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and the in-laws. It needs to be maintained with care the most. After all, the good or bad relationship with the in-laws affects the relationship between two families, or even the family.
Some marriages have cracks at the beginning, which is mostly related to not knowing how to deal with the relationship with the in-laws.
Either some people treat the relationship too politely, or they think of the other party as a confidant and offend him without paying attention.
In order to better maintain the relationship between the two families, no matter who you are in-laws with, you must keep these care, otherwise you will easily suffer losses.
1: Don’t treat your in-laws as friends. The etiquette will become more and more casual, which will hurt your affection.
No matter how well you get along with your in-laws, you cannot treat your in-laws as friends, so that you will become more and more casual in terms of etiquette. They won't believe in your randomness because you treat him as a friend.
He will only believe in the fact that you neglect your in-laws.
The straight man Hua suffered a loss on this. He got along like a good friend with his in-laws. He made an appointment to play chess and climb mountains every day. Because of his good relationship, during festivals, his in-laws always told him:
"For the relationship between us, can we still need to consolidate by giving gifts?"
Uncle Hua's family is not very wealthy. Of course, he wants to save as much as possible when he hears this, so he cancels the gifts he ordered for his in-laws without authorization.
But who knew that Uncle Hua's in-laws was just polite words at the time, but Uncle Hua took it seriously and did not even prepare a copy of Bo Li for the in-laws.
times, and Uncle Hua's in-laws were getting more and more upset when Uncle Hua saw that Uncle Hua was getting more and more upset, so except for the necessary contacts during the holidays, the in-laws were unwilling to walk around their houses.
No matter how good the relationship with the in-laws is, the etiquette you should have must not be less. Never think that you can treat the other party as an ordinary friend. This is a taboo in the in-laws relationship.
It’s not surprising that there are many gifts, but it’s rare to be strangers. I hope you don’t be so stupid, treat your in-laws as ordinary friends, and even believe in the other party’s polite words. If you believe it, it will be miserable. The relationship with your in-laws is the most difficult to repair. The taboos you have committed today require a lot of effort to make up for.
2: Don’t treat your in-laws as people on the same front, and just blame the other party’s children
’s relationship with your in-laws is like two neighboring countries. If you want to live in peace, you must not interfere in the other party’s internal affairs, nor can you blame the other party’s people at will. The same is true for using
in relationships with in-laws. No matter how good your relationship is, you cannot regard your in-laws as people on the same front, nor can you blame the other party’s children casually.
This is a prerequisite for maintaining peace and promoting good development.
Uncle Hua has a low emotional intelligence and is in charge of things that make people extremely angry. When he had a good relationship with his in-laws, he talked about the other party’s daughter’s bad habits and some bad tempers in front of him more than once.
At that time, the in-laws didn't say anything. Uncle Hua thought that the in-laws knew the problem of his daughter, so he spoke out without hesitation, without paying attention to the other party's darker and darker face.
It was also since then that my in-laws began to deliberately alienate him, and even if they met him on the street, they would deliberately take a detour.
In fact, no one who doesn’t love their children is actually a parent. They are worried that their children will suffer grievances in other people’s homes after getting married, but it is impossible to stop them from entering the footsteps of finding happiness in marriage.
At this time, if you, as a in-law, are you picky about the other party’s child, isn’t it just confirming that his child is wronged?
While he feels sorry for his children, he will also feel resentful towards you. Of course, he will no longer be willing to interact with you. It is rare not to break up.
at the end:
No matter who you are in-laws with, you must pay attention to these two thoughts, otherwise you will appear passive in this relationship.
If the heart of the in-laws is hurt, it will affect the happiness of the couple. Therefore, when dealing with the in-laws, you must be cautious in your words and actions and be cautious in your actions.
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