text丨Tao Xiaojing
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Interpersonal communication is a part of life, but it is not simple. There are many things to pay attention to during interpersonal communication, such as choosing the partner to be dated.
The interaction between people can not only add color to life, but also cause trouble to life. Whether it is adding color or trouble depends on the person you are dating.
If you are dating a person with a deep sense of scheming, you are likely to fall into his trap and become the object of his calculations.
A cunning person is like a bottomless black hole. Even if you treat him with sincerity, it will be difficult for you to see through him.
When dating such people, you will not only not get the true feelings you want, but also face great risks and endure the pain you cannot bear.
If you don’t want to do this, then see someone’s scheming first and then go and date him.
Although scheming people know how to disguise themselves, any disguise will reveal flaws.
Research found that these three sentences reveal a person's deep scheming, so beware of it.
"Everything is easy to discuss"
When you want to discuss something with someone, he tells you "Everything is easy to discuss". What will you think?
You may think that this person is really easy to get along with and his own ideas will definitely be adopted by him.
But this is not the case. A person responding to you with this sentence is both perfunctory and ruthless.
On the surface, he did say it was easy to discuss, but in fact, he was not even willing to vote for you. What he calls negotiation is just perfunctory.
You have clearly given your idea, but he did not answer you directly. Instead, he used a good negotiation to treat you, which shows how deep his scheming is.
Although he didn't say anything, he wouldn't give you too many opportunities. If you work with him, you are often the only one who suffers.
If a person always says this to you, then you should be more careful because he is very cunning.
When dating such people, you'd better not expose your trump card. Since he is perfunctory, don't be too sincere to him.
The best way to treat such people is to really discuss with him. He discussed with him with a smile and asked him to give specific opinions, which would catch him off guard.
"You are much better than me"
When you first hear this sentence, you may feel that the other person is praising you, but if you savor it carefully, you will read other meanings.
If a person really wants to praise you, he will not compare you with himself, but will point out your strengths specifically and learn from you humbly.
A person praises you with the sentence "You are much better than me". In fact, it means jealousy. He is just jealous of you having a good opportunity, not really praising you for how powerful you are.
This kind of praise is also a way of praise. He first praises you so much, and then handes you a bunch of messes to clean up, in order to make it worse.
People who always talk about this sentence seem to be very humble to everyone, but in fact they are very cunning. If you take his praise seriously, you may leave him a handle.
You'd better be cautious when dating such people. No matter how he praises you, please remain calm.
Others praise you like this, of course you should praise you back and use his way to deal with him, so you will not suffer any losses.
"It's okay"
A cunning person has a very distinctive feature, that is, all emotions are not exposed, making people unable to see through his true thoughts.
He cannot guarantee that others will not see his emotions, so he often covers it up with "it's okay".
Many times, you obviously think that he is in a bad mood and want to care about him, he will only respond to you with "It's okay".
When you hear him say this, you may think he is really okay, but it is not. The reason why he answers you like this is because he doesn't want you to see it too thoroughly.
A person doesn't want to be seen too thoroughly by you. Obviously, he does not treat you as a sincere friend. Even if your concern comes from the heart, it is difficult to melt his heart.
The biggest problem when interacting with a cunning person is that it is difficult to get into his heart, because he will not give you this opportunity at all.
If a person always says "it's okay" to you, then don't make things boring. Since he doesn't want to say anything, you'd better not ask more questions. Keeping some distance from him is the best way to get along.
Xiaojing's message:
A person with deep scheming will never admit how deep his scheming is. He will only try every means to cover up his scheming and make himself look simpler.
But no matter how he conceals it, many of his words and deeds will expose his scheming.
If you want to see a person's scheming clearly, please be more careful when you get along with each other and don't ignore every word he says.
Carefully analyze what a person says, and you will find that people who often say these three sentences are very cunning.
When interacting with cunning people, you must not only be more careful, but also be reserved.
However, people with scheming may not be bad people, of course you can make friends with him. But you must be careful that no matter who you make friends with, you must protect yourself and not let yourself be hurt.
