Author: Mo Xiaobei
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Marriage, you need to manage
Some women are very stupid and naive, thinking that as long as you marry the prince charming in your heart, you can live a comfortable and happy life.
Just like many people firmly believe that Snow White will definitely live a happy life after marrying Prince Charming. That's just a fairy tale, and as far as it is shown, no one can guarantee that such a couple will not have any conflicts after marriage.
Love and marriage are different.
Love is something that can be established as long as each other is willing to say "I love you". Marriage not only requires "I love you", but also the courage to face the married life and management ability.
Simply put, marriage requires careful management.
Marriage is actually like planting flowers. It takes a long process for the seeds to germinate. Only under the careful care of two people can they thrive and then bloom.
You can't give it to time and let it grow naturally, this is wrong.
Some things can be left to time, because time can fade everything, but feelings cannot. If the feelings fade, wouldn’t you go against the original intention of being together?
In this world, there is no marriage that is born suitable, because everyone is different. Even if they have similar interests and hobbies and consistent values, they may not be able to be together flawlessly.
All the tacit understanding is acquired. Only by mastering the mode of getting along with your partner and mastering the methods of managing your marriage can women live a comfortable and happy life.
Some people say that there are two kinds of women in this world:
One is that no matter whom she married, she doesn’t live well because she doesn’t know how to manage her marriage. When she encounters problems, she is just escaping; the other is that no matter who she marrys, she can be happy for a lifetime, because she knows how to manage the relationship between two people and knows how to get along with her partner correctly.
In fact, it is not complicated to run a happy marriage.
You don’t need to dress up every day, nor do you need to seriously learn the excellent cooking skills. If you tie a man’s stomach, it is equivalent to tie a man’s heart. As long as you can learn and use the "three outstanding features of a happy woman":
First: Don't be too full of your work, you must know how to leave room
In marriage, no matter what you do, women cannot do things too full, whether it is love or other things.
Women who love too much are often prone to lose themselves. I was confident that the other party could love you in your way, but in the end I found that you gave everything, and the other party just gave you a little.
When you love someone, you should leave yourself a piece of land to avoid having the ability to comfort yourself when you are disappointed.
, you should not be too full when doing things, which is what we often call "a big bag". Because, this kind of behavior will most likely spoil a man.
One day, he will regard your "big contract" as "cheap".
Apart from giving and love, you can't be too full when it comes to getting along. You must know how to leave space for the other party appropriately and be controlled by the "desire of control" is something that everyone does not want to encounter.
Think from the perspective of others, and you will understand that the imposed, selfish love will make you very tired.
In a marriage relationship, knowing how to leave room is a necessary wisdom for a woman.
In marriage, conflicts between husband and wife are inevitable. No one is perfect. There are some things that cannot be consistent in both people's views, so when quarrel, smart women will leave room.
It is true that it is difficult to control emotions when quarreling, but you must understand that the reason why you quarrel is because you have encountered problems with your relationship.
The purpose of your quarrel is to get along better, rather than to drive each other out of your own world.
So, when quarrel, don’t say too much, and don’t deny everything about the other party in a general way. As the saying goes, it is better to meet each other by staying on the front line every day.
Second: Know how to turn a blind eye
We often say that it is rare to be confused. In fact, this is just like in marriage, it is the same for women to turn a blind eye appropriately.
Some people say that people who are too smart not only have no friends, but also feel sad that they will live a good life. This is the same in marriage.
If a woman lives very smart in marriage, doesn't know how to pretend to be confused and pursue everything, she may be rejected by men.
Carnegie said in "The Weakness of Human Nature": "There will never be a winner in the argument." If a couple quarrels, if they win, they will lose their relationship.
If you pursue right or wrong in everything, in the end it will not only hurt the other person's self-esteem, but also the relationship between the two.
As the saying goes: " is in harmony with each other, and knows each other in one's heart. "
What we say here is "turn a blind eye" does not mean that you can tolerate everything about the other party without bottom line, but that you must know how to stand from the other party's perspective and consider problems.
Given a simple example:
Your husband secretly gave his parents several thousand yuan from you. I thought he was hiding it seamlessly, but in fact you already know it.
At this time, if you question it loudly, it will definitely be a fierce quarrel. He is out of filial piety, but you don’t understand, which leads to your questioning, which is regarded by him as you and you do not want him to respect your parents.
If at this time, you can communicate with him in a pretended way, and not mention that he secretly gave money to his parents without hiding it, but instead actively propose to give some living expenses to both parents every month or six months, wouldn’t this be better?
First of all, he is unwilling to be so stupid that he can't hear what you say, but you don't expose him. If he has feelings for you, he will naturally give him face and be grateful to you. Isn't it?
In marriage, you are too smart. You will see a lot of things you don’t see. You must know that there is no perfect marriage in this world.
So, pretending to be confused for some things is the deeper love that men love you.
Third: Have confidence in yourself and trust him enough
Since you have chosen the other party and become your lifelong partner, you should give the other party trust and also know how to keep boundaries with men outside of marriage.
In fact, most women will generally be loyal to this relationship after choosing a relationship. Unless she cannot feel love in this relationship, she may do things that hurt the relationship.
But trust is difficult for most women to do.
Maybe women are born with a sense of crisis, because we often see that a woman always likes to surround a man and ask, "Do you love me?"
Especially in married life, many women will be suspicious when they notice that a man is strange and think that there may be someone outside. Isn’t this the case with Professor Tao’s wife in
“ Ode to Joy 3”?
She saw that Ye Zhenzhen was too concerned about Professor Tao’s affairs, so she suspected that they had an extraordinary relationship.
If Yu Chuhui had not been clever, it would have probably become a reality by Professor Tao's wife.
Since you chose him so firmly, you must give him the greatest trust. If you have always been suspicious of him, it will make him mistakenly think that you have never loved him at all.
And your suspicion will also make you feel unconfident and you feel that you are not worthy of him, so you suspect that he has an affair with others.
In marriage, a truly smart woman is confident in herself. She is confident that she is the man's love, so she can give him enough trust.
written at the end
A happy marriage requires careful management. If you encounter problems that cannot be solved in your marriage, just leave it alone and think that by leaving it to time, you will be wrong.
Since you chose to enter this besieged city because of love, you must treat it well and manage it with your heart. Don’t doubt yourself easily, and don’t doubt the other person easily.
You have to have enough confidence in yourself and the other person. You have to believe that you are in love. As long as you learn to manage your relationship, you can do it.
The same is true, men should also have these three outstanding features in marriage!
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