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Sometimes life is like playing chess. Every step you take, you should think about the next step .
may be a bit tiring to do this, but being tired is better than making mistakes. Otherwise, even if you don’t lose everything, you will suffer losses.
This is best reflected in people's interactions. Some people only care about how to talk and don't think about the consequences of hurting others. In the end, they will only shoot themselves in the foot.
There is a saying in "Quiet Don't spit into the well, maybe you will come to drink water from the well. "
For example, some mothers-in-law have too single thoughts and believe that their daughter-in-law dares to divorce and dares to disobey themselves after getting married, otherwise they will be despised. Driven by this kind of thinking, they live as single-celled people, feeling that it’s okay for them to do evil, but they don’t know that retribution is waiting for them later!
My mother-in-law is a selfish person. Sometimes I think she is very sad. She lives to a very old age and doesn’t know how to be a human being.
In her opinion, she always makes sense. She regards herself as a standard and as God who can dominate everything. Her favorite thing is to blame others from the commanding heights of morality.
She never knows to reflect on herself, always saying that others are stingy, I don’t want to talk nonsense to her, but sometimes I can’t swallow my anger all the time, otherwise she will be arrogant .
When I got married with her son, I didn’t ask for a penny. Our wedding house was also bought by the two of us. I don’t owe my in-laws favors or money. Isn’t this a stingy person?
After getting married, I felt that as a junior, I should be respectful to my mother-in-law. I wanted to buy her any good things. Isn’t this stingy, right?
Not to mention anything else, just these two points, I have already fulfilled my kindness and righteousness. And what about her? When I got married, I didn’t pay a penny, but I didn’t feel that I was in debt to me. After getting married, I enjoyed the fruits of eating mine and drinking mine, and said that I was stingy, why didn’t she think about herself?
Only people who are more generous than me are qualified to say I am stingy; people like my mother-in-law who have never been generous to me are not qualified to say I am stingy, and they are not qualified to say I am stingy and have no right to say I am stingy and have no right to say I am stingy and have no right to say I am .
My weakness is that I am too kind. Although I understand these principles, I never dare to break up and argue with my mother-in-law. I thought I could bear it, but she still made her more and more capable.
One day she said to me straight to the point: "Give the house you bought before marriage to my uncle. Just be younger. Anyway, just make a wedding house for my uncle. Transfer the property to him as soon as possible, he is waiting to get married!"
I was so angry that I trembled all over, and I couldn't understand why she made such a request. After all, I am too honest and kind. Although I know she is not a good person, I didn’t expect that she is so bad and selfish.
I don’t want to bear it anymore and told her clearly that I would not give the house to my uncle: “ First, I am just his sister-in-law, not his mother, whether he is married or not, whether he has a married house, it has no relationship with me; second, I don’t owe anything to my mother-in-law, and I’m too lazy to care about how much loss I have suffered. I just hope that I and my mother-in-law can never owe each other for the rest of my life. If you want to take my house away now, what can I give me the other way around? If there is no equivalent exchange, then no talk! ”
She didn’t think I would refuse, and she wanted to jump up and bite people, saying all the unpleasant words she had accumulated in her life, just like rabies attack, and she couldn’t stop it.
The more excited I am, the clearer I see her true face. I understand that it would not work to reason with such a mother-in-law. If she could understand the truth, she would have been reasonable and would not have done such a stupid thing at all.
She said, if I don’t give the house to my uncle, I will get out of my in-laws’ house; I said, get out of my way, just get divorced!
After I finished speaking, I went back to my parents' home. Let her son argue with her for the rest. I will not participate anymore. I just need to see what the final result is.If the result proves that her son is worthy of my cherishing, I will expel my mother-in-law from our lives and continue to live with him, otherwise I will have to divorce .
he was still sober and did not bully me with his mother-in-law. He apologized to me and even brought my mother-in-law to apologize to me and asked me to go home. I don’t doubt his sincerity, but my mother-in-law definitely didn’t really regret it. However, since she is willing to apologize to me for her sake, I am not willing to hold on. But I will never be as stupid as before. I will no longer give blindly and will no longer be someone else's money tree . After
, I had hardly talked to my mother-in-law. I don't bother to care whether she feels uncomfortable or not, but I feel very good anyway.
Marriage is complicated. If you don’t simplify it, it will make it worse if you accumulate too much small things. I don’t want to be crushed by the trivial life, I don’t want to put myself under ideological pressure, I don’t want to think about how outsiders will view it if I don’t interact with my mother-in-law, and how I like it. This is not something I should care about.
Honest people should not be too kind, otherwise they will only be good and bullied by others .
Things are impermanent. Only by being a not-kind and honest person can you calmly deal with changing lives; when you meet someone who is an honest person, you will naturally know how to get along with him; when you meet someone who is an honest person, you will show your strength and you cannot always hurt yourself.
As for how others view us, how to define us, and how to get along with us, it is not something we should consider. Anyway, it’s best if they are kind, if they are not kind, just wait for them to shoot themselves in the foot!
