text丨Tao Xiaojing
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Because there are certain differences in thinking between men and women, even a small thing can easily cause a series of misunderstandings. No matter how small a misunderstanding is, it will affect the development of the relationship. Only by reducing the occurrence of misunderstandings can the relationship be more stable.
has only one best way to reduce misunderstandings, which is to think from the perspective of others. Only by learning to think from the perspective of others can both men and women establish a true understanding.
However, whether it is thinking from the perspective of others or understanding, it is the most lacking between men and women.
Women do not understand what men think, and men do not understand what women want to say but stop, and gradually there is a gap between them. As the estrangement deepens, the relationship gradually fades. There are many situations like
, but people have not found a way to solve it, but are shirking responsibility. Many men blame women for their hearts.
In fact, a woman’s mind is not that difficult to guess. As long as you think from the perspective of others, you can know what she is thinking.
Take the fact that a woman misses you but doesn’t go to see you as an example. According to your own thinking, you may think she is doing it, but the truth is not what you think.
What is the mentality of a woman saying she misses you but doesn’t go to see you?
investigation found that women can't escape these three psychology when doing this.
1. She is testing your feelings
. The most obvious mentality of a woman saying she misses you but doesn’t go to see you is testing.
Women in love actually like to test men's sincerity in various ways, including thinking without seeing each other.
On the surface, a woman is just expressing her miss you, but in fact she wants to take this opportunity to see your sincerity.
In her expectation, if you love her very much, then after she said she missed you, you should take action immediately and take the initiative to go to her.
She is waiting to see your performance. If your behavior is the same as she thinks, she will determine that you love her, but if not, she will begin to question your sincerity.
Since this is a test by a woman on you, you have to deal with it carefully.
No matter whether you miss her or not, or whether you have time to see her, you must let her see your sincerity. Only in this way can there be no conflict between you.
Understand this mentality of a woman, and then satisfy her according to her wishes, the relationship will be better.
2. She is hinting that you ask her to meet
If you analyze the meeting according to the man's thinking, the man may think that anyone who asks to meet is fine, as long as two people can meet.
But women don’t think so. Women’s ideas are quite complicated. What she thinks is not only about meeting, but also about her status and value in relationships.
In the eyes of women, if the initiative is taken into consideration, it will appear that she is very cheap, so even if she misses you very much, she will give you the initiative to invite you to meet.
From this we can infer that a woman who says she misses you but doesn’t go to see you is probably just hinting at you, hoping that you can ask her out on her own initiative.
For a woman, being asked for an appointment is a reflection of her personal charm and personal value, and she enjoys the feeling of being asked for an appointment.
In addition to enjoying it, she doesn’t want to lose the price on her own initiative, and she doesn’t want you to think she must be you, so she will behave like this.
If you understand the woman’s psychology, then take the initiative toward her. I believe that with your initiative, she will love you more.
3. She is thinking about you and doesn't want to disturb you
A woman who falls in love loves to think about it very much. She is worried that you don't love her, and sometimes she is afraid that her poor work will affect you.
Affected by these ideas, women are timid in their relationships. They obviously want to do things, but they dare not do them easily.
From this perspective, you will find that women say they miss you but don’t go to see you, but they are actually thinking about you.
Because she is afraid that her sudden appearance will disturb your work, so even if she misses you very much, she will try her best to restrain herself.
She actually wants to see you very much, but she will give priority to you and will not act casually.
Missing you but not seeing you seems contradictory, but it is a proof that a woman loves you. Don’t miss it.
I hope you can understand as soon as possible that a woman says she misses you, but she doesn’t go to see you, and she can’t escape the mentality of thinking about you.
Someone always thinks about you, it is your happiness, don’t be in the blessings of you.
Xiaojing's emotional message:
If you always use your own thinking to view women's behavior, you may not understand the purpose of women doing this, and you may even make random guesses.
But if you stand from a woman's perspective and interpret it with a female mind, you will find that women say they miss you but don't go to see you, mainly because of these psychology.
If a woman doesn’t go to see you, it doesn’t mean she doesn’t miss you deeply, she just has other considerations.
Even if you cannot fully understand a woman’s psychology, you cannot question her sincerity just because she doesn’t see you, and you cannot think randomly and cause unnecessary misunderstandings.
I hope you can remember that you should change your perspective when looking at things, and not be too limited. Think more from the perspective of others, and many things that I don’t understand suddenly became clear.
