"I love you" is not something that happens in an instant, but a process.
For example, this includes: I understand you, trust you, rely on you, become curious about you, be attracted by you, and fall in love with you little by little.
"I don't love you anymore", this is not a momentary thing, it is also a cumulative process.
never loves for no reason, nor does it disappear suddenly.
All love dissipation has gone through a process of decline.
When the other party doesn’t love you, there will be some signs.
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Sharing wants to reduce
The most obvious sign that couples or couples start to decline in their relationship is that they want to share.
sat face to face, but had nothing to say;
encountered many interesting things outside, but when facing each other, there was no desire to share with each other.
cannot communicate, so when I get home, everyone is busy with their own things, living under the roof, and I haven't talked much to my friends in a day. A state like
means that the relationship between two people is cooling down little by little.
In any relationship, "desire to share" is an important means to measure your relationship.
How to judge your relationship with friends?
depends on whether you two have a lot of desire to share, whether the chat frequency is very high, and whether the chat topics are more in-depth than others?
The stronger the desire to share, the deeper the relationship and relationship, whether it is friendship or love.
What is the romance of adults? Is
a rose and a gift? Is it a sense of money or ritual?
These are all, but they are not romantic enough.
What is really romantic is the "desire to share".
I want to share the beauty you see with each other as soon as possible. This is the romance between each other, real and delicate.
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33Unwilling to solve the problem head-on
Under normal circumstances, in an intimate relationship, two people have conflicts or quarrels due to dissonance in certain aspects and different living habits.
At this time, both of them will find the right opportunity to communicate with each other and solve the problem after the conflict.
shows weakness, surrender, reason, and analyze problems. These are all attitudes to solve problems positively.
If you are in this state, it means that your relationship is still in a normal way to get along.
On the contrary:
If the other party lets your contradiction magnify, you will be indifferent to your attitude of actively bowing your head and admitting your mistakes and actively solving the problem, but you are used to being indifferent to you.
This means that his feelings for you are disappearing little by little, and he has lost the patience to communicate with you.
"Cold Violence" means?
means that he is ready to leave you at any time.
Only those who don’t care about you will be indifferent to you.
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cannot share a consulting case with you " empathize with "
.
A girl left me a message.
She said that when her aunt was dysmenorrhea, she was in pain in the middle of the night and couldn't sleep.
She woke up her sleeping boyfriend, hoping that he could make a cup of hot water for herself.
But my boyfriend said directly: "You are so annoyed that you still don't let people sleep in the middle of the night?"
At that moment, her passion and love for her boyfriend turned into nothingness.
Another sign of love disappearing is:
The other party cannot establish enough empathy with you.
- Your pain, he thinks you are noisy;
- Your negative emotions, he not only does not understand, but will think you are "pretentious".
- You are in trouble or grievance and want to get his help, but he thinks you are annoyed.
When intimate relationships lose their "empathy", the relationship comes to an end.
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3 Stop giving on you
ruthless and rational people must have the characteristics of "decisive".
For example:
A person invested part of the money in a certain project. Seeing that the project was losing money more and more, the money he invested was soon wasted.
There are two ways in front of him. One is to continue to invest, and it is possible to successfully recover the losses.
Another way is to give up decisively, lose the car to keep the handsome guy, and restrain your desires.
The former is trapped in the misunderstanding of " sinking costs ";
the latter is decisive and ruthless. The same is true in love.
A person says he doesn’t love him, he doesn’t love him, he stops giving, he says he wants to leave you, he is not vague. People like
are not only cruel, but also cold and chilling.
After all, he does not feel guilty about leaving you for many years.
The sign that he is about to leave you is:
stop giving for you and reject your giving in him.
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His life has nothing to do with you
We often say: To judge a person's state of true love for you, it depends on whether you exist in the future he planned.
If he loves you, then when doing a lot of things, he will take your feelings into consideration.
On the contrary, if he doesn't love you, then he will become selfish, self-centered, and only consider his own feelings.
This reminds me of a case:
A boy has been in love with a girl for 5 years and is about to talk about marriage, the boy discussed with his family and secretly bought a house.
Not only that, of the 1 million down payment issued, 500,000 is borrowed.
What does this mean?
As long as a girl marrys him, she will immediately passively bear 500,000 foreign debts and decades of mortgage loans.
makes a fortune, but 5 years of love have ended like this.
At the beginning, the girl didn't think so much, but just thought that the boy did not respect her enough.
The girl said: "It's such a big deal to buy a house, why don't you discuss it with me? Should we get married, or should you get married yourself?"
The boy said nothing about this.
Everyone around advised the girl to give up. Fortunately, the girl finally understood and proposed to break up before getting engaged.
People who don’t love you will not be able to have you in their plans for future life.
His life has nothing to do with you, he is him, you are you.
Love begins or ends, never happens suddenly, but a long process that can be traced.
Today’s topic:
Can you feel it if the other party doesn’t love you?
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