I have heard of a "crab law".
says that if you put a crab in the bamboo basket, then you have to cover the lid to prevent it from crawling out.
However, if you put a few more in, you don’t have to cover the lid.
Because whenever a crab is about to climb out, other crabs will drag it down.
People who can’t stand you will also set up many obstacles to your life journey like crabs in a bamboo basket.
It is wise to stay away in time when you meet such a person.
People who can’t stand you will pour cold water on you
When we achieve some results through our own efforts, we often desire to get recognition and encouragement from people around us.
The appreciation of people around us often doubles our enthusiasm and gives us more courage to face the next challenges.
Some people see that we have achieved results, not only will they not encourage us, but will also pour cold water on us and raise various "questions" in an attempt to make us lose the motivation to move forward.
They even advise us to give up in time under the banner of being good for us. People like
are people who can’t stand us well.
When a person first achieved some results, his self-confidence was very fragile.
When faced with others' "splashing cold water", it is most likely to develop self-doubt and lose the courage to move forward.
Some people, while pouring cold water, will also make some "suggestions" falsely.
However, this kind of advice is worthless.
This is just a little trick that those who "shame our good people" are playing.
People who can’t stand your good deeds will reveal your shortcomings in public
Someone said, “The ones that can hurt you are often the people you are closest to.”
agrees deeply.
The closer the relationship is, the clearer it will understand your background. When you hurt you, the more you can find your weaknesses.
People who can’t stand you are often people who are close to you.
After they find that your popularity has overwhelmed themselves, they will choose to expose your shortcomings in public to destroy your reputation.
When you refute, they will say with confidence: "Aren't what I said?"
But the question is, should the facts be said so?
Everyone has their own unknown private matters.
Wanderingly promotes others' privacy, thereby affecting the normal life of others, which is extremely immoral.
Some people will also embarrass you in public under the banner of "giving opinions".
"Give suggestions" is a good thing and can help us make progress.
However, "providing opinions" does not need to be mentioned in public, but you can also mention them in private.
As long as you can discover and solve the problem, it is enough.
People who must give their opinions in "publicly" are often not to let you correct your mistakes, but to make you look ugly in public.
Only by recognizing who truly wishes to be good and who cannot stand it can one stay away from unnecessary harm.
People who can’t stand your good deeds will set limits for you everywhere
Some people say: "The strong help each other, and the weak step on each other."
In life, we will find that some people themselves are "sparrows", but they do not allow the people around them to become "swallows".
Once they find that the people around them have the idea of becoming a "swallow", they will spare no effort to "sarcastically".
until the other party dispels the "sweet ambition". People like
are too lazy to fly, but they don’t allow others to fly.
If the other party does not listen to their "advice" and "will do it alone", they will keep a close eye on the other party's behavior.
Once the other party makes a "small" mistake, they will continue to magnify to prove that the other party is the fate of a "snake". If you want to become a "swallow", it is just "too ambitious".
Under this series of "restrictions", few people can keep their original intentions in mind.
"Walking with tigers and wolves must be a beast."
Only by staying away from those who do not want to fly but prevent others from flying can you get rid of the constraints and move forward lightly.
Conclusion:
Keigo Higashino said: "There are two things in this world that cannot be looked directly at. One is the sun and the other is the heart of the people."
If we are too "optimistic" to people's hearts, then we may pay a heavy price.
Only by seeking truth from facts, abandoning the "taken for granted" view, and judging a person by behavior can we make the most accurate judgment.
May you and me be able to recognize people with keen eyes, be close to good people, and stay away from villains.
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