I have heard this saying: "The reason why people are unhappy is because they want too many things."
And those who are truly mature and can truly achieve great things are those who can "let go".
Because they understand and know how to let go, they can move forward better.
Let go of the "psychological burden"
There is a saying in the Tao Te Ching, "Which fame is close to the body? Who is more important to the body or the goods? Which one is more harmful to the gain or the death?."
This sentence means, which one is closer to fame and fortune and your own life? Is my life as heavy as the profits? What is the same as gain and loss?
Perhaps in life, many people think that face is greater than anything else. Once someone makes you lose face, it is to hurt your dignity and humiliate your self-esteem.
But face does not equal dignity.
There is a fable in "Mencius" about "Qi people begging for food":
There is a 2 people from Qi State who come home every day, with the satisfaction of eating and drinking, and boasting about his wives and concubines, he was invited to dinner by rich and powerful people.
But no rich and powerful person came to visit the house. After a long time, the wife became suspicious and decided to secretly follow her husband.
The result was found that her husband actually went to a cemetery in the east of the city and asked the tribute man for the leftovers.
is obviously begging, but he brags about being invited by someone for the sake of face, which really corresponds to the saying "Silver and money are like dirt, but face is worth a thousand gold."
It is certainly nothing wrong to cherish "feathers", but deceiving yourself and persisting in mistakes for the sake of face will become the most faceless thing. People like
need too much face, often take themselves too seriously, and overestimate how much others care about themselves. In psychology, this kind of psychology is called " focus effect ".
However, in the eyes of others, perhaps we are not that important, because the "good face" caused by the focus effect is just a "psychological burden" of self-blessing.
So, don’t be mentally smeared for the irrelevant things around you, and don’t change yourself to cater to other people’s expectations.
Successful people often know how to "let go"
More than two thousand years ago, Zhao Guo was surrounded by the Qin army, Pingyuan Jun was ordered to go to Chu Guo for help. When choosing the person to follow, Mao Sui ignored the ridiculed gaze of other guests and stepped forward and seriously "selled" themselves.
Surprisingly, Mao Sui played a decisive role in this negotiation and has since been regarded as a guest of honor by Pingyuan Jun.
Many people envy Mao Sui’s good luck, but ignore that he took the first step that others dared not take due to "face".
However, it has made Mao Sui and many successful people from ancient and modern times, both at home and abroad.
Because you don’t have “face”, you can seize opportunities and have a good attitude when facing setbacks. This is the greatest wisdom in life. Only by putting it down can you live a good life
"Therefore, heaven will give great responsibilities to people, they must first suffer their minds, muscles and bones, hungry their bodies, empty their bodies, and act and chaotic what they do, so they are moved and endured, which has made them unable to do so."
Han XinHang Xin Hang resisted the humiliation under the crotch and became the general who commanded the millions of troops;
Monster Yue Goujian Hang suffered all the humiliation of the King of Wu, slept with firewood and tasted gall, three thousand Yue Jia, and finally destroyed Wu Kingdom ;
Cao Xueqin's family fell into trouble, and endured the ridicule of people in the market, and "Dream of the Red Chamber ".
Growing up in suffering is an indispensable part of life. Keep an optimistic heart and life will definitely favor you.
Learn to let go of fame and fortune, let go of sadness, grudges, let go of others' evaluations, and learn to live your own life.
Learn to let go and wait for the flowers to bloom.
Source | Youshu; Fushu; Baoputang;
