often encounters babies who are facing breakups and are very painful. Some people even lose more than ten or twenty pounds in the short term.
So how can we get out of the pain of being broken up or being split?
We said that this kind of painful breakup is generally broken up, that is, something happened. It's right.
has done various psychological construction before breaking up because if it is actively breaking up. Moreover, it is very disappointed or even hated to the other party. A sense of liberation, not pain.
First, you feel pain because you still love each other, or eager to accompany each other. If
has no emotion, it would not love it. If a relationship is available, then the breakup is naturally not painful and itchy.
Therefore, you have to admit that you still love him, not forcing yourself to not love immediately. The more depressed your feelings, the easier it is to rebound. Love each other in
must love him.
So what advantages are he loved you? Does these advantages still exist now?
If it does not exist, why do you still love him?
So, you have to find out a few shortcomings and form associated memories. As long as you feel that he loves him, you miss his shortcomings, think too much, this person is not so cute, just like you listened to one more person, you listened to someone more person Bad words, you will hate him.
Secondly, your pain comes more from the fear of being abandoned and derogatory to self.
left me, it must be that I would not be good, otherwise how could he not want me? The simple inference of
is actually placing the other party in the judge and placing itself to the trial situation.
, how are you, why are you qualified to define the other party?
You define self -affirmation and self -worthy ruler to another person. So, where is our value measuring ourselves? The correct inference of
is that the other party leaves me because I can't meet some of his needs. This is normal, because people cannot meet all the needs of another person, not to mention, his needs may not necessarily necessarily be necessarily. It is reasonable or justice. At the end of
, the departure of a person makes you so painful, and it also shows that your heart has not really grown up.
, because of a mature personality, can face any gain and loss. The pain of our pain at this moment is the same as the fear and anxiety caused by the mother's departure. We are afraid of separation because we are incomplete. Is
and this separation this time? Isn't it the opportunity for us to see our lack and make our heart grow up?
So do you understand?
