In fact, the cause of the matter is nothing more than trivial things. I can’t remember why after that. I recalled it carefully, and I remembered that one day after dinner, we were chatting, and I didn’t know how to talk about grains and livestock.
The husband asked his son: "Do you know what grains are? What are livestock?"
"I don't know." The son was at a loss.
"You don't know this? How old are you that you don't even know this? You know how to play all day long. When I was a child..." There are a lot of useless things behind. It's nothing more than another "glorious achievement" of his.
I interrupted him unhappily: "He doesn't know, can't you just tell him? Why are you going so far? Does he know what you just said?"
"I'll get to it right away!"
"Can you tell me the important point? You have to tell him about grains and livestock now. This is not the time to show off your superiority complex!"
"You are so confused, why do I have a superiority complex?"
"You started talking about your childhood again. , you are you, he is him, he doesn’t understand, tell him, don’t beat around the bush with him!”
“Okay, okay, I don’t care!” After saying that, he got into the room.
My son and I were left staring at each other, and my son asked cautiously: "Mom, are you quarreling?"
I quickly hugged my son and said, "No, we were just discussing the problem."
I admit that I have a bad temper. I'm anxious, and my tone is a bit harsh, but I just can't stand his nonsense. Let's talk about the matter and don't talk nonsense! Or you should explain clearly to your son the grains and livestock first, and then talk about other things!
Later I told my son about grains and livestock, and I slept in
my son's room that night. Before going to bed, I was still very angry: OK! If you ignore me, I will ignore you!
We had disagreements before, and they usually wouldn't last more than three days. My husband always bows his head first, and he will take the initiative to hug me and smile playfully at me: "Oh, I'm still angry, anger is so beautiful!" Usually when he says this, I just give up and I don't have any anger left.
I thought my wife was still trying to show her kindness this time, but two days later he went on a business trip and only sent me a WeChat message: I am on a business trip for a week! I replied to him: Be safe! Then there is no contact with each other! It’s not like there was no contact at all. I sent him a WeChat message the night of the business trip: Are you here? He replied: Here we are.
To be honest, I have regretted it since my husband went on a business trip. You shouldn't get into trouble with him, he's not in a good mood when he's out on a business trip. I admit that I have a strong personality. In my husband’s words, I live to save face and suffer! He knows me well, so he usually takes the initiative to give me a step down.
Actually think about it, apart from issues of principle between husband and wife, who is right and who is wrong is not that important. Which couple doesn’t quarrel or get into trouble? The upper and lower lips sometimes bump into each other, let alone two big living people? I decided that this time I would take the initiative to reconcile.
Later, I often sent WeChat messages to my husband in those days: Have you gotten up? Have you got a meal yet? Is it hot? have you slept? Are you tired? Good night! But my husband is lukewarm and will never return my love. He can only ask how his son is doing. He actually took Qiao and returned it! Bravo!
The day my husband came back, I cooked some of his favorite dishes and wanted to give him a surprise. Unexpectedly, he also gave me a surprise! When I got home, I didn't say anything and just threw a box to me. I opened it and saw, wow! A necklace! What a surprise! I was so moved that I kissed him immediately, and my husband started to smile.
It seems that men also need to be coaxed. My husband has coaxed me for so many years, and it is really difficult for him!
In addition to "quarrels at the head of the bed and peace at the end of the bed", there is also "a little separation is better than a newlywed". In the evening, I hugged my husband and apologized to him. I shouldn't have been so rude that day. I also suggested to him that he should educate his son to be more direct, not to beat around the bush, but to be to the point. After all, children don't have so many twists and turns in their minds, and they should be less careful in the future. Arguing in front of children. My husband has no objection. A well-fed man is easy to talk to!
Couples can quarrel, but they cannot have a long-term cold war. In the cold war, refusing to communicate will hurt the relationship between husband and wife, and over time it will turn into cold violence.After a quarrel, both parties can calm down, but they cannot turn into cold violence. This will consume all the sweetness before and leave only resentment.
As it is said in " Paper Marriage ": "Deciding to marry someone only requires a moment of courage; guarding a marriage requires a lifetime of dedication."
After a quarrel, both parties must know how to give in. Only one party A hard-working marriage is really dangerous. After all, everyone has a temper, and there is no reason for anyone to spoil someone all the time. Only when you get positive feedback for every effort you make, can your married life become extremely sweet!
