Introduction
As the saying goes, "A hundred years of cultivation can make you cross the same boat, and a thousand years of cultivation can make you sleep together." It is really not easy for two strangers to become husband and wife, so when we meet the right person, we must learn to cherish it.
But some people as husbands don’t know how to cherish their wives. When their wives have conflicts with their family, they not only fail to play a coordinated role in the middle, but also add fuel to the fire. This will only make the conflict between their wife and their family deeper and deeper.
The love of childhood sweethearts
Sister Qiu and Brother Ma have known each other since childhood, and they played together and went to school together when they were young. In the eyes of outsiders, they are like a family, because Sister Qiu follows him wherever Brother Ma goes.
Even though Brother Ma often dislikes Sister Qiu as a follower, Sister Qiu doesn't care at all. She likes to play with Brother Ma and likes to stay by his side. Although Brother Ma verbally dislikes him, in fact, he doesn't want Sister Qiu to follow him every day, and he feels happy. When they grew up, they often became inseparable. At that time, both parents thought they had a good relationship, so they often said that they would not be together in the future.
At that time, Sister Qiu and Brother Ma were very happy when they heard this, because they had long regarded each other as their future pillow. Since both parents said this, they were naturally together. After
, they had not finished their studies, so they went out to work with the villagers. In fact, they wanted to continue to go to school, but their family conditions were limited and there were many children. Their parents really couldn't afford to support their studies, so they went out to work early.
In the first year of working, although Brother Ma did not make much money, he secretly saved money to buy a necklace for Sister Qiu. Because Sister Qiu is a girl who loves beauty very much, she wanted a necklace very early.
Every time they go out to play, Sister Qiu can't move the necklace from the jewelry store when she sees the necklace in the jewelry store, but they have no money to buy it, so she has to leave disappointed.
So Brother Ma wanted to secretly surprise Sister Qiu, so during the Chinese New Year that year, he gave Sister Qiu as a New Year gift. Sister Qiu was particularly surprised when she saw the necklace, and then Brother Ma personally put the necklace on Sister Qiu. Sister Qiu was wearing this necklace behind
and couldn't bear to take it off. This is their token of love for them.
But in the year they were about to get married, Brother Ma was detained in the police station for a few days because of a fight. At that time, a gangster bullying Sister Qiu and touched her.
But Ma Ge didn't think that his wife was bullied by others, so he rolled up his sleeves and fought with the other party. Because he beat the other party very hard and his head broke, the police station detained him for a few days, and he also paid a lot of money to the person with the head break.
Originally, Ma Ge’s family was not wealthy, but now he was involved in this matter again, so Ma Ge didn’t want to marry Sister Qiu at that time because he didn’t want Sister Qiu to marry into their family and suffered with him.
But Sister Qiu is not such a person who dislikes the poor and loves the rich. Moreover, Brother Ma also had conflicts with others in order to protect her, and was locked up in the police station and lost money, so she could not be a deserter at this time. After
, after Sister Qiu insisted, their wedding was held as scheduled, but Brother Ma’s family paid the money to others, and he had no money to buy a ring for Sister Qiu, nor did he wear a decent wedding dress.
But Sister Qiu didn't care about this. She just hoped that Brother Ma could be as good as ever. Moreover, Brother Ma also bought a necklace for Sister Qiu at that time, and Sister Qiu was also very content.
Father-in-law picks on
After Sister Qiu married into the Ma family, her parents-in-law and her family were very kind to her, and she was also very filial to her in-laws. Every time she cooks, she cooks according to her taste.
My parents-in-law doesn’t like spicy food, they like light food, so she never adds chili peppers to cook. Even if she likes spicy food, she doesn’t adds. She thinks that the taste of her parents-in-law should be the main focus.After
, she went out to work with her husband Ma after giving birth. Because Ma was the only one working alone at home, she couldn't live a life, so she went out to work as soon as she finished her confinement period.
Although my mother-in-law has been watching Sister Qiu’s children over the years, every time Sister Qiu comes home, she will buy some delicious food for her parents-in-law, buy them a few sets of clothes, and also give them some money as a hard work fee for raising children.
My parents-in-law remembered all the good things that Sister Qiu treats her in-laws in her heart. Why did her father-in-law have such a big opinion on Sister Qiu later?
It turned out that one winter, Sister Qiu gave her father-in-law a quilt. That year, she was very cold. Her father-in-law's house was not covered with thick quilts. Seeing this, Sister Qiu said that she gave her a thick quilt in her house to their house. Her father-in-law was very happy at the time and felt that her daughter-in-law was really filial.
But when he was sleeping at night, he found that the quilt was wet. How to cover the quilt when it was wet in such a cold day, but he didn't tell his wife at that time, so he and his wife sat all night that night. Later he thought that his daughter-in-law was not careful and deliberately covered the wet quilt with their old couple, so he held a grudge against his daughter-in-law. Later, he deliberately made tricks on his daughter-in-law, saying that his daughter-in-law did not add salt to the cooking, and even asked his son to divorce his daughter-in-law.
Because the daughter-in-law didn't know about the wet quilt, she felt inexplicably surprised by her father-in-law's sudden provocation, but her father-in-law always held this matter, and later this incident also affected the relationship between the couple.
Because Brother Ma did not speak to his father, and did not let Sister Qiu enter the house, Sister Qiu felt particularly wronged.
mediation
, Sister Qiu really had no choice, so she asked the mediator for help, wanting them to help mediate the conflict between herself and her father-in-law. After learning about
, I realized that my father-in-law was angry because of the wet quilt, and the daughter-in-law also woke up. The quilt she sent that day was planned to take it out for drying it the next day. Because her son accidentally knocked over a basin of water, the water was poured on the quilt, so the quilt was soaked.
Because my daughter-in-law was too busy that day, she mixed up the quilt that she was going to give to her father-in-law with the wet quilt. Because the backs of the two quilts were the same and they were put in a bag, Sister Qiu took the wrong quilt. After the misunderstanding was resolved by
, Sister Qiu reconciled with her father-in-law, and the whole family became harmonious again.
written at the end
I think Sister Qiu’s father-in-law is really a straightforward person. When he found out that he was wet, he should have told his daughter-in-law as soon as possible and asked her to change the quilt.
and he didn't say it. He felt that his daughter-in-law deliberately prevented the old couple from sleeping well, and deliberately covered them with wet quilts, so he kept holding a grudge against his daughter-in-law, and later deliberately made trouble, and even asked his son to divorce his daughter-in-law.
Fortunately, the misunderstandings later were resolved, and the daughter-in-law and father-in-law both realized their mistakes. In fact, in this matter, I think the most wrong thing is my son Ma.
As a husband, he not only did not protect Sister Qiu in the face of right and wrong, but also focused on his father. Even though his father said that he did not add salt to cooking, he agreed.
Because he was also sitting aside for dinner, he knew best whether there was salt in his heart, so he had no sense of right and wrong, and helped his father bully his wife, and later he even had to divorce his wife under the instigation of his father.
I think this husband is so disappointing, but fortunately he regretted it in the end, otherwise he would have missed a good wife.
Do you think Brother Ma in the article is doing the right thing? Welcome to express your opinions.
