Teacher, now I really don’t understand the relationship between the two of them. If I say it’s cheating, the two of them haven’t done anything. If it’s not cheating, I’ve never seen any man pay money to have sex with a woman. To be friends. The above conversation comes from the c

Teacher, now I really don’t understand the relationship between the two of them. If I say it’s cheating, the two of them haven’t done anything. If it’s not cheating, I’ve never seen any man pay money to have sex with a woman. of being friends.

The above conversation comes from the chat records between me and my client, Ms. Meng. It turns out that Ms. Meng encountered a special extramarital affair.

is so special that even Ms. Meng and the cheating man don’t know about it. Does the current situation count as cheating? What's even more outrageous is that, according to Ms. Meng, the three of them had a confrontation a while ago.

The mistress scolded the man in front of Ms. Meng. She thought that the man would go home obediently. Unexpectedly, less than half a month later, the man went to warm her face and kiss her cold butt again.

Now Ms. Meng just hopes that the man can go home and live a good life.

Ms. Meng’s husband works as a renter, and he can earn five to six thousand a month with a little effort in a second-tier city. Ms. Meng also has a job, and her son is studying in college outside. Originally, she had nothing to worry about.

But there was a time when she discovered that her husband’s mobile phone was as if it had grown on her body. She even took it into the bathroom when taking a shower. There must be something fishy about such a careless creature suddenly being so obsessed with mobile phones.

Sure enough, Ms. Meng found the ambiguous chat content between the man and another strange woman on her mobile phone. However, when she questioned the man, the man said that he was just a friend. Life has been difficult recently and he just wanted to help.

Ms. Meng told the man that after she got the money back, she must block the woman. One day, Ms. Meng and the man went back to her hometown to do business. Because she had put it in her bank card, she asked the man to put the money in the card. Turn it out and use it first.

As a result, the man refused, and then she realized that his card was already empty. Ms. Meng knew that the man had saved at least 70,000 to 80,000 yuan in his card before. How could it suddenly be gone?

Only then did she suddenly remember the woman who had been chatting ambiguously with a man a while ago. This time Ms. Meng couldn't bear it anymore. She found the woman, took the man with her, and they had a three-way confrontation. Before the meeting, Ms. Meng thought that her husband had been cheated. .

After they met, the mistress’s attitude really confused Ms. Meng. The woman said that she just wanted to make friends normally, and if a man couldn’t take care of his wife, he shouldn’t hang out.

As for the previous money, the woman said that it was all paid for by the man voluntarily, and she didn't care about the man asking for it. The two of them spent the money together, so they couldn't pay it back. The man nodded frequently beside her.

After insulting the man, the strange woman walked away, and Ms. Meng was also shocked. However, although the money would not be returned, at least the man would have cut off contact with the woman after being scolded like this and could go home. It’s good to live a down-to-earth life.

Unexpectedly, the man went to see the mistress again not long after. The mistress didn’t want to see him and find it troublesome, so he borrowed 2,000 yuan from his friend and called the mistress.

Now Ms. Meng didn’t know what to do at all, so she found Jiaxin and wanted us to analyze it.

Ms. Meng also said that her husband has a bad waist, and his ability in that area is not very strong, and his need for desire should be very low, so she believes that there is nothing between a man and a mistress.

But he had a vague feeling that the two of them were definitely not legitimate friends. In fact, her worry was correct. This kind of relationship was cheating, and it was just a pattern of emotional cheating.

Mistresses like this are very high-end. They don't have to sell their bodies. They only need to chat and spy on men, and they can make men obediently pay for them.

We call this kind of mistress [professional escort]. Some women are willing to chat because they have talents. Some women even need to pay to learn and undergo training.

These professional mistresses use various platforms to recruit men whose salary is not particularly high, but they have some living money, and the relationship between husband and wife is relatively tense.

Speak first, please them, put every word into the man's heart, make the man feel that this woman understands him better than his wife, and then talk about how hard his life is, asking the man to help, in fact, it is nothing more than paying.

Then treat the man as if you are away from him. After finally experiencing the experience of being cared about, the middle-aged man naturally refuses to give up. Moreover, he has already paid so much money before. Men always want to win back everything they lose, so they will pay more. Money, this is [Gambler’s Psychology].

This was the case with the mistress that Ms. Meng’s husband met. At first, she helped the man share the pressure, invited him to dinner, and took the man to meet his parents. Later, he began to stay close and distant. The man wanted to make the mistress treat him better, so he took the initiative After spending more money, the mistress has now asked multiple men to spend money together to buy a building in this second-tier city.

So the current state of men is not so much cheating as addiction. In fact, men know the true face of the mistress better than anyone else. Men even know how many men are behind the mistress?

But they just can’t control themselves, so Ms. Meng must first control the man’s finances and help the man escape from the addictive state. The best way is the [energy transfer method].

Ms. Meng’s husband especially likes fishing, but due to the economic situation, it is difficult to buy a particularly good boom. A while ago, the man wanted to buy a boom with a camera that costs more than 10,000 yuan, but Ms. Meng has always disagreed.

But now Ms. Meng has thought about it. If she continues like this, even if she saves money, she won’t be able to spend it on herself, so she took the initiative to buy the boom for the man. When the man saw that his hobby was supported, he was very happy and felt that his wife Know yourself very well.

took his wife with him every weekend after that, and made appointments with fishing friends to go fishing. As the mistress’s money became less and less, her words naturally became more and more unpleasant. Gradually, the man’s need for the mistress became less and less. , and began to be able to think rationally.

What Ms. Meng did most right was that she did not vent all her grievances on the men. Instead, she felt that the men in her family had encountered problems and attracted the men to her group.

This made the man feel that he was really cheated. In the end, less than a month later, the man successfully returned and his relationship with Ms. Meng became better and better. He also had to use legal means to get the money back from the mistress. .

After reading this article, I believe that sisters have also realized that it is not physical contact that counts as cheating. Sometimes mental cheating is the real cancer. There are even a group of people who are taking advantage of this weakness of middle-aged men. Making profits has become an industry.

What we can do is learn how to maintain our marriage. When we encounter problems, we will not hit them by mistake, but use experience to solve problems.

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