Introduction
As elderly people, as elderly people, they basically consider the matter of elderly care. When they sit together and chat, they talk more about their children, but rather that their children are more filial, but that they lament the difficulty of their children and hope that they can live a good life.
However, how many children are filial? It is more about accepting help from parents, and despising their parents' nagging and living habits.
68-year-old Aunt Hu in the community: "Now, I no longer expect my children to support me in old age. The worst thing is to live alone or go to a nursing home. But I hope my children can live well, have their own jobs, and know how to struggle, rather than relying on their parents for granted."
teller: 68-year-old Aunt Hu
I am Aunt Hu, 68 years old this year, and my wife is gone. I used to live alone, but now I live with my son and his family in the past two years.
The house belongs to me. My son said he was worried that I was alone, so he forced his family to move back.
In this life, my wife and I have no other children, only one son. At that time, it was not that I didn’t dare to have children, but that I could only have one child in order to respond to the policy, fearing that I would not lose my job.
was very strict at that time. Several people around him either lost their jobs or paid a large fine because of this.
It was a pity at that time, because my wife and I liked children and wanted to have two more, but there was no way, so we could only have one, which was a bit regretful. But now looking back, I find that it’s good to have only one child.
Because there is only one child, we treasure him very much. We will do everything we can think of in advance, and we will plan what we cannot do. Most of the family's resources are tilted towards the children, hoping that they can have a good future.
was pretty good at first, but my son grew older and had a rebellious period of youth, and the problem arose. We often have conflicts, and he is unwilling to listen to us as parents, and often complains that he has given birth to the wrong family.
Every time I hear my son’s dislike, my wife and I are very sad. We give him all our love. We will do our best to satisfy what he wants. Why do we still complain so much?
Even so, when our son goes to school and gets married, we will do our best to prepare a house for him, marry a good wife, and help take care of his grandson.
But, maybe because they are all only children, the couple's life is not satisfactory. They either worry about money or quarrel over trivial matters in life.
I hope the family is harmonious, and I understand that my daughter-in-law needs to adapt to the environment when she gets married, so that the couple can live a happy life.
actively communicated with his in-laws, hoping that parents would communicate more with their children, do their work, reduce some conflicts, and live a good life.
Unfortunately, the efforts of their parents can only play a temporary role. They only got better for two or three years, and started to make a fuss again, and the final breakup was broken.
My son was sad for a while. During that time, he made his life a mess. There was no way, so I could only discuss with my wife to bring my grandson back and live with us.
Avoid the grandson following his son and affecting his grandson's growth. As for his son, he is old and he should take on some responsibilities. He will have to finish the choices he makes by himself.
As parents, even if we don’t agree with their behavior, we will not interfere with it. We just secretly worry about what should our son do in the future. Should we just stay alone?
But his son doesn't care. He said that he lives well alone and will not face noisy families every day. He has children, so he can just take care of himself in the future. Alas, I don’t know what to do, as parents can’t resist the children.
When his son was 50 years old, he suddenly seemed to have become a different person. He no longer focused on his work, but instead retired in advance, saying that he would spend more time with my wife and children while he was young.
At that time, my wife and I were actually unhappy. Although we both had pensions, we had to raise a grandson. My son got married again, had a family, and had children, but my grandson never had a complete home again.
We advised my son to think about his children more, but his son just couldn't listen and chose to retire. He was not young anymore, and he was only in the past few years of his ability to make money, but the pressure in the future can be seen.
Because of this, my son and I had a good conversation, hoping that he could find a job, relieve some pressure for himself and earn some pension money.
However, every time I talked to my son about this, my son was very angry, arguing with me, and talking very badly. I felt very uncomfortable, but I couldn't control my son's choice, and every time I parted in an unhappy way.
I hope he is well, I hope he can give himself a bright and comfortable future, and don’t lie down and live a peaceful life.
The older I am, the more worried my son will be about his future. When he gets older, it doesn’t matter whether his son is filial or not. As an elderly person, what I worry most about is the following things for his children:
First of all, I have my own source of income; My son’s life is only halfway, and there is still a long way to go. If he doesn’t work, what should he do in his future life?
Secondly, my son’s dependents; My wife and I have only one child, and everything in the future will be his. Now most of my pension is given to him. Even so, I am still very worried.
He doesn't want to work, and he likes to make trouble. He always spends more than earns. Even if I give him the pension subsidy, his life still lives today but not tomorrow. What should he do in the future?
was written at the end
When we were old, what we were most worried about was nothing more than the issue of pension, and what we feared the most was that we had no place to rely on in old age. Many young people, because they are only children, receive the wholehearted love of their parents, and live more self-centeredly, and consider themselves as the premise.
Parents consider their lives more first, making them mistakenly think that they will always have a way out and rely on, but they still forget that their parents have a day of old age and will also have moments of powerlessness. At this time, they can only rely on themselves.
As parents, remember: we are old. When faced with this situation in our children, we must learn to be calm and not pay too much attention to our children. Live our own life first. Children and grandchildren will have their own blessings, and their future depends on themselves.
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