has said that old people cannot remarry. Just like the old man in the article, he was living a good life, but after remarrying, he didn't even have 1.5 yuan. Now who can blame this ending? Just blame yourself. I hope that this case can make all the elderly people pay attention to not remarrying if they can, not only to be responsible for themselves and their families. Otherwise, it will be too late to regret in the end. Just like the old man in the article, it is too late to regret now. What is going on? Why is this happening? Let's take a look at this matter together. A 63-year-old aunt cried: My remarried wife and I have a total pension of 15,000 yuan, but we don’t have 1.5 yuan to buy water.
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63-year-old Aunt Sun:
I don’t believe it even if I say it. The combined pensions of my remarried wife and I total 15,000 yuan. But now I don’t have 1.5 yuan to buy water. Just two days ago I went for a walk in the park. I ran around and got very thirsty. I was in a bad mood at that time, so I went for a walk in the park. As I was about to come out, I saw someone buying water there.
I hurried over to buy some water. After asking, I learned that the cheapest one costs 1.5 yuan. It costs 1.5 yuan a bottle, and mineral water is not expensive either. Just when I was about to buy it, I found that I didn't have 1.5 yuan. It was instantly awkward. The people behind me were waiting for me to pay, and then they queued up behind me and were also waiting to pay. As a result, I had no money and was a little embarrassed to put down a bottle of mineral water. I burst into tears immediately after I put it down. My remarried wife and I have a combined pension of 15,000 yuan, but now we don’t have 1.5 yuan to buy water.
I said to myself, forget it, stop drinking mineral water, go home and drink water. There is no charge for the water at home. You can drink as much as you want, and it doesn’t take long to go back from here. It only takes ten minutes. It’s okay to drink water after a few minutes. Isn’t it nice to save 1.5 yuan? Constantly comforting myself, in fact, only I know how uncomfortable I am.
Let me talk about my personal experience. I hope that through my personal experience, I can make all the elderly pay attention to not remarrying if they can. Otherwise, you are very likely to be like me now. Although my The pension plus the pension of my remarried wife is 15,000 yuan every month.
What I wanted to say at that time was how much does your pension have to do with you? Lao Zhang and I remarried three years ago. I remarried Lao Zhang, and I believe that I think the same as many old people. Isn’t it to reduce the burden on children? My child works out of town. It’s not easy to come back. To put it bluntly, I can’t see my children all year round, especially during the past few years of the epidemic. They haven’t come back to celebrate the New Year. They haven’t come back since 2019. We haven’t seen each other for two or three years. Don't touch them anymore.
Although they sometimes make videos for me, or take videos for me to watch, there is a difference between the videos on mobile phones and in real people. They also give me money, and I also have a pension. I am not happy at all. And I fell ill at that time. The epidemic was very serious at that time. They wanted to come back but couldn't. Only then did I realize that relying on children is ultimately unreliable. Although they are my own biological children, I can't do anything with them. Raise him as a pisser. But when you need to rely on them.
You will find that they are unreliable. Faced with such things, I believe many elderly people have experienced it. When they need them most, they are the most helpless. They thought they could rely on them. After all, he devoted everything he had to them, worked hard to raise them, and gave them everything he had. But when you need them most. How many people can be by your side? Most young people are like this, especially now that they have car and house loans.
The mortgage payment is eliminated in one month, and basically all of the child’s salary is paid.In addition to repaying the mortgage, you have to pay back the mortgage. If you own a house, your children will have 30 years of youth, which is how many years of youth you have in a lifetime. When you retire at the age of 60, if you buy a house at the age of 30, you will have to pay it back until the age of 60. Some children You can't afford a house when you're 30, just like my son.
My son bought a house when he was 38 years old. The last time he was 8 years old and the mortgage loan lasted for 30 years, it means that he will not be able to pay off the mortgage until he is over 60 years old. In other words, he has no freedom during this period, except to pay off the mortgage. And as he gets older, you will find that he is under increasing pressure. Now my son is in his 40s. There is no money left, his children are studying, and the mortgage at home is weighing him down.
If it weren't for special reasons, I wouldn't want them to come back. I know that they are in trouble, and I have gradually begun to understand them. Not to mention that my children are like this, basically all young people are like this. I just can't understand why those experts still let children move to big cities desperately. The economic consumption level in big cities is so high, can ordinary people afford it? A meal worth tens of yuan can basically last a whole day in rural areas, let alone buy a house or a car.
Children’s youth is consumed by houses and cars. I gradually began to understand them. Let them live their lives, and I live my own. In order to prevent myself from relying on them, I chose to remarry. This is probably the reason why many elderly people choose to remarry. After all, children are unreliable. If you don't rely on children, you can only rely on your pillow. Why not live together? Isn’t it because I didn’t get the certificate?
It’s even more unreliable if you don’t get the certificate. Now you are living a good life. If one day I don’t want to be with you, or if I say something, I will kick you away. Therefore, many elderly people would rather remarry than live together. I thought so too, so I chose to remarry. Lao Zhang is a leader who came back from a big city. Lao Zhang has a pension of 10,000 yuan a month, and I have 5,000 yuan a month.
I used to cook in a factory. I bought social security for 20 years, and now I only have a pension of 5,000 yuan. Although 5,000 yuan is not much, it is enough. I originally thought that after remarrying, plus Lao Zhang's pension, a total of 15,000 would be a happy life. But I didn’t expect that my remarriage would cause me misery.
