Introduction:
Everyone hopes that his wife can accompany him for a lifetime, and the two of them grow old together, but in reality this wish is difficult to realize. There is always one person who dies first.
The person left behind feels particularly lonely. As a single old man, without his wife to accompany him, his days are like years. As for men and women who have lost their wives, their thoughts are different.
For many women, when their wives are gone, they don’t want to find one anymore. Men are obviously different. If possible, they will find a wife to accompany them. The 58-year-old Aunt Liu said frankly: She has been with her partner for three years. I finally understand why when a man gets old, he must find a wife whenever possible.
1 Aunt Liu’s self-report:
I am 58 years old this year and have been retired for 8 years. My wife passed away nearly 20 years ago. I raised my children by myself, and now they have a family and a career, and I have become a grandmother.
I can finally put down my burden and feel relaxed. I thought it would be easy to be alone and I would never be so tired again. However, my life alone is not as beautiful as I imagined. I can go out alone, go shopping alone, and go home alone.
I went to square dance every day and chatted with those old sisters. Finally, I was no longer so bored. They all advised me that you are in such good health and you don’t look old. It’s better to find a wife and live together, with someone to accompany you and someone to love you. fine.
I have been single for many years. In fact, I also envy those elderly people. They have their wives to accompany them and have people who care about them. They go out hand in hand every day and look very loving.
Under the persuasion of my sisters, I decided to find a wife. How would I know if I didn’t try? If you meet a man who truly loves you, you will be happy for the rest of your life and will never be so lonely again.
With this idea in mind, I decided to find a man to live with and have some contact with him to see if it was as wonderful as I imagined.
2 My best friend introduced me to a man with good conditions.
My sisters were very interested in my idea. I introduced three or four men, some with better conditions than me, and some with worse conditions than me. Later, I decided to marry him. A man three years older than me, Mr. Shen, was in love.
His conditions are much better than mine. He only has one son who has settled abroad. His son wanted to ask him to go abroad, but he refused. He can't leave his hometown. He used to be a middle school teacher who taught, and his retirement salary was 8,000 a month. More, I only have more than 3,000.
After being in contact with him for a period of time, I felt that he spoke elegantly, was gentle, knew how to take care of me, and was generous in spending money for me. After getting along with him for three months, I decided to live together.
He said to me: His income is better than mine. He covers all living expenses. We both do housework. He doesn’t care how I spend my retirement salary.
I think this man is quite nice. We go for walks and buy groceries together. He has a car and sometimes takes me on trips.
He also pays for the travel expenses. If I wanted to pay, he didn't refuse, because we don't have to worry about finances and we get along much better.
He pays for it, but I think I should do more housework. Anyway, I am in good health. I watch TV food channels, study carefully, cook various delicacies, and make some foods that Lao Shen likes to eat based on his hobbies. Make some specialties from his hometown. He is from the north and likes to eat noodles. I am from the south and likes to eat rice. I will follow him.
If it is Valentine's Day or some other holiday, he will buy me some gifts or give me red envelopes worth hundreds or thousands. I am also very grateful that he treats me sincerely and I feel that I have found the right person.
3 I had a baby I'm sick, I saw him clearly
Originally we didn't have any conflicts. I don't have to spend my salary every month. I save most of it. During the New Year and holidays, when my children come home to see me, I go back to my home and give it to my grandson. I gave him a big red envelope, but he didn't want to come to my house, and I didn't care. I thought my life would continue to be so good, but I got sick and finally saw the truth.
During that period, I suddenly felt uncomfortable. I often had stomachache and felt weak all over. He accompanied me to the hospital for a check-up, and he said that there was a tumor in the uterus and that it needed to be surgically removed.
After he sent me to the hospital, he suddenly told me that he missed his son and wanted to visit him. I said, "I need someone to take care of me. Can you stay and take care of me?"
He didn't want to take care of him, and he didn't want to. Unwilling to pay the hospitalization fee, he said: I spent so much money on you before, didn't you save your own money? Can't you take it out and use it?
He said: "Don't you have a son? Can't you let your son take care of you? You and I are not husband and wife, why should you ask me to take care of you? And I don't know how much this disease will cost, so you still come to me. Go ahead, son. "
It was during my illness that I saw his character clearly. He was afraid that I would drag him down, so he called my son, took my salary card, and paid the hospitalization fee. gone.
At that time, I almost fell into despair. If you have a cat or a dog, you will have feelings. I have been with him for three years and been his free nanny. I have paid so much. But I learned that I was sick and could not be there for him. Once you do something, you will fall out immediately.
This man is unreliable. My son took me to the provincial capital. After examination and treatment by experts, it was found to be benign and removed, and my body returned to health. During
, he never called me or contacted me. I saw through his hypocrisy. Later, he learned that I was fine and came back. He apologized to me and admitted his mistake, and wanted to continue living together with me. I told him to stop dreaming: the truth is revealed in times of adversity, how did you do it?
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When he learned that he could no longer live with him or take care of him, he immediately became vicious and threw me a bill, saying that this was the money we spent during the three years and that he would pay him back immediately. , if you continue to work with him, the account will be written off. If you don't agree, pay him back and he will leave immediately.
I was really mad at the time. I said: I don’t have 5,000 yuan a month to be a nanny, and no one is willing to do it. I can get 180,000 yuan in three years.
When I didn't agree with him, he started talking bad about me everywhere, saying that I was interested in his money, that I was a greedy woman, and that I was a liar. It turned out that he was this kind of man, and I was really blind.
I warned him: If you continue to pester me, I will call the police. A man like you is not worthy of carrying my shoes. He knew that he would never get any benefit from me, so he did not pester me.
I no longer want to find a man. Later I heard that he had found a few more women, but they broke up soon after. I finally figured out why men still have to find women when they get older.
In the name of companionship, he let a woman be his free nanny, serve him, and listen to his orders, so that he could live comfortably. When the woman found out that this was not the case, she broke up with him, and he had to lie to the next one. It is simply impossible for him to fall in love with this woman. As long as there are conditions, he can change women at any time.
After I realize this, I will never look for a man again in this life. What I am looking for is not love or companionship, but trouble. Now, I live alone, live by myself, sing, dance, exercise, and keep fit. Enjoy good food, enjoy a good time, do whatever you want, be more free and unrestrained, I don’t need a man, but men don’t.
Summary:
Men and women have different ideas. If a man loses his wife, most of them want to find another woman. If a woman has her own pension and a house to live in, she doesn't want to look for another woman.
His efforts are not recognized. He just treats women as tools. He has no intention of falling in love with women. It is also very selfish to live together. Women pay more. He thinks that he can buy women if he has money and let women do everything for him. , if a woman has money and a house, she will not be fooled by him at all. Therefore, older women are less willing to find a wife. Men will find a wife whenever possible. This is probably the reason.
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