Is it important whether a couple lives together or not?
Some people say it is not important. The reason is that marriage is rooted in reality. If both husband and wife take on their own responsibilities, they can live a good life. There is no need to emphasize love too much. The reason is that traditional couples met on blind dates, obey the orders of their parents, enter the marriage hall, and have no love to speak of, and their life after marriage is still very good.
Compared with traditional blind dates, many of those couples who get married because they are in love choose to break up because they don’t fall in love after marriage. On the contrary, those couples who originally did not love each other have a stable life after marriage. The reason is that they did not expect too much "love". Since there is no expectation, there will be no big gap and disappointment.
It seems that what they said may make some sense. However, it is so boring to marry someone you don’t love and there is no love in your life! Even if the life after marriage is maintained, it is just a matter of mutual benefit, not a "happy and happy life"; those couples who are bound by love will become deeper and deeper, more stable and more happy after marriage. Of course, there are also those who become weaker after marriage. At this time, they will choose to end their marriage and find their own happiness again. This is not a responsible attitude towards their own life. Compared with two people who have never loved each other, it is not a kind of happiness.
Really, "mutual love" is very important for couples to live. Do you know both of them?
(I) The disadvantages of not loving each other:
1. It is hard to live together. The two of them clearly look down on each other, but they enter the palace of marriage because they "lived together, shared the pressure of life with each other, and completed the normal life process." After marriage, the two of them look down on each other and often complain about each other, thinking that the other is boring. This may be a hardship for the two of them.
2. No love, no trust, no communication, many problems cannot be solved. If two people love each other, value each other, care about each other's feelings, and trust each other, many problems can be solved through communication. However, if two people do not love each other and do not have a certain emotional foundation, when the two people have differences and conflicts, they lack sufficient trust and poor communication, which often makes many problems unable to be resolved through communication. At this time, they may fall into a dispute and finally compromise with each other in a dispute.
(II) Benefits of mutual love:
1. Appreciate each other and enjoy the eyes. Two people appreciate each other and never get tired of seeing each other. They feel that living with each other is a kind of happiness. They like to live together, and their quality of life after marriage is often not bad.
2. Help each other and make each other successful. Two people who love each other will take each other to heart, care about each other's feelings, and think about doing something to help each other. At the same time, in their married life, they can support each other, support each other, advance and retreat together.
3. Accompany until old age, the phoenix flies. "If you win the heart of one person, you will never be separated from each other." Two people who love each other enter the palace of marriage and still talk about love after marriage. This is originally a very beautiful thing. After marriage, they live a life of "only envy the mandarin ducks but not the immortals". The phoenix flies, and they will never be separated from each other until they are happy until they are old.
(III) How to do it?
In fact, in marriage, it is really important for couples to live their lives.
If you want to achieve this, you must understand:
Before marriage, you must seek true love decisively. If what you encounter is not true love, you must avoid it decisively. Life after marriage is very long. You should find someone who really likes and the other person loves you deeply as your lifelong companion.
After marriage, treat true love well. If you have to meet your soul mate, join hands with him to enter the palace of marriage. If you want to carry out love to the end, you must know how to treat the other person well and live a good life with the other person.
