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. Apart from parents, brothers and sisters are the closest people to us in this world. Not only do we have brotherhood, we are also close relatives of flesh and blood, and we are also partners who grew up together in childhood.
When I was a child, our relationship was very simple. Brothers and sisters had little quarrels. Even if there were conflicts, they could change things after a sleep. But as everyone grew up, especially after they established their own families, the relationship changed subtly.
The simple beauty of childhood cannot last forever. After people reach middle age, they have to face many tests in life. No matter how good the relationship is, don't treat brothers and sisters as family members. The reason is very practical.
Only by understanding the following three reasons can the relationship between each other be better maintained.
1: With their own families, the focus of life has changed.
When brothers and sisters grow up, they run their own families and have different life concepts. At this time, if they get too close to each other, they will compare. Comparison will cause psychological imbalance. After all, in this world, only your parents will not compare with you and are truly happy that you are doing well.
In the TV series "心在", Gu Lei and Gu Qingyu are twins. Although they have the same mother, they are very different when they grow up. In terms of personality and ability, the elder sister Gu Qingyu is much better than the younger brother.
Gu Qingyu is a corporate executive who lives in a mansion and drives a luxury car, but his younger brother Gu Lei does not seek to make progress. The family can only live an ordinary life of ordinary citizens, struggling to make ends meet.
When Gu Qingyu celebrated his birthday, Gu Lei asked his sister to borrow money to buy a house. Due to some reasons, her sister did not agree. In the end, family conflicts led to the unexpected death of his younger brother Gu Lei, and the supposedly happy family was shattered.
Such a tragedy could have been avoided.
If Gu Lei hadn't been confused, he had to morally kidnap sister, thinking that it was natural for her sister to help him, how could such a thing happen? It was reasonable for his sister to refuse, but he had already crossed the line by making such a request.
Only by keeping a distance between brothers and sisters can we maintain the relationship between each other and prevent us from losing the most important person around us because we don't know how to grasp the key points.
2: If you don’t know how to keep a distance, conflicts and disagreements are often more likely to occur
Getting too close between people is a disaster in itself. You never know how much trouble your lack of sense of proportion will bring to others. and psychological burden, and I don’t know how much hidden danger it will cause for myself.
Many times, the speaker has no intention of listening, and brothers and sisters get too close and talk about many topics without restraint. However, some of these topics can make people worry.
Even if you don’t have any malicious intentions, if the other party hears it, they will feel grudges against you.
Even if we just talk about some trivial family matters, verbal disputes will happen from time to time. Sometimes you simply express your current situation, but the other person feels that you are deliberately showing off. This is caused by differences in cognition. As a result, misunderstandings arise between you, which will naturally affect your relationship.
Only by keeping the right distance between brothers and sisters can we ensure mutual respect.
Three: In the face of interests, human nature may not stand the test. Even the closest relatives
brothers and sisters were a family before they got married. After getting married, although their parents are still alive, they have become relatives in a substantial sense.
Since they have become relatives, it is impossible not to feel a sense of distance, and it is even less possible for them to do things that harm their own families in order to comply with the unilateral interests of their brothers and sisters.
Brothers and sisters will always put the interests of their respective families first. This is human nature and there is nothing to blame.
Therefore, when we get along, we must know how to put ourselves in their shoes. With this in mind, we should not easily interfere with their family affairs. The more we interfere, the easier it will be to get into trouble and the more rigid the relationship between them will be.
As long as one person fails to take care of it, or if one thing is not done properly, the primitive accumulation of brothers and sisters, and the weak growth of family ties, will suffer varying degrees of trauma.
When interacting with brothers and sisters, you must master the heat and control the standards, so that the family relationship will not change. If you get too close, family affection is not affection, but excessive.
In short, the most important thing in interactions between people is to respect each other, care less, be more tolerant, and keep a certain distance between brothers and sisters.
When you reach middle age, no matter how good your relationship is, don’t treat your brothers and sisters as family members. This way, everyone can live in harmony in the long term, neither being indifferent or distant, nor hurting each other by being too close.
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As long as one person fails to take care of it, or if one thing is not done properly, the primitive accumulation of brothers and sisters, and the weak growth of family ties, will suffer varying degrees of trauma.
When interacting with brothers and sisters, you must master the heat and control the standards, so that the family relationship will not change. If you get too close, family affection is not affection, but excessive.
In short, the most important thing in interactions between people is to respect each other, care less, be more tolerant, and keep a certain distance between brothers and sisters.
When you reach middle age, no matter how good your relationship is, don’t treat your brothers and sisters as family members. This way, everyone can live in harmony in the long term, neither being indifferent or distant, nor hurting each other by being too close.
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