I hope that through my personal experience, I can make the elderly pay attention and try not to remarry as much as possible. When I lived alone in the past, I was scared. But it didn’t mean that there was no food to eat, and it didn’t mean that there was no 1.5 yuan to buy water. In the past, when I was alone, I could do whatever I wanted, let alone pay 1.5 yuan. It’s okay to buy a bottle of Moutai worth several thousand yuan and drink it. All of this was ruined for me. After remarrying, I lived very well with Lao Zhang.
But accident or tomorrow, do you know which one comes faster? Accident always comes faster than tomorrow. After remarrying, Lao Zhang had an accident. He drank too much and suffered a stroke and became paralyzed. Then I was always there to take care of her, and I don’t know how I survived the past few years. Moreover, Lao Zhang was hospitalized and stayed in ICU for a long time, earning more than 20,000 yuan a day. At this time, you will find that the so-called 15,000 yuan cannot be spent in the ICU, which is more than 20,000 yuan a day.
also had to take various medications. I stayed in the hospital for about half a month and spent more than 400,000 yuan. After reimbursement, I also spent more than 300,000 yuan. Where can I find so much money? Later, Lao Zhang relapsed. More than 600,000 more were used. After some reimbursement, I still have to pay more than 400,000 yuan. The money behind is money to buy a house. Lao Zhang sold all the houses.
And at this time, my son knew that I had remarried, and they made trouble with me because of this matter. They also heard that something happened in my hometown where I remarried, and they spent so much money. My son told me directly that we did not agree with the matter of remarriage in the first place. It was you who insisted on remarrying. Now something happened, we will not care about it. Also, don’t sell your father’s house. How you feel about yourself is your business.
was in trouble with my son because of this, and almost cut off the relationship. Many young people, many children. I do n’t want my parents to remarry, but parents do n’t need to remarry. They ca n’t control it. Just like my son, they really disagree. I am remarried. I think it can reduce their burden after remarriage. After that, they harmed them. Lao Zhang spent all the money. I owe more than 30,000. The challenging children did not hear. In fact, I knew they did so intentionally. And Lao Zhang also deliberately explained to the child.
pushes me all these so -called obligations. Why don't you leave like this? What I want to say is where I can go if I am going? When I borrowed money for surgery, I also asked my relatives and friends to borrow a lot of money. Those people only know what I don't know Lao Zhang. If I leave, don't those relatives ask me to ask for money? And more importantly, my hometown can't go back now, and the child can't go there. If I leave Lao Zhang here, where should I go? At least I want to pay off the money at least at the at least of
. So when will the more money be paid? The more you think about it, the more you regret it. If I do n’t remarry, will this happen now? I thought it was the most difficult, but I did not expect that Lao Zhang tossed again in the last half of the last half. It cost more than 200,000.
Hospital is really eating people. Qian is really not spent enough in the hospital. No matter how much you have, you will not spend enough money. Just check it there. After thousands of dollars are gone, you will have a surgery. Essence Then tens of thousands of dollars were gone. It took more than 200,000 old Zhang to leave. There were more than 100,000 in these more than 200,000. I borrowed it. Lao Zhang left him, was liberated, but I was full of debt. Guaranteed children regardless of this.
Lao Zhang's house has been sold, and Lao Zhang has nothing. Now that I do n’t even have life, I know that I should n’t be remarried, and you do n’t think that you will not encounter this thing. What I want to say is what you will encounter, many times many things are like this. Unexpectedly, you will never know which one will come faster tomorrow. Although you don't want to let these things happen, once you happen, you can't escape how you can escape?
Do you want to choose to divorce? If the first person is not given, if the second person is divorced, he is uneasy. Just like I encountered such a thing, I didn't expect that I would return here myself. I owe so much money, I don’t know when I still have more than 400,000, at least when I pay back the money, I can leave the world. Otherwise, it will affect my child. The more I want to exercise, live more, work more to make money, otherwise it will kill my child.
, the more regrets, the more I should not be married. Now I can't even be reluctant to even 1.5 yuan. There is no 1.5 yuan. I was wrong, and I should not be remarried. If I do not remarry, my life is beautiful now. After three years, I hurt me miserably. Do you want to do this too? Don't remarry if you don't want.
Conclusion:
has known so why? I hope that all the elderly people can pay attention through this case. 99%of the elderly remarried are not good, and how many elderly people in real life care for happiness. I think there is very little, although there are but few, don't think that you are the exception, there will be no exception in this world.
If you haven't tried it, it is likely that the tragedy in the article will appear. Whoever has died in life has been dead since ancient times, it is difficult to avoid. Once you remarry, then you will be tied with these big issues. Can you ignore it at that time? If it is not handled well, it is likely that this kind of thing is troublesome to the child. It was originally a matter of others, but now it is troublesome to trouble your child. Bar.
It's quite good to live alone. One person has enough to eat and the whole family is not hungry. More importantly, he will not trouble the older children because of such things and will not affect the children. Do you want to harm your children? Forget it, let's live alone. What's wrong with living alone? If one person is full, the whole family won't be hungry. When the time comes, if you really need anything, your children will take care of you and come back to be responsible for you.
