising children requires foresight and not act voluntarily. In addition to financial protection, it also depends on whether your body allows it. Only when the whole family is willing to accept it can the child be given a good environment for growth.
What do you think about this? Do you think it is a rational idea for mother-in-law to have a third child?
