" economic foundation determines superstructure ". This sentence is true whether for the big environment or for individuals.
For individuals, only if you have a certain economic foundation can you meet higher-level needs.
According to the " Maslow's hierarchy of demand ", people must first meet the most basic survival needs and living needs.
Only then can you meet spiritual needs, emotional needs, respect needs, etc.
However, for a family, income does not determine the status of the family.
For example: full-time wife.
Those women who play full-time housewives at home after getting married have no income, family expenses and life, and rely entirely on their husbands' income alone.
But can you deny the efforts of the full-time housewife?
On the contrary, the pressure of full-time housewives is greater than that of husbands who make money outside to support their families.
So, what exactly are the factors that determine family status?
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Growth environment of native family
Do you know?
Most people spend their entire lives getting rid of the psychological shadows and constraints brought to themselves by their original family.
For example:
Some people's native families are very bad. Since he can remember, his parents have been quarreling and fighting, and he has lived in the curses and belittled by their parents. People like
subconsciously will deliberately avoid "copying" their parents' ways of getting along when they grow up.
So, he kept suppressing his emotions and kept himself in a "pleasant" posture.
"As long as I put my posture low enough, this family can be managed well"
"As long as I compromise, he will not quarrel with me."
The reason for the development of a flattering personality comes from the original family.
Conversely, those who are happy in their original families, always loving their parents' feelings, and have harmonious families will also maintain "enough confidence and calmness" in their marriage.
He can handle various problems encountered in marriage with ease, maintain his emotional stability, and look at the problems that arise in marriage confidently and optimistically.
People who have a happy childhood family will be wrapped in happiness throughout their lives. People like
also have a relatively high family status in their marriage.
Summary:
People with poor family and bad parents' relationships are often also "pleasant" in their own marriage.
And people with happy native families will also be full of confidence in their own marriage life.
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Family status is related to the "reunion status" of couples
For example:
Couple gets along, one of them gives more in the marriage.
Do housework, take care of children, make money, take care of family, and take care of your partner's emotions.
Although he is always giving, his efforts have not received corresponding feedback, and his partner has not given him enough respect and praise. In this case, he will become the "weak" side.
And that "taken for granted" companion has become a strong party.
is the reason for any relationship.
The more one person pays, the more respect it is, it is not easy to get the other person's respect.
Do you think the more you give, the more grateful the other person will be to you and respond to you with the same attitude?
result may not be like this.
Perhaps, your efforts will only indulge him in getting worse and you don’t know how to cherish you.
People with strong personalities and poor empathy also have a higher family status.
What we often call "macho" is a person with strong personalities.
Similarly, they also lack sufficient empathy.
cannot understand the wife’s efforts for the family, does not know how to be considerate and respect the other party, and does not know how to manage family relationships.
"Strong people" try to use their own ideas to control the ideas of their families and want to "be the only one" at home.
"What I said is right, you all should listen to me."
When one party wants absolute voice in the family, it will inevitably have more conflicts and quarrels with his partner. The winning party of
has the higher the family status.
In fact, in close relationships, there is never a concept of "win or lose".
What is marriage?
is a joint effort by two people to do something well. What is
family?
is the continuation of two people's lives, beliefs, spirit and matter.
Family stable, your life will have higher achievements;
Family atmosphere will be bad, your life will also become a mess.
This is the impact of the environment on our emotions and enthusiasm.
Topic today:
What factors do you think family status is related to?
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