Most boys pursue the girls they like because of their physiological attraction. They are attracted by a certain characteristic of girls. They can't help but think about her and want to establish an intimate relationship with her.
. In addition to the instinct of physical attraction, most girls will consider more realistic factors. They should judge the boy's sincerity, boy's ability to survive, and whether boys have ambition and responsibility.
Because girls and boys have a close relationship, they hope to have a result, that is, they can enter the marriage. If they want to live a good marriage, the actual factors must be considered.
Girls will be more inclined to choose boys who can let girls see hope in their relationship.
Miaomiao broke up recently. Miaomiao took the initiative when the two were together, but she was the one who proposed to break up after a year of dating. No one around her did not expect that the girl with the other person in her eyes would break up first.
Miaomiao said that when he met a boy, he couldn't help but feel moved when he saw that the boy was handsome and polite.
Boys are in good condition, have good family background, and are not bad either. They work hard and make progress at work. They are already middle-level management at a young age and have a promising future.
But the most important problem for boys is that they lack responsibility, their sense of responsibility for their feelings and family, and they are too self-centered.
Miaomiao is very serious about relationships and hopes that the relationship between the two can develop towards marriage, but her boyfriend doesn't think so. He doesn't want to get married. He thinks it's good that it's good for the two to be happy together, and there is no need to think about the future.
When I first started dating, I didn’t think too much about the future, but as the relationship deepened, Miaomiao wanted a stable relationship and a stable life, and the boy never made plans for the future of the two.
even had an ambiguous relationship with other girls, which made Miaomiao completely disappointed him and chose to break up.
Miaomiao said: "He does look good, but his conditions have nothing to do with me, so those conditions have no meaning."
Women value boys' ambition and responsibility the most in choosing a spouse.
I have read a social survey. Among the criteria for choosing a mate, whether a boy is motivated and responsible is the two things that girls value most, and appearance and economic foundation are actually ranked after these two points.
Many boys think that what girls value most about choosing a spouse is the boy’s financial situation. In fact, this is a prejudice. In fact, in the survey, only a small number of girls put material conditions first, and most girls still value whether boys have ambition and sense of responsibility.
The ambition of boys is a skill.
The ambition of boys reflects to a certain extent what kind of life a boy can create in the future; and the sense of responsibility of boys represents how they will treat girls in the future.
What girls who have married envy most is that other people’s husbands have the ability. Having the ability means having hope and aspiration.
You will find that many married women often complain that their husbands are not motivated or responsible, which shows the importance of these two points in marriage.
Generally, women who want to make their partner motivated are divided into three types:
The first type is that girls work hard and excellent enough, so they want their partner to create a good life with them, so they can't stand the boys' unwillingness to be enterprising.
The second type is that girls hate the poor and love the rich, and they do not have the ability to create the life they want, and they rely on boys, so boys can work harder and give them the life they want.
The third type is that girls are not in good condition and have too many trivial matters in life. I hope boys can be stronger and can withstand the wind and rain for themselves.
In fact, it is difficult to quantify the ambition, and everyone has different expectations for the ambition. Some people think that making money means being ambitious, while others think that just by working hard, they means being ambitious.
But in the final analysis, when most people make judgments about whether they have the ambition, they look at the result, not the process.
You say you are motivated, so can you support yourself and live a better life in the future than now? This is exactly what girls value for their hope for future life.
If motivated is the ability of a boy, then responsibility is the bottom line of a boy.
What a boy’s ambition can create a better life, and a boy’s sense of responsibility determines whether the life he creates is related to girls.
Whether a boy is willing to take on a girl's life, whether he is willing to keep a distance from other opposite sexes, and whether he is willing to care, understand and consider his partner in marriage are all determined by the boy's sense of responsibility.
So when choosing a spouse, what women will definitely mention is "boys must be responsible."
If a boy is not responsible, then no matter how motivated or capable he is, it actually has nothing to do with him in the end.
Many boys are frustrated in their relationship and rejected by girls. They will attribute the reason to their low appearance and lack of money, but in fact, it is likely that they are rejected due to their lack of motivation and responsibility.
A boy is poor and has no ambition yet. A girl can't see the hope of the future when she is with you, so of course she won't choose you.
A boy has good external conditions and may attract girls at the beginning, but as the two get along, if the boy is not responsible, he will not be able to make his relationship last long.
So, if you want a healthy, long-lasting and happy relationship and want to be recognized by girls, the most important thing is to let her see your ambition and responsibility, which is much more useful than how many gifts and red envelopes you give.
