People often complain about their parents, saying that it is terrible for them to urge them to get married.
Although I was in my early twenties, I urged myself to get married in various ways. Even though I was living a good life alone, I always felt that I was abnormal.
not only urges marriage, but also always uses very extreme methods in this process.
Use very bad words to say that children don’t get married is useless, and use very excessive behaviors, such as if you can’t find a partner, don’t go home, don’t eat yourself, and don’t live.
Anyway, it's very excessive, even to the point where you completely ignore your own children.
If you meet such a parent, you will not be able to find a partner for a while. As a matter of seriousness, you will be in a difficult situation. After all, marriage is a big deal, and there is no way to settle for it. You cannot find someone to make do with it casually.
You will not be able to understand your parents at all, and you don’t understand why they are like this. The reason behind them is not difficult to understand.
I think it is necessary to get married early.
23 and 24 years old, 25 and 26 years old, 27 and 28 years old, in your eyes, you are still young and still young, and you can wait a little longer and enjoy yourself first. There is no need to be so anxious.
But for parents, they don’t think so. They once got married very early, so even if the times are different, they still feel that they should finish the marriage earlier.
In their eyes, there has never been any saying that you can not get married, and there is no saying that you should consider your marriage when your career is stable. Instead, you think that getting married is a big event and a very necessary thing. You need to start a family first and then talk about something else.
As long as they can get married, whether they love each other or not, they don’t care. They think that they can’t live a perfect life anyway. They also always think that relationships can be cultivated slowly, and as long as they get married, everything will be better.
From beginning to end, they are still using their own ideas to look at the marriage of their children, and regard marriage as particularly important.
You are still young, but they just have a sense of crisis. If you don’t get married quickly, it will be even harder to find it in the future. You will not be able to find it. If you don’t hurry up and implement the marriage, you will be lonely and feel very pitiful and will not be happy.
Inexplicably, they will worry about your marriage and will also appear anxious
cares about face and do not want to lose to others.
If young people today know how to live for themselves and be more self-centered, they don’t care so much about other people’s vision, but their parents’ generation, due to different living environments, they really don’t think so much about others. Instead, they care a lot about others.
Along the way, they will have some friends and some peers around them.
Their friends, people of their age, will also have children, and at the age of marriage, there will always be many people who have entered marriage one after another and are preparing for marriage.
: Seeing other people's children getting married, but there was no movement in their own family. In contrast, they would really feel uncomfortable.
has the feeling that you feel like you have lost to others, falling behind others, and can't raise your head in front of others. This phenomenon has occurred in
. When they already have this feeling, they will want to win back their face and win back the game in front of others, so that the situation will not always be like this.
In order to achieve this goal, don’t just envy others, let others envy themselves, and make your face shine. So they will really urge their children in various ways to bring people back quickly, set the wedding and hold the wedding.
At that moment, they will force you in various ways, giving you a feeling of being a tool person who is just a tool person. As long as you can get married, it doesn’t matter who that person is, and it doesn’t matter whether you are happy in the future.
Want to hold a grandson, it can continue the incense.
People who have experienced it actually know that even if they get married, things are not over.
At first, it urged marriage, but after marriage, it began urging children.
It can be said that many parents also have obsession with grandchildren, hoping to pass on their family line and pass on their bloodlines, and to show off to others. They also have grandchildren at home, and they have completed their tasks.
They may not like their grandchildren very much, and they want to take care of their grandchildren very much, but they will definitely force you to have them.
As for the time and energy you have really got a grandson, you may also help you with some time and energy, but of course, you can only be responsible for more things yourself, or even if you have them, you won’t really care or take responsibility.
You must have a grandson and you must continue the incense. For many elderly people, this concept is deeply rooted and will not change easily at all, nor will it be convinced by anyone.
Otherwise, you will feel sorry for the ancestors and ancestors in front of you and feel that you are useless. The idea like
is obviously theirs, but it needs to be borne by their children. If they raise you, you should do this. You have such an obligation, otherwise they will be unfilial and will leave one day, and they will not be able to explain it to their ancestors for generations.
My parents always urge to get married, they will feel that it is all for the good of their children. I don’t want you to be too lonely and have a support.
is actually more important. They think that they should get married quickly when they are in their twenties and have children quickly. It seems that only if you do this can they be at ease and truly fulfill their responsibilities to you.
Only after that can you feel at ease, you no longer have to worry about you, and be able to let go of you.
comes from the sound of parents urging them to get married. It is indeed annoying and very uncomfortable.
In addition to rejecting this, we might as well think from the perspective of others and understand more.
can tell them what they think, let them believe in themselves, and give themselves some time.
They don’t know how to let go and let you pursue your own life. You don’t have to care and still live according to your own ideas. But at the same time, you don’t have to be angry with them, but you still have to comfort them appropriately. After all, they are parents, the people who give their lives.
text/Tan Meng
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