In recent days, I have talked to many friends, including old friends who have known each other for many years and fans who have been online cloud knowledge for a while.
I found that in addition to the daily complaints about the inconvenience brought to life by the "mask problem", most of you show a sense of strangeness to your current living situation. The simple desire to live a down-to-earth life as before seems particularly difficult now.
So, how should we live now has to arouse our thinking?
Make money without distractions? Can you earn
? Where to make money?
Hot work?
can be kept alone in the whirlpool of "office politics" and "involvement"?
Choose an escape-style life, lie flat and Buddhist?
Do you have capital?
Can you remove the "burden" on your body and withstand the pressure from your family and social concepts?
Obviously, the conflict between reality and ideal is becoming increasingly serious, and the fundamental reason is that our bodies have gone through the "absolute value" of a specific historical period, but our hearts have not kept up.
The harmony of life must come from the synchronization of the body and mind. When the body enjoys the progress of civilization, the heart must accept the progress of civilization.
Otherwise, you will be as confused and unfamiliar as you are now.
Today's article, let's talk about how we should adjust our concept of life to fit the times.
1-Don't drag it on, the most important thing is to avoid indecisiveness
First of all, we must have a basic understanding, that is, we did row the same boat together, but now we travel our own way, and only we can be responsible for ourselves.
So, don’t fall into the water and you are reluctant to let go of your old “cotton jacket”. Many things must be cut by quickly. The sooner you get it, the better.
For example, marriage, although those who do not marry now have their own reasons, marriage is still the top priority in life at this stage.
A good marriage is like a "big rear" that can give you rest and provide you with continuous supply, allowing you to suck 200% of your energy to face life, even if it is vast or emptying the turbid waves, it is the same for men and women.
And if you drag a messy marriage forward, then it's like carrying a huge rock. If you are pushed back by the east wind, you will eventually run out of your energy.
The emotional nourishment and life encouragement between lovers are powerful, but the spiritual destruction and life hurt between lovers are also destroyed.
Therefore, I always agree with the concept of "I would rather be single than to settle down" that many young people now adhere to, and even more agree with the cold-blooded way of cutting off the marriage and cutting off the knife.
Today's era, for the kind of feelings that have broken up and become enemies, don't be lucky and try to influence them, and don't hesitate because of your fantasy future difficulties. You can't influence anyone.
The older generation's concept of "sharing destiny" has long been developed to "move forward together". Only a relationship that can work together can be harmonious and worth redeeming!
Another problem is work. I have analyzed more than once that a large part of work can no longer provide us with a sense of accomplishment and value. Unless you have a great career or "money future", work can no longer become the fulcrum of the meaning of our life.
Most of the work is now just a means for us to obtain health care.
So, if a job has neither a "money prospect", no room for promotion, nor can you continue to increase your value, but it is filled with endless " intravolume ", "assessment", and "office politics".
Then don’t hesitate and leave as soon as possible, because it is like a slush of mud. If you stay for a day, you will fall into it for a day. After you are completely trapped in, it will be difficult to think about it again.
If you have a burden and cannot be free and easy, then don’t really spend your energy on such a job, learn to improve in private, save enough capital, and prepare for getting out.
Finally, it is those trivial and bad things in daily life, such as driving a fight, arguing with bad people on the street, being petty, fighting for penny, falling into a long-term struggle for some small profits, etc.
Life is just over 30,000 days, and you may have done too many things. You waste time on these things. Even if you fight for face and interests, you will lose money by calculating big accounts.
Therefore, the pattern should be big. As long as it does not involve a big principled issue, even if you suffer a little loss, get out of it as soon as possible and do what you should do, the wisest choice is.
2-Growing up
Nowadays, many people have misunderstandings about the word "growth". They always regard the tendency to be worldly and the smart calculation as progress. In fact, this is a kind of regression and a kind of paranoidness.
The real growth of this era begins with reconciliation between oneself and oneself.
should make self-cognition easier, ambition ordinary, and self-righteous!
This is the level that each of us must pass.
As a person, you must not feel that you are different from others. That is the childish "middle school" mentality of children.
Don’t always keep your ambitions in your heart and keep them in your heart. If you carefully understand life, you will find that the great achievement pattern of a person can have in this life, you will have your own luck.
Whether it can be accomplished or not, and how big it can be accomplished, ultimately, you cannot do it without yourself.
All you have to do is to "do your best" based on your ideals. What level does it ultimately depends on "destiny" and it is not up to you to decide.
There is also, and don’t be arrogant. Looking down on all living beings from the perspective of God, no one looks down on them. This world is never black or white. Everyone is drunk and I am awake alone is ridiculed from history.
Don’t be hostile to the “evil” in your eyes, and don’t be disdainful of the “good” in other people’s mouths. Yin and Yang are always inseparable. There is yang in Yin and Yin in Yang. As a person, you should “bear Yin and embrace Yang”. You should understand the things on the Yin side, but your heart always faces the Yang side and does things towards the Yang side.
As the poem says:
Good is like green pine and evil is like flowers, look at what is worse than it in front of you.
One day I was beaten by frost and saw the green pine trees and no flowers were seen.
You must truly understand these principles and take the world lightly to truly grow.
3-Being a human and circle
Now we have entered an era of resource first, and resources will surely give birth to circles, and the only way of flow of resources is social.
The most essential reason why we cannot make money, do things, and cannot break through our existing living situation is the solidification of our social circle.
is mixed in a circle of friends who are chaotic and unwilling to make progress all day long. Will your life be the same as being in a healthy circle of friends who learn self-discipline and help each other to grow?
Play cards all night long and drunk, and study, exercise every day, and arrange the rhythm of work and life in a moderate and reasonable manner. Which one is better?
often engage in social interactions with seniority, cross-field, high circles, and deep social interactions. Will the future life be the same with friends who are both friends who are the same as the world?
Therefore, today's era cannot be "Water Margin"-style social interaction. We must know how to purify the circle of friends. In addition to those who are really close friends and friends, some "lively" social interactions must be rejected because they are really meaningless.
Secondly, today's social methods have also been much simpler.
Don’t learn those "loach" skills that are so sensible, good-for-all, and versatile. The lively scenes that are often accompanied by unreliable things.
Want to find someone to do business, "Huazi", "Taizi", and "notes" are enough, there is no need to talk about feelings.
If you make friends with others sincerely, you still rely on your own reliability and sincerity.
Those who are silent but honest, have explanations for everything, are serious about everything, are always open and honest, treat others sincerely, all like to make friends with them, and resources and opportunities are often found by themselves.
Let’s talk about so much today. In short, the principle is only one sentence. People are important to know the momentum, follow the trend, and constantly adjust themselves. Life experience is valuable, but conservative ideas are not desirable!
