really wants to buy a house.
A girl next to her, her income is pretty good, she is 27 years old and has no partner yet. The housing prices in second-tier cities are pretty good, and they are not very high, so she plans to buy a small house by herself.
After she had this idea, she told her parents and some people around her, but unexpectedly, many people did not agree with it, and told her that there was no need at all, and she kept persuading her to give up such thoughts.
Many people seem to be not optimistic about girls buying a house, and they only dissuad them in various ways.
As the parties involved, you will definitely not understand why they are like this. You will only feel that having your own house and the name written in the house book is something that is very proud of.
And, that can always bring you a sense of security and make you feel very secure.
You think it is a good thing, so you really want to do it, but others disagree with you. If you think about it, the reason behind it is not difficult to understand.
My parents think it’s enough to get married, so they don’t care about it.
There is a saying that there is a generation gap at the age of three, and there are often many gaps between parents and young people.
We are originally from two generations, so we have different ideas on many things.
In the eyes of parents, in their era, the most important thing for women was to find someone to get married. After getting married, the man would naturally have a house. Even if he didn’t have one, he would find a way to make each other live.
Since men can prepare houses, as a woman, just find a partner with peace of mind.
They have always had this idea, hoping that their daughter can find a good marriage partner, and they don’t think they should buy a house by themselves. It seems a bit strange, and they still can’t understand it.
In addition, when you mention buying a house, if they agree, they will inevitably feel that they should give you some support. Of course, it is not verbal support, but real money is needed to give you some money to help you.
However, when you are born in an ordinary state, your family is not well off. Even if you are the only one in your family, or you are not the only one daughter in your family, and there are other children, they may not be able to give you much money.
So, whether in terms of thought or actual actions, they will be a little unable to keep up, and they will only instinctively reject your proposal to buy a house.
In many people's concepts, women don't have to buy a house.
In fact, it is not just parents. Many elders, relatives, neighbors around them, and even colleagues who are about the same age as them, still think that there is no need for women to buy a house alone.
always thinks that buying a house is a man’s business. No matter how good a woman’s job is or how capable she is, she is not as good as marrying.
People with this concept will do this themselves, and they will use the same thoughts to comfort you.
not only does not understand why you have such an idea, but also makes you laugh at you, thinking that you are strange and seem particularly alternative, and you are simply doing something completely unnecessary.
People and people may not grow up in the same era, and their ideas may be different. Even if they live in the same era, there may be big differences, and no one can convince anyone.
When a person is stubborn, it is not a necessary thing. No matter how persistent you persist, you feel that you make sense and think that it is giving yourself a guarantee, and the other party will only think that you are unreasonable and think too much.
Everyone’s sorrows and joys are not the same, everyone’s experiences are different, and everyone’s perspective on problems is always much different. As an independent woman in this era, you think that’s what you should do, but others will only think that’s redundant.
Men are worried that you have a burden, so it is difficult to grasp.
Many women are saying that when they are on a blind date, when they say that they have a house, especially if they have a mortgage, the other party will often suddenly change their attitude and are unwilling to continue.
Most women are just ordinary people, and most men are actually the same.
When he has bought a house himself and needs to pay back every month, or he hasn't bought it yet, but just wants to buy it when he gets married, he actually hopes that the woman can also contribute to this.
He is alone and can't hold on at all. He hopes that women will help share part of it.
Once a woman buys a house by herself and still has a lot of money to pay off, she will feel that choosing such a woman, plus his own share, is too heavy to bear it.
So, he will not be willing to interact and take the relationship further.
is not just that, but also one thing. Some men also have an idea that if a woman has a house, whenever there is any conflict between them, she will often run away from home and the other party will go, which will be detrimental to controlling the other party.
If a woman has no house and only has a home with her, then even if there is a problem, the woman will not dare to leave at all. She will only stay there obediently and will not dare to divorce easily, as if she will be more controllable.
does not agree with women buying a house, and there will always be people like this.
However, when you have the ability to afford it, you don’t have to rely on anyone, you can also pay the down payment and pay the monthly money. You won’t feel too tight and will not affect your life too much, and you don’t have to always care about what others say.
Just buy it according to your own wishes and let yourself own your own house.
No matter how others think or say it, it doesn’t matter. If you think it’s good, that’s enough.
After buying a house, someone will mind and therefore not want to go to you, but there are also people who will appreciate you like this.
doesn’t think your house is a burden, but you will think it is also wealth.
More importantly, in the future, you will be more motivated and will be able to live according to your own wishes.
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