Is this an era of "looking at faces"?
There is no doubt that, yes.
In the current environment, people are active under the "filter"; even if you watch short videos online, people who are good-looking often let you stay for a few more seconds.
And those who look average and don’t have many advantages must learn to use some skills if they want to stand out from the crowd. This is especially true when the opposite sex gets along.
If you feel that your conditions are not very advantageous compared to those around you; then you can use some methods to make up for your shortcomings.
Learning these psychological effects can improve your attractiveness in the eyes of the opposite sex.
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"First impression effect "
First impression effect is also understood by many people as the "primary effect".
means: When you first meet with the other person, the impression you leave on the other person will be directly related to your next relationship.
People with better first impressions can make the other party feel more favorable to you in the next relationship.
On the contrary, if he has a bad first impression of you, then he will be more impatient and even resisting when you get along with him next.
When the opposite sex gets along, the first impression has two states.
The first type: "Your image in other people's mouth"
For example:
You went on a blind date with a certain opposite sex. Before meeting, the matchmaker said all your good things in front of the other side.
"Oh, this boy has a good personality and a good character; he has a high education, a good job, can make money, and has a car and a house at home."
At this time, the partner you are on a blind date will definitely be full of curiosity about you.
"If you don't see someone, you will hear the sound first", this is the truth.
The more times you mention your benefits, the more curious the other person will be about you.
The second type: When you first meet, your performance
You go on a blind date with the other party, you dress up cleanly and generously, behave civilly, speak humorously and interestingly, and respect the other party enough.
At this time, even if your facial features do not meet his standards for choosing a partner, the other party will definitely give you a good review.
Let me give you a counterexample:
A girl left a message about her blind date experience.
She said that the boy who was on a blind date for the first time was wearing slippers, shorts, and had no shaving beard, and had a sleepy face.
The girl dressed up carefully and took an hour to prepare for makeup. The moment she saw the boy, she was so angry that she picked up her bag and left.
What does this mean?
The first impression is good, and the other party is more willing to contact you;
The first impression is bad, and he will resist getting along with you next.
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Hao effect : Inadvertently show your advantages
What is halo effect?
simply put it: "The lover's eyes are filled with Xi Shi".
People will subconsciously ignore the shortcomings of the other party and then magnify their advantages for those who have a good impression.
The person you like may have many shortcomings in the eyes of others; but if you like him, he is in a flawless state in your eyes.
Therefore, when dealing with the opposite sex, you must learn to show your strengths and advantages at the right time. The higher the "value" of
, the higher the chance of he has a good impression of you.
For example:
You went to a restaurant for dinner and he praised it when he had a certain dish. At this time, you can follow his thinking and talk about the topic of "cooking".
Just you cook very well and cook deliciously. This is your advantage and it is also a breakthrough in opening up your relationship.
While cleverly showing your strengths, he also asked the other party to invite him:
"When you have time, I can make a few dishes to invite you to taste it."
The main factor that determines the progress of the relationship between the opposite sex is value.
includes spiritual value, material value, and attraction.
has a high sense of value and is very attractive. How could he not like you?
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"Exposure Effect": Repeated appearance, deepening the impression
Psychologists played photos of some people to students in class.
The number of photos of these people is played decreasing. The first photo appears 20 times; the second person only appears 10 times, decreasing one by one.
Then, the psychologist asked these students to rate everyone who appeared in the photo.
results show that the more people appear, the more they like it. The small experiment of
is the origin of the "exposure effect".
Psychologically believes that the more frequently a certain thing or someone appears in front of you, the deeper your likes and impressions of him.
When the opposite sex gets along, use the "exposure effect" to increase the frequency of your appearance in the other person's life, which will make the other person more and more familiar with you.
The so-called "love over time" is the best interpretation.
However, there is a prerequisite for the exposure effect:
The other party does not hate you and does not resist becoming friends with you.
Summary: How can the opposite sex get along with you?
1. Leave a good first impression on the other party (head effect)
2. Appropriately show your own value and advantages (halo effect)
3. Increase the number of times you appear in the other party (exposure effect)
Today's topic:
Will you fall in love with the other party because of the "exposure effect"?
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