Zhuang Die Xiaomeng/Seeing the Essence through Stories
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According to data from the Civil Affairs Bureau, 48.2% of people over the age of 30 will get married in 2021, an increase from the previous year. 1.7 percentage points.
From this we can see that contemporary young people are increasingly keen on delaying marriage and childbearing.
Some people say that young people should start a family early to avoid missing the best reproductive period; others say that young people in modern times should start a career first and then start a family, so that the family will be more stable and the quality of life will be higher.
As for who is more reasonable, it depends on the specific situation. After all, everyone's life experience is different.
For those who marry early, getting married early is the right way; for those who marry late and have children, their life order is correct.
As late marriage and late childbearing become more and more common, left-over men and left-over women are no longer an anomaly in people’s eyes, and people do not think that being left alone is a symbol of failure. On the contrary, many people who marry late and have children later are the best among their peers.
Most people who marry late and have children later are excellent.
Except for a small number of people who have poor conditions in all aspects and have no choice but to delay marriage until their thirties, the vast majority of people who marry late and have children are excellent. , which is also the main reason why they did not enter the marriage hall until they were over 30 years old.
1. Higher education
The so-called higher education refers to a bachelor's degree or above. Under normal circumstances, a bachelor's degree graduate is at least 22 years old. If there are some accidents during the study, or there has been the experience of repeating studies, the age will be higher than 22 age.
A person will be in his twenties when he finishes studying. After working hard for a few more years, he will be close to 30. After falling in love and getting married, he will usually be over 30.
If young people have further academic achievements, it will be more normal for them to marry later and have children later. After all, it is 25 years old to graduate from a master's degree and 28 years old to graduate a doctorate.
This is assuming that everything goes well. If there are twists and turns in the process, the graduation age will be pushed back, and the marriage age will naturally be pushed back.
2. Have a good job and career
Under normal circumstances, when a person reaches the age of 25, he will make a short-term plan for his life, such as getting married and having children, or continuing to further his studies in career, and all of this depends on based on the current specific situation.
For those who gave up their studies in their teens and then worked in factories, the age of 25 has reached the age where they will marry later and have children later. They will seize the opportunity to get married to avoid being unable to get married later.
For those who have graduated with a bachelor's degree or a master's degree, they have just stepped out of school. The most important thing right now is by no means getting married, but stabilizing their career.
In the next few years, they will focus on their work. Only after their jobs are stable and have a good start, will they consider marriage.
It can be seen from this that the vast majority of people who marry late and have children have good jobs and careers, which they have worked hard to achieve with their time and energy in their 20s.
They chose the latter between starting a family first and then starting a career, or first starting a career and then starting a family.
3. Solid material foundation
According to surveys, couples who get married after the age of 30 usually have good financial conditions. Some women even buy their own houses. In this way, the couple has two properties. The combination of
is undoubtedly a strong alliance, which is equivalent to saving each other decades of struggle.
Their careers have been stabilized and their material foundation has been accumulated to a certain extent. Life after marriage will seem easier.
They are not as busy as young people, worrying about daily necessities of food, rice, oil and salt. Thinking about it this way, this is also an advantage.
Late marriage and late childbearing are the inevitable results of social development
In the past, people felt very uncomfortable when they saw late marriage and late childbearing. People gave them some derogatory code names, such as leftover men and leftover women.
In everyone's mind, they seem to be social outliers and losers. In fact, this idea itself is extremely extreme.
In the future, late marriage and late childbearing will become the norm, because all these are inevitable trends in social development and progress.
1. The more highly educated people are, the more people will marry and have children later.
In the past, young people did not pay attention to education. Many children who had not gone to college began to talk about marriage in their teens. 25 years old.
Times are different now. Parents attach great importance to education, and most young people have received higher education.
The number of highly educated people is generally increasing, and there are more and more young people in their twenties who are still studying. Correspondingly, the number of people who marry later and have children later will also increase.
This is a series of chain reactions, with cause and effect, everything seems so logical.
2. Young people have broken away from the ultimate goal of "carrying on the family line" and have more pursuits in life.
In the past, people did not have much pursuit of life because they read less. In their consciousness, passing on the family line is the ultimate goal.
As long as they get married and have children, they feel that their mission in this life is completed.
Today’s young people have a deeper pursuit of life. They yearn for marriage, career and dreams.
In this way, marriage is only a part of life, but by no means the whole. On this basis, they will use their own plans to complete the steps in life.
Late marriage and late childbearing are never a bad thing. On the contrary, through this phenomenon, we can be sure that the motherland is developing better and better, and people's overall quality and overall cultural accomplishment are also getting higher and higher.
This in itself is a good thing!
Zhuang Diexiaomeng/original author of the emotional column
May your life be full of surprises, may your happiness come as expected
