Author: Mo Xiaotong (Author of Fushu)
Zhuangzi said: "Knowing and forgetting right and wrong is the right and wrong, and the heart is suitable."
says that only by forgetting right and wrong disputes can the heart release its burden in time.
Many times, the reason why we live very tiring is not that life is really hard, but that we have too deep obsessions, too good memory, and can't let go of the past.
Life is like this calendar. Only after you tear a page a day will you have a brand new day.
Know everything and turn things around, clear up right and wrong in time, and live in the present is a very important ability for a person and it is also the beginning of getting better slowly.
Only by learning to turn things around, look forward to everything, and open your heart, can life continue and live a comfortable and relaxed life.
Some things don’t "turn over", then you can only suffer all the time
Have you also had this experience:
Once because of something, or someone , always be upset and worrying in my heart;
I was in a state of uneasy all day, and I didn’t have the time to do my job well and made mistakes;
When I got home from get off work, I had a bad attitude towards my family, and I tossed and turned late at night and couldn’t sleep;
I was physically and mentally exhausted, thinking about that thing during the day, and continued to be in a trance. I repeated this and fell into a vicious cycle.
Indian poet Tagore wrote in his poem: "If you cry for losing the sun, then you will also lose the stars."
Just like the psychology "Highris effect ".
Greek In the myth, there is a strongman named Highris . One day, he was walking on a bumpy road and suddenly saw something bulging like an ugly bag, so he stepped hard.
Who knew that the thing did not step on, but instead swelled.
He was angry and picked up a wooden stick and smashed the strange thing. In the end, the strange thing swelled to the point that blocked the road. A saint passed by and said to him: "Don't move it, forget it. It is called a hatred bag. If you don't mess with it, it will be as small as before: If you invade it, it will expand more and more hostile to you." Many things are like this. If you can't get over it and can't let it go, you will be deeply trapped in the Hygriturism effect. There are endless troubles that bother you, making you unable to eat well, sleep well, and are in pain all the time. Cartoonist Ji Mi said one sentence: "Don't be entangled in an awkward thing for too long. If you entangle for a long time, you will be annoyed, painful, epiglottis, tired, hurt, and heartbroken." Writer Yu Qiuyu also had this experience. He had four enemies, who had used their power to suppress his family wantonly and maliciously slandered him. caused his father to die in prison and he was sent to the farm. His wife's work was blocked. After ten years of suffering, he caused great harm to his family. In order to make himself never forget, he synthesized the surnames of his enemies into the four words "Qianfang Lisa" with homophonic words, and then buried these hatreds in his heart. However, for many years, he has been entangled with pain and helplessness. He is very resentful and has no insomnia, and his work and life have been seriously affected. Later, he had the honor to visit a painter, met Neon master , and had a long talk with him. was influenced by the two, and Yu Qiuyu woke up and reconciled with resentment. In an instant, he seemed to have taken off something in his heart, and suddenly he suddenly realized and felt much more relaxed. He could finally be focused on his literary dream. There is a sentence in "The Spring Breeze is Not As Good as You": "You shouldn't be too awake. Let the past pass by without chewing it repeatedly. Life will not last long, there are not so many important things. It's dawn, and you'll make money again." There are often eight or nine things that are not satisfactory in life. These "trash" can destroy a person and shape a person. Instead of being sad, upset, and helpless every day, it is better to learn to clean up the "garbage in your heart". Learn to let go of past grievances, past regrets, and deteriorated feelings so that you will not be bound and dragged down. Letting go is not to forgive everything without principles, but not to be trapped in the irreversible past, not to be confused about the past that should be turned on, and to turn it in time, so that you can relax and enjoy your new self. Learn to have the opportunity to turn the story "Four Lessons of Life" says: "There are all kinds of yesterday, such as death yesterday; all kinds of today are all kinds of life today." U disk, after using it for a long time, you need to clean the memory regularly to install more valuable things; people need to regularly organize their inner disputes, clean up the past in time, and only by giving up can you get forward easily and give yourself new gains. Deng Yaping After retiring, she abandoned the halo of the Olympic champion, chose to turn the article back to zero, study further, and transform into the investment industry. The reason why I had the courage to transform was because an old man's words were triggered: The old man asked her: "Where are your medals and trophys?" She said: "My parents set a room in their house as a honor room, and all the awards were placed there. The old man said: "You should put them away, because all these have become the past." " The sentence deeply touched her, made her sober, and let go of her past honors to have a new chapter. So, after retiring, she began her 11-year study journey. From 26 English letters to the fluency of English speaking, foreigners were impressed, and they wrote a 600,000-word full English doctoral thesis. successively obtained English major bachelor's degree , Chinese contemporary research major Master's degree and PhD in Economics. even, creating Cambridge University For the first time in the history of nearly 800 years, a world-class athlete has obtained a doctorate degree. She has also stood at a new height on the student stage. You see, This is how life is. If you don’t try to change, don’t let go of the past, you will never know how high you can reach and what new height you can reach. Connection What can’t be reversed, what can be changed can be changed. Only by turning this page can you free up time, calm down and start over. 020, after twelve years, Luo Yonghao once again won the "Mr. Fashion" "Mr. of the Year" award. The award comment given by the event was: Night Knight, returning from cross-border.
