In today's society, many people's attitudes towards marriage have changed greatly, but no matter how their thoughts and customs change, one thing is that many girls attach great importance to it, that is, holding a wedding under the witness of relatives and friends.
In the eyes of many girls, the scale of the wedding does not have to be grand, and the scene does not need to be very gorgeous. The significance of the wedding lies in "witness" and "memorial". When the gray hair is gray, you will remember the past and you can still see the best self in that year at the most important stage of your life.
But with the development of the times, weddings are often associated with economic conditions. In order to save expenses, some young people will persuade their partners to travel to get married, or even cancel the wedding process and get their marriage certificate directly.
If both parties have no objection to this and can understand and understand each other, then there is naturally no problem with this approach.
But if the wedding is the wish of one of the parties, then such "persuasion" will be more or less unhappy.
Not long ago, I saw a help post online, and the poster was a girl.
The girl said that she and her boyfriend have been working for two or three years. Because they spend a lot of money on the daily basis, both parties basically have no deposits, and their respective family conditions are also very ordinary, and their parents cannot support the two in buying a house or a car.
Due to the good relationship, the couple began to put their marriage on the agenda.
Girls did not ask for a lot of bride gifts from boys' homes, and there was no requirement for houses and cars. The only hope was to have a wedding. The girl believed that holding a wedding would not only make the marriage feel ritual, but the gift money collected at the wedding could also be used to support a small family.
The boyfriend's reaction disappointed the girl with such suggestions.
The boyfriend admitted that both of them were not well off, so his girlfriend’s requirement for a wedding was too high. If the other party is reasonable, the two can only get a marriage certificate.
The girl hesitated at the end, not knowing whether she should agree to the boy’s proposal. Under the post, many netizens are urging girls to break up as soon as possible, believing that a person who does not care about the other person's preferences will definitely bring more grievances to the other person in his married life.
" It's not too much to have a wedding for a lifetime. Besides, girls want a wedding so much. If they don't like this relationship, they may feel even more wronged after getting married."
" Although it's a ceremony, the wedding is of great significance and is the most beautiful moment in a girl's life. It's normal for a girl to want a wedding, and the man is too stingy."
" Have money to do it better, but don't have money to do it ordinary, but you can't let the other party take it for granted because you are poor. The advantage of the wedding is that it has a sense of ritual. The sense of ritual is that I don't want to give it to your man. I don't think it's reliable."
" The attitude towards weddings can fully see a person. Please advise girls to stop the loss in time. A man who doesn’t want to give you a wedding, what do you expect him to give you in the future?”
From ancient times to the present, why do girls generally attach great importance to weddings?
First of all, wedding is a folk custom with a long history. In the eyes of many older generations, wedding is of great significance. In addition to being a witness to the relationship between the groom and the bride, it also tests the man's attitude of marrying the woman.
Influenced by parents' thoughts, many girls will also attach great importance to weddings. To a certain extent, the man's attitude towards weddings also reflects the woman's weight in the man and his family.
Secondly, for girls, marriage is a major event in life. Every girl hopes that she can appear beautifully at the wedding. Such grand occasions and highlights will become the most unforgettable memories in her life, which is what we often call the sense of ritual.
Does the wedding have to be held when getting married?
Although there is no necessary relationship between a happy marriage and whether to hold a wedding or not, and a wedding is not a necessary part of marriage, it is undeniable that the holding of a wedding should depend on the woman's attitude. If the man refuses to hold a wedding for his girlfriend on the grounds of poor financial conditions, I believe that any girl who has expectations for the wedding will feel wronged.
In real life, some people do save themselves from complicated and complicated weddings and directly get a marriage certificate or travel to get married, but these are based on the willingness of the woman. Therefore, if you want to gain a happy marriage, the man should think more about his partner. The practice of kidnapping his lover with love is undoubtedly very selfish.
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