Being widowed in middle age or old age is a very painful thing, because the elderly often suffer from physical aches and pains, have difficulty moving, or feel lonely. If you have a partner at this time, it is good even if your partner hands you a glass of water. When you are bored, , it’s also good to chat with yourself.
Many people will make this choice. If you are looking for a wife, then you must find a gentle man with noble character, because such a man can always be by your side, and money and appearance are no longer important, because when a person reaches old age, When your appearance fades, it is impossible to use your appearance to attract a partner. What the elderly are looking for must be based on companionship, not love.
Loving only one person in a lifetime is the happiest thing, because if love is dispersed, then love will be devalued. This should be understood by everyone. But human nature is very complex. Most men want to be emperors, and most women find it difficult to belong to one man in their lives. There are many divorcees. This is because marriage is a strange thing. Marriage may be the grave of love. As time goes by, the two couples will always have conflicts and eventually separate.
When people get close to each other, they will always stab each other. This is understandable, so the divorce rate remains high.
The second marriage is actually more painful than the first marriage, because the second marriage involves children, free nannies, property, etc. Anyway, compared to the first marriage, the second marriage is more difficult to maintain because it is not the first marriage.
At this time, how to manage "women's happiness at night" is an important topic of the times.
So, as for how a woman living alone should spend the rest of her life, 75-year-old Aunt Gao said frankly: "Instead of remarrying and finding a wife, it is better to find a live-in male nanny. This way, life will be happier."
Why Aunt Gao said this Well, let's look down together.
75-year-old Aunt Gao said:
My name is Gao Xue, I am 75 years old, and I am from Heyuan City . I have been retired for many years. When I first retired, my pension was only more than 1,000 yuan. Now it is nearly 5,000 yuan. Plus some savings, I live a quite leisurely life in my hometown. I usually don’t have to do anything to make a living. Fish and meat.
My wife and I only have one son. Now this son is also successful in his career. He works in a big company with a monthly salary of 10,000. He married a fair and beautiful woman and gave birth to a fair and fat little boy, so my wife can also do it. Rest in peace and I am very satisfied.
My wife died of a smoking addiction. I told him long ago that smoking is harmful to health, but he didn't listen. I don't understand why smoking smells so bad.
When he passed away, I had just retired. At that time, I was pampered, so I didn’t have gray hair yet and I didn’t look very old. Many people introduced me to partners, but I declined them all. I usually hang out with my friends, who have a large group of male friends. Many of those male friends have a crush on me, but I have never thought of remarrying.
Many people say that I am stupid and why don’t I find a wife and live alone. It’s so boring. I don’t know what I think. I don’t want to find a man with such good conditions to enjoy the rest of my life.
And my friend asked me why I don’t live with my son so that my son can support me in my old age.
Actually, I know that discord between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is a phenomenon that occurs in many families. After my son gave birth to his grandson, I went there for a year, but in just one year, I felt that my daughter-in-law was at odds with me. I was afraid If things go on like this, things will get worse and worse, so instead of staying in the big city, I returned to my hometown.
Although I have a low status and am not a member of the upper class, I still have my dignity and pride. I have heard many old people say that most women who get married for the second time work as nannies for other people, because the real enjoyment only lasts a few months. time.
This is what I thought at first. It’s not easy for a woman. She has to serve her husband, give birth to children, and be a nanny all her life. The first marriage is already so difficult. The second marriage is obviously even more difficult than the first marriage. And these days, well It’s hard to find a man, so you might as well be single and enjoy your life alone.
In the first few years after I retired, I really enjoyed living alone, but as time went by, problems gradually began to arise. I live on the fourth floor, and I have to climb up every time. There is no elevator. I often get out of breath when I go upstairs. Once I broke my leg, and someone took me to the hospital. I was envious when I saw other people in the hospital having their wives taking care of me. Then my son was very busy with his career and I couldn't let him take care of me, so I found a nurse to take care of me.
After the injury healed, I was too lazy to walk. I often stayed at home alone, too lazy to cook, and unwilling to go to the vegetable market. Instead, I ate fast food every day. But fast food has also heard that gutter oil is unhygienic, so I often feel troubled. Then every time I need to throw away my trash, I ask the delivery boy to throw it away for me.
As I get older, the burden on my body becomes heavier and heavier. I feel like I am carrying a mountain on my back when I walk, and it is difficult to get up. I really want to find a wife to live with, so that I can take care of him more easily.
So, when I got better later, I went to dating agency , and found a man named Zhu. Mr. Zhu was three years younger than me. He was quite handsome and had a pension of 5,000 yuan. Follow me Very right.
We were in love. We lived happily alone for the first two months. Later, Xiao Zhu let me live at his place, saying that it would be easier to take care of me and that it would be better to be alone.
Xiao Zhu looks very young, handsome, and tall, so since I got him, I feel indescribably happy.
But I didn’t expect that after living together for only half a year, our shortcomings were exposed. He complained that I spent his pension. He said: “When I was alone, I couldn’t even spend all my pension. With you, After we got together, my pension was not enough, so I decided to make it AA."
When I heard him say this, I was afraid that he would have a problem with me if I objected, so I agreed.
But later on, I felt chilled by him, because our living expenses were on an AA basis, but I didn’t expect that he would even argue with me about a few dollars. Not to mention, he didn’t even do any housework.
When I raised my opinion with him, he was not only inconsiderate of me, but also scolded me. I was completely irritated by him. Living together in the same bed and having skin-to-skin contact became a shame. After we settled the accounts, we divorced. .
After we got divorced, my son called me over and said that he and his daughter-in-law could take care of me and provide for me in my old age, but I said no. I was afraid that when I couldn’t take care of myself, my daughter-in-law would complain a lot, and my son would be caught in the middle. It may be difficult to do.
So I asked my son to give me 2,000 a month, plus my pension, which was enough for me to hire a nanny for my retirement.
I originally hired a female nanny, but I didn’t expect that the female nanny said that I was heavy and heavy, and I was sweating even when holding me, and told me that it would be better not to go out in the future. She also said that I was sick and it would be troublesome to take care of me, so I fired her. The first female nanny. Later, I hired a second female nanny, and she was a live-in nanny. Unexpectedly, the live-in nanny also suggested to me that she needed to increase her salary to 8,000 before she could serve me.
I have been hesitant to do this. If I squander my money like this, I am afraid that I will not be able to last for a few years, so I looked online and finally found a male nanny named Xiao Chen who said that 5,000 yuan would be enough.
I saw the photo of this male nanny. He was tall and handsome, so I invited him back home.
Xiao Chen is a somewhat careless man. Maybe because he has just become a nanny and is not skilled enough, he dare not increase the price, but I don't care at all.
His food was home-cooked. Although the heat was not very good, at least it was clean. He tried his best.
Although he is tall and tall, he speaks very politely. He helps me watch the sunset every day and go for a walk in the park in the morning. It is easy for him and he does not find it difficult at all.
He is a man with a good mentality and good health. When I sent him 5,000 yuan, he was very grateful to me.There are some familiar friends in the
area. They tried their best to tell me the benefits of second and third marriages. I don’t know where their happiness lies. They just like to brag. Their happiness is all pretended, because they don’t talk about real happiness. Come out and others can feel it.
It is indeed much happier to have a nanny than to find a wife. In the former, someone else takes care of me, in the latter, I take care of others. Which one is more enjoyable, do I have to say?
Do you feel more comfortable finding a nanny in your later years, or do you feel happier finding a wife? Welcome to leave a message and comment.
