There is a question on Zhihu: Is a marriage that chooses bread happier than a marriage that chooses love?
A 53-year-old aunt uses her real experience to tell us that a marriage to bread is not necessarily very happy.
53-year-old Aunt Zhu has retired for three years and has a monthly pension of 2,000 yuan. Although the money is not much, she can still support herself. However, Aunt Zhu said: "I have a bad life. I have two daughters, but none of them have a great prospect."
Aunt Zhu said, "In fact, I chose to marry a rich old man who is 70 years old because my two daughters are unreliable."
The eldest daughter married far away, and she didn't want to go that far away. One is because she couldn't adapt to the climate and lifestyle of her eldest daughter, and the other is because I prefer my own city to live in another city.
As for the youngest daughter, although she did not marry far away and her son-in-law's family conditions were pretty good, perhaps it is precisely because of this that the son-in-law's parents are always arrogant and even look down on themselves.
In response to this, Aunt Zhu said: "I thought my son-in-law's parents were teachers, with high quality and should be easy to get along with, but I didn't expect that I still thought too much."
Aunt Zhu is not a person who doesn't know how to see the winks. Since the other party does not welcome her, she is unwilling to make trouble for herself. Therefore, since then, she has never been to her younger daughter's house again.
But what makes Ms. Zhu angry is that it is normal for her youngest daughter to go home to see her, but her mother-in-law believes that Ms. Zhu called her daughter-in-law back in order to ask for money. For the sake of her youngest daughter's family, Ms. Zhu can only ask her not to come back to see her.
It is precisely because of this that Aunt Zhu thought of finding a way out for herself. By chance, she met Mr. Zhao, 70, who was 17 years older than her, but Aunt Zhu didn't care about this. After all, Mr. Zhao's financial strength is still very good.
Uncle Zhao not only can receive 6,000 yuan in retirement every month, but also has three houses in the city, one for living alone and the other two for rent collection.
Aunt Zhu said: The other party’s monthly rent is enough for our daily expenses. Therefore, we only spent half a year together, and I immediately got married with him.
In fact, Mr. Zhao also knew very well why Aunt Zhu chose to be with him. The two of them took their needs from the beginning, one for money and the other for someone to take care of.
Before getting married, Mr. Zhao promised Aunt Zhu that he could give Aunt Zhu 5,000 yuan pocket money every month. In addition, if he was taken good care of him, he would also give him a big red envelope of 10,000 yuan at the end of the year. In addition, as long as he could be served for him for a hundred years, after leaving, he could also give Aunt Zhu a separate house.
After marriage, Mr. Zhao still kept his promise. For Aunt Zhu, serving the other party every day is like a job, and his salary is not low.
But as time goes by, all this has changed. Mr. Zhao's temperament is getting more and more uncertain. Maybe he was talking and laughing in the last second, but he turned his back on the next second. Slowly, the feeling of living under someone's roof surged out from the bottom of his heart again.
Aunt Zhu admitted: "Because Lao Zhao has the final say in the family, I have no right to speak at all."
What embarrasses Aunt Zhu even more is that in the eyes of Mr. Zhao's friends, she is not a wife, but a nanny.
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