"Internal consumption" is what we often call self-consuming. This type of people are easily trapped in a series of bad emotions such as sensitivity, anxiety, anxiety, and self-blame. In the process of constantly defaming themselves, they gradually become depressed and pessimistic.
There is an aunt of this type. She is particularly sensitive and anxious. She always extracts bad comments about herself in other people's daily chats.
A joke that others were talking nonsense. She burst into emotions immediately after hearing it, thinking that others were picking on her, and even rose to the point where she felt that others looked down on her.
Others toasted and said, "Take good health." She felt that others were not in good health.
Someone had a dinner party and said, "You ordered the dishes very well, everyone finished eating." She felt that others said she was stingy and ordered few dishes.
Her mental internal friction not only makes herself exhausted, but also makes her children worry about suffering.
She always tells her troubles in front of outsiders, either her neighbor is bad or her husband is bad. When people see her, they feel heavy and irritable.
So how can you become a person who does not intra-spiritual internal friction?
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Enter more positive energy to yourself
km3 I believe everyone has heard of Xianglin Sao's story. After her son was taken away by a wolf and eaten by it, she kept crying to others about her tragic experiences, but over time, people began to get tired of her.
Then why did many people sympathize with her at the beginning and eventually become disliked by others?
Because no one will like people full of negative energy.
The energy in people’s heart is conserved. If you receive too much negative energy, you will naturally lose a lot of positive energy.
All sentient beings are suffering. People are suffering in this life, so people will instinctively chase people and things that make you feel happy and happy.
Don’t just talk about your own suffering when you meet others, otherwise you will not change anything except for making people laugh at you and then looking down on you.
You should know that only physical pain is impossible to relieve, while inner pain can gradually disappear through your practice.
people have only more than 30,000 days in their entire life. After deducting the present, maybe your remaining life is only more than 10,000 or 20,000 days.
You need to input more positive energy to yourself, get closer to nature, bathe in the warmth of the sun, feel the gentleness of the sea breeze, and listen carefully to the sound of flowers blooming and snow falling.
People have a day of happiness in this life, and it is also a day of unhappiness.
You must create more beautiful memories of your own , so that when you are old and sit by the stove, your life will have something worth remembering.
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Thinking more, it is better to do more
Anxiety and uneasiness come from your dissatisfaction with your current situation and the pain of being unable to change.
Southern Song Poet Xin Qiji once wrote, "Sighing life, unsatisfactory things, eight out of ten times."
Especially in today's society where information is well developed and the gap between the rich and the poor is getting bigger and bigger, people around them are buying houses and cars on their circle of friends, wearing brand-name clothes, carrying luxury bags, traveling around, and having a cool and comfortable life.
But you may face the dilemma of not finding a job or being about to lose your job.
But life will not become better because of your complaints and dissatisfaction. It will only cause you to fall into the abyss of self-internal friction.
Tagore once said: "When you cry to miss the sun, you will definitely miss the stars and the moon."
Don't be trapped in a bad mentality for a long time, you must learn to pay attention to the people and things in front of you.
Learn the spirit of Ah Q. If you lose love, you can be glad that you still have the ability to love.
If you lose your job, you can be glad that you have a healthy body.
A African female writer Mo Yue once said: "The best time to plant a tree is ten years ago, followed by now." "
Some people also said: "The more incompetent and anxious you are, the more fulfilled and safe you are."
To overcome anxiety, you must first act. You can walk and watch while learning and doing. This is the best way for you to grow up.
instead of lying on the sofa and complaining, constantly consuming your energy.
Action, dreams will never be as good as doing it immediately.
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Reflect on yourself
People who are prone to blame themselves are always full of inferiority and anxiety.
It is easy to overreflect on yourself when encountering things, and think that all the bad situations are because you have not done well.
Dear friends, it is your first time, why should you give in to him (her).
When others commit cold violence against you and hurt you verbally, have you ever thought that you will be sad?
So, don't be afraid to reject others, and let you go You must speak up unfair things bravely.
Don’t be afraid of offending others. If you make you uncomfortable, you must make the other person feel uncomfortable on the spot.
Don’t care too much about other people’s feelings. What you need more is to care more about your own personal feelings.
Don’t be wronged by anyone who has wronged you.
Your gentleness and considerate does not have to be at the expense of your own feelings.
Sometimes you are not doing badly, but doing too well, making people arrogant.
Please pay more attention to yourself and the people worthy of your life.
Ye Yuxinyu: Life is short, don’t waste time on spiritual internal friction. You should contact more people who bring you positive energy and charge your spiritual world more; if you feel anxious, then act immediately, don’t just think about it and waste your life; blame yourself for not doing well, and firmly believe that you are the best.
OK This article ends here, I hope it will be helpful to everyone.
