At this stage of middle age, marriage will become precarious due to many factors.
As time goes by, the initial freshness has long been worn out, and each other can no longer dig out a little new trait from each other.
So, the marriage entered a period of burnout, and both of them thought it was like a pool of stagnant water, like a chicken rib, tasteless when eaten, and a pity to abandon it.
When people reach middle age, the pressure is also increasing. Social, age, physiological and family have become a burden for middle-aged people.
When external pressure cannot be eliminated, it will develop internally. As a result, conflicts between middle-aged couples have increased, and quarrels have become commonplace.
Maybe we will also be confused when did marriage become what it is now? We want to change but have no idea how to start.
At this time, we need to calm down and re-crush our feelings.
If you can, after middle age, you will not get too close to your husband, which is a smart choice.
If you get too close, you will push the other person further
I remember that during the summer vacation, the most comfortable thing was to eat all kinds of fruits and vegetables grown in your yard.
. Anyone who is familiar with planting knows that whether it is sowing seeds or planting seeds, the distance between seeds cannot be too close.
Because the seedlings are too close to each other, they will fight for the mud, which will lead to insufficient nutrient and water replenishment, which will increase the mortality rate of seedlings and reduce yield.
A suitable distance is needed between seeds and seeds, and the same is true between people.
Marriage has become fragile because of the freshness of time being worn out. If the distance is too close, unnecessary conflicts will increase and push the other party further.
Furthermore, the distance between husband and wife is slightly further, and beauty will be more generated. When observing the oil paintings at close range, you will only feel that the picture will be piled up with pigments, and there is no beauty at all. When we stand a little further, we will feel that the overall effect of the picture is beautiful.
Therefore, only by maintaining the best distance can the couple get along less depressingly, and they can increase their attractiveness in this way.
If possible, middle-aged couples occasionally sleep in separate beds, which is also a good choice.
Guanfu Museum Director Ma Weidu Mr. once discussed an interesting theory on the show. In his opinion, if a good marriage reaches the middle age stage, if you want to continue to maintain it, you must sleep in separate beds.
If you have the conditions, you will have one person and one house. If you don’t have the conditions, you will have two beds in one house. In short, don’t share the same bed for a long time.
Because people will inevitably involve sleep problems when they reach middle age. Men are prone to snoring because of their weight, and women are prone to neurasthenia due to menopause.
If you force two people to put together, it will affect each other's sleep. Over time, lack of sleep will inevitably lead to a bad mood, which will add an unnecessary sense of crisis to the marriage.
So, sleeping separately will be better, sleeping separately can keep a fresh feeling.
For today's society, sleeping has become a very important word. Sleeping quotient can be understood as a person's sleep quality.
People with high sleep rate have a good mental state, stable mood, and more concentration; people with poor sleep rate will be listless, poor emotional control ability, and irritable.
From this perspective, it is necessary for middle-aged couples to try sleeping separately in separate beds in terms of keeping distance, which can not only keep the feeling of freshness, but also improve each other's sleeping quotient.
The biggest loss in life is that you don’t have time to grow up yourself
In fact, it is emphasized that middle-aged ladies should not get too close to their husbands. In addition to considering marriage itself, they are also for middle-aged women themselves.
Just imagine, if we insist on getting very close to our husbands, we will focus all our attention on marriage and husbands, and we will have no time to take care of ourselves.
In this way, we will fall into a dead end, fall into a vicious circle of thinking, and will stand still and stagnate. This will not only make the marriage fragmented, but also make us lose ourselves. This is not worth the loss.
Therefore, it is necessary to distance ourselves, not only to make the marriage more stable, but also to give ourselves space and time to grow.
writer Liu Tong wrote in "House of Youth Is Not Confused ": "Spend more time to understand yourself and spend less time dealing with others."
When people reach middle age, they will be regarded as declining, and they feel that they are already in their forties and their lives have basically been set. This is a fallacy.
As long as we are willing, so what if we are forty years old? As long as we are willing, we can still shine our own brilliance at the age of forty.
So, stay away from your husband, pay more attention to yourself, improve yourself more, read, travel, exercise, or make new friends, these can contribute to our spiritual world and protect our self-growth.
