After falling in love, everyone is looking forward to the long-lasting love, and spending the years ahead with the loved ones. Although this requirement is very low and simple, not everyone can be so lucky.
does not deny that some feelings can go hand in hand to the end, and two people can live happily all the time, but some feelings will change, making it difficult for you to grasp.
Maybe the two people who are still in love today will become familiar strangers tomorrow. There is no sign. If you say you don’t love, you won’t love. It is painful for anyone to lose a lover.
But no matter how painful it is, you have to survive, because love is a matter between two people, not a one-man show. Since he doesn't love you anymore, the best way is not to keep it humbly, but to work hard to do these two things.
Simply put, if you lose someone who doesn’t love you, you will win.
1. Losing you is his loss
When the person you love suddenly doesn’t love you anymore, you will be particularly painful and will look for reasons from yourself, want to work hard to change, just want the other party to stay.
This is what you think and do, but can you really keep the other party? The answer is naturally no. As long as the other party doesn’t love you anymore, no matter how you do it, the other party will not love you.
Simply put, what she doesn’t love you is you, and it has nothing to do with anything else. No matter how you change it, as long as you are still this person, he will not love you.
Losing a person you don’t love is not your own loss, but the other party’s loss.
My friend Xiaomu was in great pain some time ago because the person she loved no longer loved her. Xiaomu didn't know why. Although she begged the other party, it was useless. The other party was determined to leave.
Xiaomu didn't understand why. She cried and asked the other party why, but the other party just said to herself that she didn't love her anymore.
This sentence made Xiaomu difficult to accept. She didn't even believe that the other party didn't love her, but she had difficulties. Maybe it was because of her unscrupulous willingness. In fact, the other party simply did not love her.
Xiaomu couldn't accept it, she begged the other party, but it was useless.
When the other party left, Xiaomu confided to me, she didn't know why the two people who were clearly in love were like this. She asked me if I was not doing well enough, and the other party thought about leaving.
I told her that it was not that she did not do well, but that the other party was leaving. There are many reasons for leaving, but no matter which one, the other party didn’t want to continue.
Although Xiaomu cried so hard that the pear blossoms were raining, it could not change this fact.
Maybe Xiaomai will always look for reasons from herself, but after a while, she will not do this, because she will eventually understand that this is not her own problem, but the other party’s problem.
A relationship requires two people to protect it with care. If only one person is attentive and the other person wants to leave, then this relationship will not end.
Both men and women should know that losing someone who doesn’t love you is a blessing, because only by losing someone who doesn’t love you can meet someone who loves you, only by saying goodbye to the wrong person can we welcome the right person and then live happily with the other person.
Never underestimate yourself, nor do you attribute all the problems of your relationship to yourself. This is the biggest stupidity. If you deny yourself in your relationship, then the whole world will deny you.
2. You are still very excellent
No matter whether there is a problem with your relationship, you especially like to find the reasons from yourself. Why do you like to find the reasons from yourself? Because you still love each other, but the other person doesn't love you anymore.
means that when you start looking for the reasons from yourself, your feelings will become unequal, and you are the relatively weaker party, and you are afraid because you are weak.
When you are afraid of losing this relationship, you will try your best to belittle yourself, in order to exchange for the other person's humility. In fact, this is wrong.
The humbler you are in love, the faster the other party escapes.
Fellowship is about fate. Since the other party insists on leaving, it means that your fate is not enough. Even if you can continue to be together for the time being, you will sooner or later become familiar strangers.
In other words, it is a matter of time before you separate. Even if you don’t separate now, you will definitely separate after a while.
Even if the other person doesn’t love you, you can’t belittle yourself, because you are still that particularly outstanding person, but you can’t see this excellence for the time being.
If the other person says bluntly that he no longer loves you, the correct way is to tell yourself that it doesn’t matter, because no matter whether he loves you or not, you are particularly outstanding. After leaving him, you will not become unlucky, but will be even more outstanding and will live happily in your own world.
For the rest of our life, I hope each of us can treat our relationship correctly. If we can love each other, then love each other and manage our own days to a prosperous future. If we cannot love each other, leave decisively. As long as you have the courage to leave the wrong person, you will definitely meet the right person, right?
