We often feel empty inside and don’t want to be alone. In order to avoid loneliness, we force ourselves to socialize and get to know many people, but the results are often the opposite. We live in ineffective social circles and circles, and we are not comfortable at all.
Actually, being alone is not terrible. Give it a try and slowly you will fall in love with it.
1. When you are alone, you can be yourself.
I used to be afraid of being alone. I read, ate, and lived alone. I always felt abandoned by the world. After my husband went to work in other provinces, after a period of discomfort, I slowly fell in love with being alone.
Many evenings and weekends, without the interruption of my husband, I have more personal time. I picked up the book again and read the books I bought that had been piled up in the cabinet and read them all. I read them all before I knew it. I also resumed writing a novel that had been discontinued for a long time. I wrote thousands of words a day, slowly. Slowly I realized that I had finished writing the novel. This was a state that I had not dared to imagine before. Being alone gave me the opportunity to be myself again.
Being alone gives us more time to think about ourselves. During this time, we can find what we like to do and have our own highlight moments.
2. Being alone can help you calm down.
My best friend fell out of love some time ago and was very depressed. She said that when she is alone, she will inevitably fall into painful memories and be unable to extricate herself.
Later, she found a way to vent her anger, which was to get up an hour early every day and go for a run. Originally it was just to stop myself from thinking about things, but it slowly turned into a habit.
She said that when a person runs, she will find that the whole world is quiet, the noise around her disappears, and there is only the sound of her own breathing. Seeing her small self in the huge world, she suddenly realized that life was beautiful and there was no need to cry all night or give up on herself for someone.
During the time alone, she gradually calmed down and had more time to reflect and plan herself. A few months later, her best friend was promoted and received a salary increase, which made people look at her with admiration.
3. Being alone can calm yourself
In the final analysis, life is just a process of knowing yourself and reshaping yourself.
The famous writer Sanmao wrote in the book "The Story of the Sahara" that when her lover Jose was not at home, she enjoyed the time alone.
When she is alone, she can read, write, and do many different things. For example, you can pick up tires discarded by others, wash them and turn them into cushions, or pick up soda bottles that others don't want and turn them into beautiful works of art.
Being alone did not make Sanmao feel lonely. On the contrary, it allowed her to find more fun and live a colorful life.
Lao Yang's Owl pointed out in the book "Nothing Easy in the Adult World" that the benefits of being alone are very obvious: you don't have to lose yourself by accommodating yourself, and you don't have to offend others by insisting on yourself.
You see, being alone can actually be cool, right? In fact, being alone is not terrible. Being alone is the smartest enjoyment and the best period of precipitation.
I wish the world will continue to be lively, and I wish you will still be you. (Owl from Lao Yang)
I am Gu Yan Xiaoxi, focusing on reading sharing, self-growth and planting good books. Thank you for your attention. You and I will grow together and run towards a better self.
