text丨Love words: 30:00
I am here, waiting for the wind, and waiting for you.
Women who have experienced second marriage know that men's attitudes towards their original wife and second marriage wife are very different.
Of course, this is not only caused by the differences in women's personalities, but also depends on the attitude and opinions of men towards their original wife and second-married wives.
After all, some men are too deeply influenced by traditional ideas and are always prejudiced against second-married wives; while those men who actively accept new ideas know how to cherish the people in front of them.
The next two stories will tell you: the difference between the original wife and the second wife is very heartbreaking.
Men who are biased against the old and the new look down on women who have been married after all.
My uncle Li Song (pseudonym), a man who is severely affected by old ideas, only living together in his eyes, there is nothing to love or not.
So, after he divorced his original wife, Tiansu, with the help of his relatives. Like him, Tiansu also had a marriage and had a child. Because of this reason, he has always been reluctant.
My uncle was not a hard-working and motivated man, and he also disliked others for being incompetent every day. The original wife also chose to divorce because of this reason.
I thought that with the departure of the original wife, my uncle would change his unmotivation, but after knowing that the second wife was divorced, his attitude was not as good as his original wife.
In his opinion, even if he had divorced, he always had a sense of superiority as a man, and there was no first or second marriage.
But his wife Tiansu is different. As a woman, she has already had a relationship with a man and has a child. No matter how you say that this marriage is all he is suffering.
So, his respect and concession to his original wife, Tiansu, no longer exists in his current wife.
He believes that Tiansu married him with his children because he was greedy for him to be a man, the main labor force in the family, and could continuously obtain income for the family.
So, he not only had to support his wife Tiansu, but also helped her ex-husband raise a son. He felt frustrated no matter how he thought about it.
Once a person is sure of some kind of displeasure, he will find a way to balance this displeasure through other ways.
Therefore, in order to make my heart feel better, my uncle not only did not treat Tiansu as good-tempered as his original wife, but instead mentioned the original wife's various goodness in front of him.
On the one hand, Tiansu is for the child, and on the other hand, considering that this is his second marriage, he willingly endured Li Song's sarcasm and humiliation.
Although, my uncle did not fulfill his responsibilities as a husband to his original wife or to his current wife.
But at least, the original wife had a first-class position in his heart, and Tiansu, as a second-married woman, has never received his respect and understanding.
So, with such a man, your second marriage has already determined that you have no position in his heart.
However, this phenomenon basically does not exist in the hearts of men who are not affected by old ideas.
My uncle Liu Yuanshuang (pseudonym) is completely opposite to my uncle Li Song's attitude towards his second wife. Not only did he look down on him, but he loved him very much.
When my uncle's original wife was still there, she was poor at home and the original wife fell ill to give birth to a cousin.
Not only does it have enough money to cure diseases, even the basic nutrition uncle cannot satisfy it. Moreover, the uncle was young at that time, and only wanted to make money every day, and he had little time to really care about his original wife's body. So when my cousin was still very young, the original wife passed away due to the torture of illness.
And on the funeral of the original wife, the uncle realized his dereliction of duty as a husband, and he regretted that he had not been able to treat his original wife well.
So, when he met his current wife, even if the other party was a second-married woman with a child, he didn't care, but instead tried his best to be good to the current wife.
Maybe it was because he felt guilty towards the original wife, or maybe it was because he didn't want this regret to happen again. So, when people around him joke that he is helping others raise children, he still enjoys it.
In his opinion, women marry to support each other until they grow old. What's more, now his conditions are much better, so he should care more for his wife and children.
, and the current wife did not disappoint him. She treated her cousin like her own biological child, and the family lived happily together.
However, occasionally others will say, "The blessings enjoyed by the current wife are all the original wife who has won for her. If the uncle's original wife is still there, she will definitely be extremely happy now."
But no matter what, the uncle treats his current wife much better than the original wife. Whether it is emotional or material, the uncle will try his best to satisfy him.
As the saying goes, the predecessors pioneered the way and the descendants planted rice seedlings. The uncle's favor for his current wife was indeed something that his original wife had never experienced.
Generally speaking, there is always a gap between men's original wife and second-married women. As for whether you will win or lose, it depends on your vision of choosing a man.
If the man you choose is a responsible person who knows how to feel sorry for you, then no matter whether you are the original wife or the second-married woman will be favored by him.
But if you choose a man, you will not only be irresponsible and ambitious, but you will also look arrogant when encountering things. Even if you are the original wife, you will still not be able to bear it.
So, women, it is very important to choose a man’s vision, it directly determines whether you are happy after marriage.
And you don’t have to worry about whether you are the original wife or the second-married woman. Because those who love you will naturally love you no matter what.