In the past twelve years, his Hammer Mobile , Chatbao and others have lost one after another, resulting in huge debts. The rich man turned into a loss overnight, and was also called the industry dark lamp.
At that time, he had more than 100 lawsuits at the same time and was issued a consumption restriction order. He was worried about insomnia and depression that he was afraid of being afraid of, and even dared not answer calls from strangers.
But he was not immersed in failure, but instead tried to make money to pay off his debts. He did not hesitate to put down his figure and broadcast live streaming, endorse online games, and participate in variety shows for his former opponents...
In " Talk Show Conference ", he announced to the public that more than 600 million yuan of debt had been paid back by more than 400 million yuan. The remaining debts are expected to be paid off within one year. Then he joked that after paying off the debt, he would film "really return".
After he was once ridiculed as a "deadbeat", he had a confession: No matter whether he has blood, sweat, shit or urine, as long as the warrior does not go to the battlefield, everything is possible.
He also said: "Everything that can travel through time should stick to it; everything that will be filtered by time should be turned over, and if it should be turned over, it should be turned over."
It is this spirit of pride himself as a "fighter" and no matter how hard it is to turn over, it will make this person who once made a sudden turn in his life like a roller coaster, and has truly returned from a cross-border turnover.
Those who seem to be successful, we only see the superficial scenery, but behind each success, we have suffered countless tortures and crushes.
They will not immerse themselves in the past for too long, but will turn the article in time, and then constantly break through themselves and improve day by day.
Learn to give all the unsatisfactory things in life, take setbacks as motivation to start again, and then upgrade yourself. When the wind comes, you will seize the opportunity to take advantage of the opportunity to turn the tables.
A person's most amazing ability: things go through
Writer Yishu , once went to Ni Kuang 's house as a guest.
I saw the green plants in his garden were lush and beautiful.
She asked, "Your potted plants are so well-raised, are there any secrets?"
Ni Kuang smiled and said, "It's actually very simple. It's just throwing away the dead and buying new ones."
Raising plants is like this, let alone how we live our lives.
There is a saying: "The past cannot be advised, but the future can still be pursued."
The things that have been "broken" cannot be changed. Instead of sighing, why not throw them away in time and "cultivate" yourself again.
Ma Dong once said in " Strange Talk ": "As time goes by, we will eventually forgive those who have hurt us."
Cai Kangyong but shook his head: "That's not forgiveness, forget it."
"The founding father of South Africa" Mandela , before becoming the president of South Africa, he had a 27-year prison life because of opposition to a few white people in power.
Because he is a major criminal, there are 3 prison guards who specialize in guarding him.
He suffered all the abuse and humiliation in prison. The prison guards beat him with iron every time, and even deliberately drew sewage into their meals...
After he was released from prison, he was elected as the first black president of the democratic country South Africa at the age of 76.
At the service ceremony, he specially invited these three prison guards to bow deeply to them and hug them one by one.
Thanks to their help, who was impatient and irritable, he learned to control his emotions and know how to face suffering.
He said calmly:
"At the moment I walked out of the cell, passed the prison gate, and led to freedom, I had clearly realized that if I could not leave my sadness and resentment behind me, I would still be imprisoned in prison." After the episode, the prison guards couldn't help but feel ashamed. All the people present were in awe, and then there was a long-lasting applause.
Although he suffered 27 years of torture, at the moment of being released from prison, he chose to forgive the person who had hurt him. This is the best way to say goodbye to hatred.
There is a saying: "If you stick to a thought, you will be trapped in a thought; if you let go of a thought, you will be in your heart."
Do not fall into hatred, reconcile with the past, move away the stone that hurts you, and continue moving forward, so that you can get out of the haze, see the light, and reap happiness.
people, turning the article once, growing up once, knowing how to turn things around is the most amazing ability of a person.
Don’t bury in hatred, don’t wander in the past, let go of other people’s faults, and free the shackles in your heart.
Bravely look up and look forward. You will find that after the short haze and rainy season, the sky will always be clear. The bright light will eventually shine into your heart, warmth will guide you and no longer be confused.
Mo Yan once said: "The world is like a book, pages are turned over; people should look forward and look back at the old historical accounts."
Indeed, books must be turned back to learn more, and people should look forward to see more beautiful scenery.
Repeatedly review old accounts, but the deeper the sinking, the more painful it is.
Remember the gender too well, don’t live too tiring, learn to turn things around, know how to move forward, and maintain the ability to clean up.
No need to regret the past regrets; let go of those who cannot be saved as soon as possible; let go of past injuries in time.
Then, forgive everything before going to bed, wake up and forgive the past, fearlessly go on the battlefield, welcome the new future, and become a better self.
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