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There is a strange phenomenon in society, that is, the more people around you are, the more they are shameful. They may be able to accept that you live a good life, but they cannot accept that you live a better life than him.
The closer people get, the more they can’t help but compare with each other. Everyone in the world has a "motivational spirit", but some people show their efforts, while others show their vanity.
No matter how good the relationship is, once you compare with each other with vanity, it is inevitable that conflicts will arise in the process of one party making progress and the other party stopping.
There are many ways to maintain one's own status, but some people choose to suppress others' development, so they keep suppressing the person who may surpass themselves. The feeling of
in the first perspective of is that I can’t stand you. The other party will not be happy about your grades, but will only be upset because of your progress.
People can always easily applaud strangers, but they are unwilling to admit the excellence of the people around them.
In life, those who are shameful are often people around you and are relatively close to each other. They will do the following 4 behaviors when you achieve something, and be vigilant.
Exploding everywhere, deliberately making things difficult for
Whether one person treats another person is good or not, others cannot make appropriate judgments, but the parties themselves clearly understand the other person's attitude towards him.
Encouragement or strike is particularly important for a developing person. Those who are encouraged are often more willing to continue working hard. If the attacked person is not that strong in his psychological quality, he will gradually give up and move forward over time.
In this world, there are always some people who like to attack others with their own selfishness. After seeing other people’s achievements, they are full of dissatisfaction, and they cannot surpass the other party with their own efforts, so they come up with the wrong idea of mental attack.
As the saying goes, "Officials are first-class and have to be crushed to death." This is exactly what it means.
In ancient times, officials could only be more high in one level and could not lift their heads. In order to maintain this sense of superiority, people naturally do not want people who are originally lower than their official positions or who are originally at the same level to surpass themselves.
After all, no one wants to be the one who is "suppressed".
Be careful that people around you will deliberately make things difficult for you due to your grades and the signs of your upcoming grades.
Get along with people, no matter how good the relationship has been, as long as you feel that the other party has deliberately cracked down, you should avoid it.
The attitude is bad, and the tone is contemptuous
Life is like a small theater, and everyone is performing themselves on stage.
There will be many people in our lives, some people just pass by, and some people need to get along for a long time.
The old saying goes: "Birds of a feather flock together, and people are divided into groups." People who can get along with each other for a long time must have something in common, and it can also be said that everyone is from the same class.
But things change so much. Some people just pass by in a certain class, while others are always staying. When there are intersections, there are always endless topics to talk about. Once one party goes to another class, people who are originally in the same frequency will gradually lose common topics.
Some people will be happy about the progress of the people around them, and at the same time they will take the other party as an example and strive to become a better self in order to maintain intimate relationships.
Some people are angry at the progress of the people around them. They not only do not recognize the other party's progress, but also use a bad attitude and contemptuous tone to attack them, trying to use the harm to stop the people around them from moving forward.
Be sure to keep your eyes open when making friends. Sincerity is still out of loneliness, it is clear at a glance after you have achieved your grades.
gloat, and putting on the wrong side
In fact, there are two types of people who can’t stand you. One is the person who turns against you during the process of getting better or after getting better, and the other is the person who holds a grudge and steps on you after you fall down.
is more vicious than the former.
People who can’t stand you will not necessarily turn against you when you achieve your grades. They will even pretend to be happy for you after you achieve your grades, so as to consolidate your friendship and benefit from it. Only when one day your life encounters setbacks will they show a terrible face.
It is the essence of some people. Although they don’t want to see others good, they will not show it when others are in the limelight. Instead, they will wait quietly. Whenever the other person’s limelight goes on or encounters setbacks, they will At this time, jump out and retaliate.
Although there are not many such people in life, they are not without them. This is why people who make a comeback are particularly resolute, because they have seen the truest appearance of the people around them in the trough of their lives.
is sarcastic and ridiculed
scores may not allow us to see the people around us clearly, but the hardships are certainly possible.
score may receive applause or attack. In addition to seeing others' indifference, you can also recognize who treats you sincerely through this.
Attack, indifference and sincerity are usually not fake, but applause is not necessarily the case. Some people applaud out of appreciation, some people applaud out of politeness, and some people applaud just to establish their own generous image.
There is a kind of shameful person who pretends to appreciate in front of others while pretending to appreciate it in private, showing his dissatisfaction.
This kind of emotion is strictly jealousy. When a person is jealous of another person, he will inevitably attack verbally, be sarcastic, sarcastic, and so on. They are all their common tricks.
In life, if someone says sarcastic words repeatedly after you achieve your achievements, you should be vigilant. It is very likely that the other party has hated you in his heart.
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