Introduction
Couples should treat each other honestly and must not hide anything from each other, otherwise, the marriage may face crisis.
A senior netizen shared a story---
Ms. Hou Mr. Su has been married for many years. The couple has a lively and lovely daughter. Originally, the family of three was very happy, but they encountered a crisis because of the "secret" visit of a college classmate of Ms. Hou.
Ms. Hou had a first-time lover in during her college years, named He Wutong (pseudonym). After graduating from college, He Wutong gave up Ms. Hou in order to make her future better and married the daughter of a big figure. This change made Ms. Hou feel unbearable. Later, Ms. Hou also married her current husband, Mr. Su.
Time flies so fast, and in the blink of an eye, several years have passed.
One day, another college classmate of Ms. Hou sent her an invitation to , saying that it was a reunion of college classmates in the city, and hoped that Ms. Hou would attend . Originally, Ms. Hou was not willing to attend such a meaningless gathering, but due to the affection of her classmates, she had to agree to attend.
On the day of the class reunion, Ms. Hou came to the party place, but as soon as she stepped into the banquet hall, a familiar figure immediately came into her eyes. When she looked closely, she found that it was her first love He Wutong.
After seeing He Wutong also attended the party, Ms. Hou originally wanted to avoid and get away, and He Wutong also saw her. He Wutong smiled and shouted Ms. Hou's name and stood up to give up her seat. In this case, Ms. Hou was not convenient to escape.
Ms. Hou smiled and nodded to Ms. Hou, then moved a chair and sat near the door. Ms. Hou thought to herself: I want to be farther away from He Wutong, after all, he had hurt my feelings before. But what Ms. Ling Hou did not expect was that He Wutong actually left the seat he had originally sat on and moved to Ms. Hou's side with .
He Wutong is a wise person. He first explained to Ms. Hou , and then apologized to Ms. Hou. At this time, Ms. Hou felt that both parties had already started a family and there was no need to mention the past. So she told He Wutong: I can understand.
class reunion only takes a few hours. After the party, Ms. Hou planned to go home, but who knew that He Wutong actually invited Ms. Hou to sing in the karaoke hall. Ms. Hou refused for a while, but in the end she did not refuse He Wutong's invitation. So Ms. Hou followed He Wutong to a karaoke hall.
When it was dark, Ms. Hou said goodbye to He Wutong and returned to her home. At this time, her husband Mr. Su had already prepared supper. The family of three rested after dinner.
After a while the next day, husband Mr. Su suddenly called Ms. Hou. husband Mr. Su asked Ms. Hou on the phone if she went to a karaoke hall yesterday afternoon. Since Ms. Hou did not want to tell her husband about her past history with He Wutong, Ms. Hou denied the incident of singing with He Wutong in the karaoke hall yesterday afternoon. But who knew that her husband, Mr. Su, immediately sent a video to Ms. Hou via WeChat, which showed the scene of herself and He Wutong walking out of the karaoke hall.
When Ms. Hou saw this video, she had to confess to her husband Mr. Su. But Mr. Su felt that things were definitely not as simple as Ms. Hou said in . As a result, there was a dispute between Mr. Su and Ms. Hou, and the relationship between husband and wife was almost on the verge of breaking down.
So, where did the video Mr. Su gets from?
It turned out that a colleague of Mr. Su took a random video on the street that day, and actually took the scene of Ms. Hou and He Wutong walking out of the karaoke hall. Mr. Su's colleague actually posted the random video on a short video platform, and Mr. Su saw it.After sharing the story, this senior netizen said that if Ms. Hou could tell her husband frankly after returning home that night that night that she had sang a song with He Wutong, maybe her husband would understand it, but Ms. Hou’s mistake was that she concealed her whereabouts, which led to her losing her husband’s trust.
This senior netizen said: "Military and wife must be honest, otherwise there may be a gap in the relationship between husband and wife."
In fact, this senior netizen's statement is very correct. Look, on November 17, something like this happened somewhere in Henan----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- The two of them have hardly blushed in nearly 20 years of marriage. However, on November 17, the two began to have a quarrel.
So, why are the two having a quarrel?
Mr. Feng and his wife Liu have a son and a daughter. The son is nearly 20 years old this year and is in college. The daughter is 16 years old this year and is in high school. Because the family spends too much and the income is too low, Mr. Feng has been working in Xinjiang in recent years. Generally, I go home every two years.
Recently, an epidemic has occurred in some areas of Xinjiang. Although Mr. Feng works in low-risk areas, he is also afraid that the epidemic will occur in his area, so he plans to go home to "avoid the limelight". On November 13, he returned to his home in Henan from Xinjiang.
Mr. Feng is an old smoker and has been smoking since he was 18 years old. His wife, Liu, firmly opposed Mr. Feng's smoking due to her health. When his wife Liu finds that there are cigarettes in her house, she will definitely throw them out of the house.
Mr. Feng also wanted to quit smoking, but he never quit. In Xinjiang, my wife is not by my side and can smoke it at will, but after I get home, my wife takes care of it. If she wants to smoke, she also needs to smoke secretly.
From last year to this year, some cheap cigarettes are not easy to buy, and the store is often out of stock. In order to ensure that he smokes cheap cigarettes every day, Mr. Feng decided to buy more at a time.
On November 17, Mr. Feng found that two cheap cigarettes had been bought in a store on the top of the village, so he bought all two cigarettes at once. In order to prevent his wife from discovering it, Mr. Feng decided to hide the cigarettes. But where can I hide cigarettes in a place that is not easy to be discovered by my wife? After repeated consideration, Mr. Feng planned to hide the cigarette under the bed, but who knew that when Mr. Feng was hiding the cigarette, he found that several used men's supplies were thrown under the bed.
Mr. Feng said: "When I saw those used men's products, I was immediately stunned. Because I had never used these things before, and I was not at home for many years, how could there be these things at home? So, I was furious and asked my wife how these things came from, but who knew that my wife actually said: 'My brother brought them, but I didn't take them away, what do you doubt?'. Isn't this clearly a lie? How could his brother bring these things to my house? Besides, it's still used things!"
Mr. Feng continued: "But no matter how I question my wife, she always insisted that it was brought by his brother. It made me quite helpless. I want to ask netizens: What should I do?"
said above is a general process of this incident.
When many netizens learned about this incident, netizens also expressed their opinions.
Netizen voice
Netizens love to eat oranges: Liu is clearly lying! How could my brother bring these things to my sister’s house? Impossible, absolutely impossible!
netizen is innocent and natural: Haha! What is the use of Mr. Feng asking netizens for help? You should solve the problem of your husband and wife yourself!
In short, netizens have their own opinions.
Lao Hu’s opinion
Frankness is the basis of family harmony. As the saying goes, “You will never distinguish between your heart and you will never be able to distinguish”!
As for this incident, I believe Mr. Feng’s eyes are sharp, but he has no handle.
Lao Hu feels that no one is perfect, no one is perfect, no gold is pure.In this world, there are no perfect people at all. Many people will make some mistakes, including Feng's wife Liu.
In fact, it doesn’t matter if you make a mistake, as long as you can reform yourself. The primary condition for reforming is to be brave enough to admit your mistakes. If a person is unwilling to admit his mistakes at all, how can he reform himself?
Lao Hu believes that Mr. Feng’s wife Liu should be more honest with his husband, be brave to admit what he has done in the past, and strive to gain the understanding of his husband. If you blindly conceal and resolutely use lies to cover up your past, I am afraid your ending will not be so wonderful, right?
What do you think?
