The two newly married two love each other, accompanying each other, and vowing to grow old together slowly.
When time goes by and love is gone, most people lose to reality and start quarreling over family trivial matters and even taking action. They have to embark on the road of divorce.
Someone who is a little unhappy will think of divorce. It feels that life is really hard, but when you really divorce, you will realize that your choice is wrong.
No matter who it is, after divorce, they will still continue to work during the day and sleep at night. When they first divorced, they will go through the first stage, but it is difficult for anyone to survive the second stage.
1, Divorce is too free
When my colleague first divorced, she told me: Divorce is too free. I'm a little surprised, is divorce cool? Don’t everyone who divorces are very sad?
Xiaojing told me: It’s not difficult for me to get through, I can finally live by myself.
I can finally think about how late I go to bed. I no longer need to look at my mother-in-law's face, no longer need to help my husband wash smelly socks, no longer need to worry about being abandoned by my husband because he bought a few clothes.
Marriage has certain constraints for women, and divorce is a relief for them.
Xiaojing and her husband divorced not because of big conflicts, but because some trivial facts in life made her unable to bear it.
Three years after getting married, my husband has never seen him cook or wash clothes, and he is still a mother-in-law. My mother-in-law always makes things difficult for her, and her husband dares not say a word.
Xiaojing is really fed up with such a life. She wants to divorce in the first year of marriage.
But her family suggested that divorced women would be despised and it would be difficult to remarry after divorce.
So Xiaojing endured it for another two years. In the end, she really didn't want to live such a life, so she divorced without telling her parents.
Xiaojing after divorce is like regaining freedom. At this stage of divorce, many women feel very free and relaxed.
But as the timeline extends, your inner emotions will also change.
2: The house is too big, so lonely
A month after the divorce, Xiaoling began to come to me with a sad face: she said she felt so lonely.
I asked her: Some time ago, didn’t you think divorce is very free?
It was indeed the case some time ago, but now what I miss is the kindness of my ex-husband.
Although my ex-husband doesn’t like doing housework, he buys my favorite cake every time he goes home;
Although he has a bad temper, he will coax me in a different way every time I get angry.
Although her mother-in-law is difficult to get along with, she can always make my favorite food;
Although she will cause me trouble, she is worried that I want me to stay for a few more days during the Spring Festival... Thinking of this, I regret divorce now. I live alone, the house is so big and lonely.
This stage is something that many divorced women will experience and is also the most difficult past.
Step out of marriage, your life state has completely changed. There was once a room where two people had three meals. After the divorce, the woman without children was alone.
No matter how bad your ex-husband is, you will miss his goodness and you will regret the divorce.
A woman who is rational enough will restrain herself, and a woman who is unreasonable enough will even go to remarry her ex-husband. People always do this, don't care when they have
. When you lose it, you will think of all kinds of beauty.
But there is no room for recovery in many things. When you make your choice, for better or worse, you should be mature.
3: Marriage is not the whole of life
A year after divorce, I asked Xiaojing: Are you still sad now?
She replied indifferently: Everything in the past has passed, I have let it go. Marriage is not the whole of life.
Divorced women can get rebirth after they have survived the second stage. Divorce is emotional trauma to anyone.
For a long time, you will feel uneasy. When you truly figure it out and let go, your life will make new progress.
After divorce, you will find that divorce is not that scary and you can handle everything in life.
I used to think that marriage is an indispensable product for women in their lifetime, but now you find that marriage is optional.
Freedom/Loneliness/Let go, the three most difficult stages of women after divorce, many people cannot tolerate the second stage.
In fact, divorce is the norm of marriage. The pace of modern life is getting faster and faster, women's awareness of independence is getting stronger and stronger, and the proportion of divorce is getting higher and higher.
Divorce is a barrier to life, but it won't determine the whole thing of your life.
Finally, I hope every divorced woman can live a stronger life and support her day.
