"Man is essentially a social animal" . This view was first proposed by Aristotle . Aristotle's original words say this: Humans are political animals, but the politics Aristotle mentioned is actually the meaning of society.
Human beings are social animals, which determines that we must cooperate with others, interact with others, and participate in various complex social activities.
But let’s think about it, how much happiness do we have given you by others? If you possess a hundred portions of happiness, how many of these hundred portions of happiness is given to you by others? Let’s think about it again. If you have a hundred worries and pains, how many of them are caused by you yourself and how many are caused by others?
I believe that in your 100 portions of happiness, others don’t bring you much, but in your 100 portions of distress, pain and trouble, others bring you a lot! The happiness others bring to you is far less than the trouble others bring to you.
In this way, when we interact with others, we should try our best to avoid others causing you pain and trouble, and be cautious in our interactions!
There is a saying: Promiscuity is the source of corruption . Unrestrained relationship is the source of your deterioration. If you are unrestrained, it is because you are unrestrained. Few people can become bad by themselves, and it is basically the result of influence from others. In this way, what kind of people should we interact with and who should we stay away from?
I will do the simplest analysis here and I will explain the reasons.
The first type of person we should stay away from is the proud person. If you find that a person has arrogance and regards himself very well and very much, you should stay away from him or keep a distance from him.
Why? If a person sees himself very much, he will definitely see others very little. He will not treat you fairly. An arrogant person must be full of prejudice and must not truly respect others. Such people should not be friends with them, so they should stay away from them. In your interpersonal circle, such people should not be put into it.
The second type of person, greedy person, greedy and unsatisfied. No matter how you treat people like , they will not be satisfied. He even thinks you are not doing well enough. On the contrary, for a healthy person, he will be grateful for the benefit he gives him for a lifetime.
As long as you find that someone is greedy, especially when it comes to money, you must stay away! Never approach such people, as it is dangerous to approach such people. He is very greedy, who is he greedy? He is greedy for you and he is greedy for others. He wants to make himself have more and more, and to make others have too little or too little. So, as long as you find that a person is greedy, stay away or keep a distance!
The third type of person, a narrow-minded person, likes to be petty and always can’t think about it when encountering things.
You should also stay away from people like this, because a person has a narrow mind and low tolerance. After you do something, if he doesn't like it, he will have a quarrel with you. You develop and cultivate him, and you invested in him for fifteen years of relationship, maybe he would say goodbye to you just for one thing, and he would turn you into an enemy. If you want to have sex, please contact people with broad minds and broad minds, and those who don’t care about small things!
The fourth type of person, hypocritical person. If a person is untrue, dishonest, likes to lie, and likes to tell lies, there will be many shortcomings in it and countless people. You cannot get close to such people!
Why did he lie? What is the motivation for people to lie? First, it is to cover up their own shortcomings: "Where is your dad working? " "Airport". was originally a chicken farm, but he said it was an airport. You ask: "Which airport? " "Baiyun Airport. " His father actually opened a chicken farm near Baiyun Airport. His lying was to cover up his shortcomings and his weaknesses.
The second motivation for lying is to exaggerate the advantages: "Who is your dad?" "My dad is an intellectual, a senior intellectual." His dad just works at a tractor station in their town. He said that his dad is a senior intellectual, in order to cover up his shortcomings and exaggerate his advantages.
The third motivation for lying is to gain some kind of benefit. He is lying and he has to provoke right and wrong. So, lying is a serious problem. There is a saying that is very heavy. But I think this sentence is correct: "Satan lies at first, it is the father of all lies. " Satan is the king of the devil, Satan is the ancestor of lying and the ancestor of liars. Here we can also see how disgusting Westerners are about lying, so those who lie cannot be handed over.
The fifth type of person, lustful people cannot be intercourse. If you talk to some people, they will always talk to you about things between men and women, and things related to sex. You stay away from this kind of person, "There are many lustful people without virtue" . A person is very lustful. No matter which class he is in, what kind of educational status he has, and how much money he has, as long as he is a lustful person, he basically has no morality. You should stay away from such people.
The sixth type of people, stay away from those who do not abide by the rules. He often breaks the rules. If he can break the rules in small matters, he can break the rules in big matters. People like this should stay away from them.
The seventh type of person, you should stay away from those who say good things. Oh, you are very good at speaking. What you say is thoughtful and heartwarming. You must stay away from such people.
There are three ancient sages who said the same thing, Confucius said: "There are few kind words that make people lustful" . Laozi said: "Believe in good words" . It sounds very nice, it is dishonest words. Socrates said: "The truth is never crafted or polished. " Therefore, people who can speak and speak can't be exchanged.
The eighth type of person, people with strange tempers cannot be interfered with. Some people have very strange personalities and are very different from those around them. Such a person will cause you a lot of trouble if he is in a hurry. He will do things you would not expect, and such a person cannot be handed over.
The ninth type of person, don’t interfere with people who don’t speak hard. Several gangsters on the beach during the Republic of China said in their underworld rules that there are several kinds of people who are determined not to use them: " People who are not honest with each other cannot use them, lustful people cannot use them, people who are greedy, and people who are timid cannot use them", These people have caused trouble for you.
You'd better not to interfere with the people I mentioned earlier. What kind of people should you interfere with? It is the person who is the opposite of them, the person who is the opposite of the previous types of people.
If you want to date, if you make friends with good people, we will be blessed; if you make friends with bad people, we may lose our reputation, our wealth, and even damage our health.
Always follow good people and stay away from bad people. It is a task in our life!
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Wang Guorong, a psychologist, independent scholar, writer, the founder of China's holistic psychotherapy, and the first person in China's evidence-based psychotherapy. He was the chief academic consultant of the Psychologist Magazine and a senior psychotherapist at Shanghai Boai Hospital . He is one of the most powerful and talented psychologists in China.
has published more than ten influential psychology monographs. Among them, " Breakthrough Treatment of Student Psychological Problems " was listed as a collection of books by hundreds of domestic universities such as Peking University , Tsinghua University , Tsinghua University , "50 Psychological Treatment and Adjustment Methods" won the Most Popular Book Award for Readers in the China College Press Alliance, "10 Most Important Relationships in Life" was listed as a series of books by China Culture Press, and "Shaking Hands with Depression" won the Most Popular Professional Book Award for Readers.
