For women, marriage is the second life. Only when they meet the right person can they be happy after marriage. However, getting married is not a matter of two people. After all, if you integrate into a new family environment, you need to establish a good relationship with other family members. Otherwise, after marriage, the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law alone will be enough to make people physically and mentally exhausted.
Lu Qi said: When you get married, you don’t marry a certain person, but you marry all the social relationships of this person. So the family you marry will have a kind of marriage. Indeed, marriage is not a joke. No matter how deep the relationship is, you cannot love too blindly. Before getting married, you should first understand the other person's character and family tradition. Only by doing enough homework can you not be too passive. If you give everything for a temporary favor, you will often be in a dilemma.
Xu Qing and Xu Yang met at a friend's party. At that time, Xu Yang fell in love with her at first sight and began to pursue her passionately after getting the contact information. After a long time, Xu Qing also felt that Xu Yang was a gentle person and took good care of herself. So with his confession, the two officially confirmed their relationship.
dating for only three months. Under Xu Yang's urging, he quickly entered the palace of marriage. Although Xu Qing felt that she was developing a little fast, she thought that she was not young and was urged by her parents to get married every time she went home. Xu Yang was sincere to him, so she no longer considered it and decided to choose a flash marriage.
After entering the marriage, Xu Qing's happy marriage that he imagined did not come. He agreed with her husband that he would not live with her in-laws after marriage, but as soon as he got married, Xu Yang couldn't wait to bring her in-laws over, saying that it was his parents' request, and as a son, he could not refuse. In order not to make it difficult for her husband to do it, Xu Qing had to agree.
But over time, the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law broke out. Xu Qing found that there was a generation gap between her mother-in-law. Her mother-in-law was a sarcastic person. She spoke loudly and liked to argue. She valued money very much and could not suffer any loss. Therefore, she often accused Xu Qing of spending money and opening her express delivery privately. She even asked Xu Qing to pay her salary to avoid spending money indiscriminately.
For this, Xu Qing also refused to the end and made it clear that the money she earned would not be handed over to anyone, and the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law became increasingly intense. As an intermediary, her husband had never mediated and chose to escape. Later, Xu Qing found that her things were always missing for no reason. At first, she thought it was because she was careless and could not find it for the time being, but after many times, she also found it strange, especially her newly bought skin care products and bags, or some small accessories.
Xu Qing also told her husband about these things, but her husband didn't take it seriously, just told her not to be suspicious. Xu Qing had to secretly install a camera in the room. Only then did she know that the mother-in-law went into the room and took things in her room every day after she went to work. After she had evidence, she immediately questioned her mother-in-law. Then she said that she couldn't bear to see her daughter-in-law spending money indiscriminately, so she often gave her daughter-in-law the new things she bought to her daughter and asked her to resell, otherwise sooner or later, the daughter-in-law would spend all her son's money.
Xu Qing was very angry after hearing this. She didn't say that the things she bought were all the money she paid for, but her mother-in-law didn't ask if she just took it away, and she felt very dissatisfied with entering her room privately, and she had no privacy. So the next day, Xu Qing changed the lock of the room and locked the door before going out. When the mother-in-law found out, she asked: Daughter-in-law, they are all family members. Who are you guarding against when you lock the door? Xu Qing replied directly: Of course, I am guarding you against you, so that you will not enter my room again.
After saying this, the mother-in-law suddenly got angry and had a big fight with her daughter-in-law. Finally, she packed up and returned to her hometown, saying that she was an elder. The daughter-in-law not only disrespects her, but also always guarded against herself. Since that is the case, she will not stay in this house. She will come back unless the daughter-in-law apologizes to her. Xu Qing is too lazy to pay attention to this. She is happy only if her mother-in-law doesn't come to get involved in her life. However, because of her mother-in-law's relationship, the husband has an objection to her and the relationship between husband and wife has become much unfamiliar.
Bafari Knicks once said: Marriage is a book, the first chapter writes the poems, and the rest are plain prose. Indeed, the essence of marriage is food, food, oil and salt, and it also requires the joint efforts of two people to manage their family well.
But many people don’t understand this principle. They always act as hand-off managers and push all the burden to their partner, especially the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Men act as bridges of communication between the middle, but do not play a role in regulation. Instead, they choose to escape because they are afraid of trouble. Although they can obtain temporary purity, once the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law breaks out, they will eventually get trapped in it and affect marriage. Therefore, if there are problems between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, they should be resolved as soon as possible instead of letting it ferment, otherwise the consequences are often not something they can bear. #Marriage##Emotion##Emotional Firm#
