What kind of love is behind Lin Daiyu's tears and jealousy?

Most girls have a Lin Daiyu complex, sad, sad, self-pity, sensitive and sad. However, when I got older, I thought I had gone through the vicissitudes of life and saw through the world, so I abandoned my childhood feelings and commented on Xue Baochai and Jia Tanchun. There are many people who like Wang Xifeng or even treat Keqing as idols. If an adult claims to like Daiyu, he will get a kind of ridicule.

However, it is true that I started to like Daiyu again after getting married. When he was a teenager, he pretended to be high-minded, thinking that only Miaoyu could be a confidant, but Daiyu was too narrow-minded, too many tears, too much jealousy, and worried about herself. It is not until adulthood that I know how difficult it is to love someone wholeheartedly.

Daiyu’s love is pure and thorough. She fell in love with Baoyu the first time she saw him. She never thought about doubting it. There is not a minute in life. swing. Unlike Baochai, he only retreated after failing to enter the palace and chose to be Jia's wife.

For Daiyu, love is love. He loves this person, not his background or future. Therefore, he has never asked Baoyu or exhorted him. As long as he is him, she hopes to stay with him forever and love each other. What she thinks is "You only care about you, hello, I am selfish, if you lose me, I lose myself", and the setting of life is always based on Baoyu.

Daiyu’s love is so clear and clear, so noble and inexplicably noble, Cao Xueqin only set up a marriage in a previous life: Li Heng Tian Ling river bank Sanshengshi on the banks of the purple grass, so cute and lovely, see by the Shenying waiter It is irrigated with dew every day to make it change into human form and cultivate into a female body. That grass title was not reported, so I made a ambition: If he is a human being, I will walk with him, and return the tears of my life to him, and it will be passed-as if only such a reason can be explained. How can there be such absolute love in the world.

Cao Xueqin found the reason for Lin Daiyu's tears, but could not find the destination. She wrote: "With tears in my eyes and tears hanging in the sky, who is it more to be left alone?" She can't make the decision for her love.

She is alone in her grandmother's knees to seek support. She has no parental compassion and no brothers support. If Baoyu fails her love, she will be poor and have nothing, so how can she not be angry and worry , Not suspicious?

The most concentrated expression of suspicion is that the sad Baoyu "forgets her sister when she sees her sister", so she always ridicule Baochai and observes her words. However, once Baochai sent the bird’s nest to "Hengwu Junlan language to solve the suspicion", and after saying a lot of confidant words, she immediately regarded Baochai as a sister, and became a confidant with her heart, and no longer wanted to be with her. She competed. She recognized Aunt Xue as a mother, and called her sister directly to Baoqin. Even when Xiren was serving tea, Baochai took a sip before handing it to her, and she took it without care - so implicitly and calmly. A feeling of respect and love.

When I first saw that time, I only felt good, that the two girls were intimate. When I look at it when I grow up, I feel shocked-Xiren only has a cup of tea in his hand, and there is only one Jia Baoyu in the world. Xiren said, "The one who is thirsty will pick it up first, and I will go down." Baochai took a sip first, but handed the remaining half of the cup into Daiyu's hand. Even the assailant felt wrong, and knew that Daiyu was pure and clean, so he said, "I'll go down again." However, Daiyu drank calmly and put the cup down.

I don't dare to think deeply about this picture, the more I think about it, the more it hurts. Tea, the emphasis on Chinese etiquette is too rich. One giving and one delivery, one respect and one drink have many meanings. From serving tea to guests and pouring tea to apologize, tea is an important prop. In "Dream of Red Mansions", I care about the tea ceremony and the tea ceremony very much. Wang Xifeng joked Daiyu: "After you have eaten my tea, why don't you give it to our family as a daughter-in-law?" Order". When the bride enters the door, a cup of tea from the wife cannot be saved; if the concubine is accepted in the house, the concubine must first offer tea to the main room; the half cup of tea that Baochai has drunk is almost equivalent to the topic given, and Daiyu even gave it Accepted-in a sense, this can almost be understood as Daiyu's willingness to share with Baochai and work together, just as He Yufeng in the "Biography of the Heroes" admitted Zhang Jinfeng.

Thinking of this layer, I can’t help but make people startle. It’s a pity that the continuation of the last forty chapters is missing. Otherwise, I believe that the emotional exchanges between Bao, Dai and Chai must have a richer level, not just a triangle.The dispute is so simple. Gao E simplified the emotional level of Daiyu, and wrote back to the original young daughter's character. He fixed Daiyu's image in a jealous tone, which is actually not accurate. In the first 80 episodes, Baochai and Daiyu both struggled and compromised, and the people around them were also looking for a way to perfect them. The so-called "all corners" mentioned by Aunt Xue.

People who love Daiyu must not accept my conjecture, and I don’t believe that Daiyu will eventually share love with others. Her ending is doomed to tears and death, but before the tears ran out, she thought about making things happen, right? Otherwise, it would be impossible to explain why she suddenly stopped pursuing the rumors of "golden jade marriage".

To love someone, to love to the extreme, is no anger, no resentment, no regrets, or even jealousy, but wholeheartedly thinking about him, thinking of him well, thinking of him happy, and wanting him to live easily.

Lin Daiyu, she shed tears not only because of being jealous and sad, but also because of this process of concession and thinking. When it comes to love, she is actually quite forbearing and determined. She wants nothing but love.

How many people can achieve such determination and generosity? Especially in the present world where love is lost, Daiyu's dedication is extremely valuable. (文西岭雪)