The reader wrote a letter saying:
My hometown is a county in Sichuan, I went to a university in Kunming, and after graduating from university, I stayed in Kunming to work hard for my career. Regarding Kunming, my understanding is: income is not worthy of expenditure, and the climate is comfortable. Currently, I rent a house in the urban village, with a monthly rent of 500 yuan. In a provincial capital, it is a great blessing to have such a cheap rent.
Nowadays, I am 32 years old, I don’t have much savings, my job is a mess, I don’t even have a girlfriend, and I feel like I’m just a waste.
Once upon a time, my fantasy life: I have a stable job, a girl I love and love. In my spare time, we can watch movies, go shopping, and travel together; and my actual life is: I once met a girl, because my family was poor, and the girl broke up with me after a few months. During our relationship, I dared not take each other to watch movies, and rarely take each other shopping on weekdays. As for travel, I can only imagine that, in addition to work, I just wrapped myself in that rented room of less than ten square meters and played games and videos. This kind of life lasts for a long time, and I feel a little confused and dream of becoming a rich man, but I am still a poor man.
I don’t want to think about the future now, because thinking too much is in vain. I feel that I have to just live a life.
The truth I understand: Only by working hard can you have a good life. In fact, I work very hard at work and am more friendly to my colleagues after work. But over the years of working, the biggest change in income is that it has increased from less than 3,000 yuan when I first started working to 5,000 yuan now. To be honest, working in a private company, it is already very good to have a monthly income of 5,000 yuan (in Kunming). So much so that I didn't have the courage to quit.
Maybe my family’s foundation is too thin, which makes me unable to buy a house now and I don’t have the good luck to meet a girl who is willing to share the joys and sorrows with me. So much so that I have lost the motivation to move forward in the face of life now. I can only go to and from get off work mechanically every day, and this kind of life is very boring.
Muzili Emotional analysis:
Many people spend their family money when they are in college and have various dreams about the future. I remember when I first graduated from college, I encountered a bottleneck when I was looking for a job. I even had this idea: as long as an employer is willing to accept me, even if I give me a small salary or don’t pay me a salary. The biggest trouble at that time was that I was unwilling to stay at home, so I was worried about me. However, with the age of age, we will face many things: getting married, having children, buying a house. In this case, no matter how difficult life is, we must force ourselves to move forward. It’s not just that you want to be rich, I believe everyone wants to be rich. But what life feedbacks to us is: money is hard to make and shit is hard to eat.
Many people will find such a cruel reality in the process of striving for their careers. Even if they have worked very hard at work, they may not be able to get satisfactory results (mainly at the income level). There are some people around them who don’t need to work too hard at all and can live a much glamorous life than you. In this case, you will feel that society is unfair, so that some people learn to just live, learn to accept their fate, and learn to no longer be enemies of the world when facing life. Regarding making money, it not only requires hard work, but also factors such as platform, parents’ ability to help, seize opportunities, and personality. I still hope you: Don’t be decadent and give up. It’s better to still have hope for the future than to be a waste of time, although sometimes you will gain setbacks.
Why do people choose real estate developers with relatively good quality when buying a house: 1) Worry about the unfinished house; 2) Worry about the quality of the house not being up to standard. Why do some people prefer to spend more money than live in high-quality communities: 1) The quality of the people living in the community is generally relatively high; 2) If neighbors can help, it is also an invisible connection for themselves.Why do people send their children to schools with better teaching quality? 1) The teaching staff is strong; 2) It can provide children with an atmosphere of study hard; 3) The quality of students children make is relatively high (after entering society, the help between classmates may be more obvious). To this end, I will give you a slightly pertinent suggestion: find a community that is almost the same, even if you share a living room with others, your thoughts may change as the living environment changes.
needs to be admitted that it is indeed not an easy task to integrate into a higher circle. But it needs to be admitted that for all ordinary workers, not only earn hard-earned money, but also the boss scolds you and his own circle. If you can get to know some people who can help you at work after work, please seize the opportunity. Before the opportunity comes, you need to continue to accumulate connections and experience at work. Sometimes a person's life is wonderful: if you have an opportunity to be competent and you are caught by yourself, you may be able to change your life. Before this opportunity comes, don’t give up on yourself. Perhaps it will be very difficult in a life without parents' help and fighting alone, but after choosing decadence, life will become even more difficult.
Life has always followed this rule: win the king and defeat the enemy. It means that after your career is successful, your experience will be listened to by others; if you do not have a successful career, your communication with others will only be regarded as nonsense by others. However, there are still many people who have great ambitions but have been mediocre all their lives. At least when recalling the past, they feel that they have at least worked hard, not because they have not worked hard and can only miss it when the opportunity comes. Although only by working hard can you have a good life sometimes it is just a word of encouragement, which may not become a reality, but if you look at the people around you who don’t work hard, you will find that there is actually a gap in their lives after you work hard (compare those who don’t work hard with similar family backgrounds).
Regarding love, two people need to like each other in order to get the result of marriage. It is not ruled out that there are actually some girls in life who have a good impression of you but are neglected by you. If you meet a girl who cares a little about you in your life, you might as well give the other party the same response and attention, which may eventually lead to the result of marriage. People’s difficulties in the field of love are often because: the person you like doesn’t like you, and the person you likes doesn’t like. There is a classic quote in the emotional world: I am not noble, I just don’t love you (you can savor this sentence). In fact, each of us will have this attitude in the process of finding love: be humble in front of the person we like; be noble in front of the person we don’t like.
Postscript:
often see comments like this below some articles discussing housing prices: either I hope the housing prices can drop to the bargain price, and then consider buying it yourself; or I hope the housing prices will continue to rise, and I don’t plan to buy it anyway. What kind of true comments would be like in the eyes of others: if you can’t eat grapes, you will say that grapes are sour. There are too many things in life that you cannot decide, so protect your own acre of land.
Maybe I have worked very hard at work, but I have not allowed myself to live a more comfortable life because of my hard work. At this time, don’t give up on my hard work, or I am indeed a little bit of bad luck. It is not ruled out that I will never have good luck in my life, but if good luck comes to me, at least I must be prepared at any time. Most people have a relatively mediocre life. If they can't starve to death, they may have a different state of mind when facing life.
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