Early this summer, I attended a class reunion for high school graduates and met old classmates whom I had not met for 30 years. There is no need to say much about the excitement and emotion. What really shocked me was everyone's marriage status. One-third of the divorced people account for, and one-third of the people are preparing to divorce. The remaining part, under everyone's questioning, showed a sad look on his face and said: The children are so old and are middle-aged, what else can I say? Someone is drinking to cover his face and calls on the sky to ask those who are happy in marriage to stand up and let everyone see light and hope. Everyone looked around, but no one stood up. So, everyone sat down and looked helpless, with their faces full of helplessness.
There is a so-called successful person who had not yet achieved his pursuit of the school beauty back then, but now he is not the same as before, so he still has not fulfilled his wish. After the party, he must invite the school beauty back then to have another tea. While driving to find a tea place, his wife called. The two of them answered questions and answers, very fluent and calm. Question: "Is the party over?" Answer: "It's over." Question: "Are you on the way home?" Answer: "Of course." Question: "When will you get home?" Answer: "I can't say it's right. ***! It's a bodily." Facing his former lover, he couldn't help but lie to his wife. He laughed at himself, "Yes, lying, you lie, there is no way, you can only exchange lies for peace!" When it comes to drinking tea and chatting, he habitually always mentions his wife.
He said to his former lover: "Fashion magazines are still very good now. My wife often reads fashion magazines and learns a lot of things, beauty, cooking, and women." He also said: "You should drink milk tea. Women need calcium supplements when they reach a certain age. My wife is still young, so she started drinking milk tea." As a result, the school beauty decisively left. A date that was thirty years late broke out in chaos.
In this way, love is a terrible thing, it will make deception hurt marriage anytime and anywhere; and marriage is also a terrible thing, it will unknowingly interfere with love with stubborn old living habits. This is a very chaotic contradiction. In terms of cause and effect, marriage is probably the culprit. If marriage does not have a series of standard requirements, such as loyalty, responsibility, and obligations, then there will be no deception or interference. Regardless of whether this logic is too simple, in today's world, the proportion of marriage crisis and marriage exhaustion is so high, the contradiction between marriage and love is so common, and the meaning of life in marriage is unprecedentedly questioned, forcing us to fundamentally ask the question: Should we get married?
Should we get married? What is marriage? Is marriage a lifestyle that best suits human nature? Is it too childish and ridiculous to require men and women to have sex only if they accept public legal terms in the name of the law? Although Marriage Law also stipulates freedom of divorce, it firmly refuses divorce due to extramarital love, but it often proves that a bad marriage is another love relationship. There is no identification without comparison. This is a well-known truth. So, what exactly is it better for us to do? Thirty years ago, a group of energetic teenagers were all in the marriage thirty years later. This is a shocking fact.
In the present world, except for marriage, almost everything is progressing, and all contracts and contracts are becoming more and more perfect, striving for fairness, rationality and science. Only the rules of marriage seem to be getting older and unable to follow suit. It was about a long time ago that we played an impulse love game into a legal clause. We set the rules of marriage to be too sacred, too strict, too heavy and too nervous. In fact, the essence of human civilization is to require the reproduction and progress of human health. As long as people can form stable cells in the social framework and satisfy their own life happiness, it is a relatively perfect form. However, our marriage only values both genders’ loyalty and regards loyalty as the only vow of marriage. Our marriage rituals are almost religious. In marriages that are almost religious, it is certainly difficult for people to obtain non-religious worldly happiness.
It is certain that no matter whether the marriage exists or not, there will be many men and women in love who will grow old until they grow old. We are willing to grow old until we grow old because we love. Love is the most unforgivable personal will of human beings. Therefore, we should establish some lifestyle that does not force love. French philosopher Jacques Derrida suggested changing "marriage" to "union civil", and some people translated this word as "secular union". I looked up the dictionary and thought it was better to translate it literally as "polite alliance".
Humans can completely change their thinking and let men and women sign a "polite alliance" agreement to replace marriage. Since it is an agreement, there can be more humane and perfect terms. Based on the principle of voluntary, this agreement will pay more attention to respect and understanding, communication and cooperation, constraints and freedom between sexual partners. The corresponding professional management company will also come into being in society. Is a man and a woman willing to live together? There is still merciless love between them? Will truly become personal privacy. Once there is a problem, the two parties will coordinate according to their agreement with the management company. Just imagine, what would happen if there was no religious complex for marriage, no public moral judgment, no threat and severe punishment from legal provisions, no impact on the success or failure of a marriage on the success or failure of a personal career, but just a personal matter?
Think about it. Think about it. Thinking is always beneficial. Since many people do not admit that marriage is a happy one, it is always OK to think about it.
